Who gets to decide what is worthy and what isn‘t? It is human to be vulnerable and to have needs, and it is humane to ask for and receive help.
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Who gets to decide what is worthy and what isn‘t? It is human to be vulnerable and to have needs, and it is humane to ask for and receive help.
If you can‘t take care of yourself, you have too many needs. If you reach out for help, you must be weak. If you are weak, you are worthless. Ugh.
Body Grief is a beautiful mess of a journey. It is cyclical, nonlinear and it can be incredibly lonely and painful.
The kinder we are to our bodies, the more opportunities we give them to rest, heal, and simply be. And the more we do that, the more in tune we become with our bodies and their changes.
Disability is not something to fix—it is just that the world is not equipped for disabled people.
“…..Perceived Body Betrayal stems from the societal message that our productivity, looks and abilities are the primary measure of our worth, when in reality, all bodies of all colors, shapes, sizes, and genders hold equal value, in sickness and in health, and at every life stage.”
Perceived Body Betrayal is the feeling we get anytime our body changes in ways we are not able to control, does not recover fast enough from any setbacks, experiences pain, or is otherwise unable to perform on demand: that it is somehow against us.
Feel it, don‘t fix it.
Feel it, don‘t know it.
Feel it, don‘t explain it.
Feel it, don‘t analyze it.
Feel it, don‘t moralize it.
The thing is, grief in all its forms wants and needs to be felt and expressed. This is what allows us to heal. With each difficult, messy emotion that is brought to the surface, acknowledgement is how we are able to tend to our wounds.
