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Self-Driven Child: The Science and Sense of Giving Your Kids More Control Over Their Lives
Self-Driven Child: The Science and Sense of Giving Your Kids More Control Over Their Lives | Ned Johnson, William Stixrud
"It is not an exaggeration to say that this is one of the most radical and important books on raising healthy, resilient, purpose-driven kids." - Madeline Levine, author of The Price of Privilege "An invaluable resource for the thinking parent." - Lisa Damour, author of Untangled A few years ago, Bill Stixrud and Ned Johnson started noticing the same problem from different angles: Even high-performing kids were coming to them acutely stressed and lacking any real motivation. Many complained that they had no control over their lives. Some stumbled at the first setback or hit college and unraveled. Bill is a clinical neuropsychologist who helps kids gripped by anxiety or struggling to learn. Ned is a motivational coach who runs an elite tutoring service. Together they discovered that the best antidote to stress is to give kids more of a sense of control over their lives. But this doesn't mean giving up your authority as a parent. In this groundbreaking book they reveal how you can actively help your child to sculpt a brain that is resilient, stress-proof and ready to take on new challenges. The Self-Driven Child offers a combination of cutting-edge brain science, the latest discoveries in behavioral therapy, and case studies drawn from the thousands of kids and teens Bill and Ned have helped over the years to teach you how to set your child on the real road to success. As parents, we can only drive our kids so far. At some point, they will have to take the wheel and map out their own path. But there is a lot you can do before then to help them tackle the road ahead with courage and imagination, and make the most of the detours along the way.
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KaraDunn
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I‘m not usually a fan of parenting books, but this one is great!

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Peaceful_Reader
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This is an excellent book about life, our brains, and the decisions we make. I wish I‘d had this book ten years ago. #choices #gapyear #families #becalm

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BooksForEmpathy
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I am super into this meal lately AND this book. Teaching children how to take control of their own lives is getting harder + harder b/c of parental over-involvement and this competitive culture we live in. I see so much anxiety in students these days, coming from this sense of not knowing how to handle their lives or make decisions for themselves. I am loving this book that encourages parents to give their children some freedom, even if they fail!

SuseB @BooksForEmpathy As a teacher I see the same things. My students are middle-schoolers, and by that age they seem to have this "learned helplessness" that I have to try to unteach. They have so much ability, but self-motivation is integral to them fully developing it. 7y
Jaimelire Also as a teacher, I agree with everything you wrote. 100%. 7y
peacegypsy Thanks—I appreciate counseling-related book recommendations. Have you read The Collapse of Parenting? It was very good, and it sounds like both books touch on this problem. 7y
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Tamra This one caught my eye, but haven‘t gotten it yet. Anxious to hear your thoughts. 7y
WriterReaderTrainer Interesting title. I am a parent educator and of course, most parents would desire a self driven child. I'll add it to my stack. 7y
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Well-ReadNeck
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Overall, I enjoyed this book and found some great nuggets of wisdom to apply immediately. I thought the idea of working toward being a consultant for rather than manager of your child was a nice metaphor. Other sections were less insightful. And, the final chapter and data about the American college experience was downright depressing. #netgalley

Tamra I‘m on the fence with purchasing, do you think it‘s worth it or is it more common sense? 7y
Well-ReadNeck I have found that books relating to specific developmental ages of a child more practically helpful 7y
Well-ReadNeck @Tamra ooooops. Meant to tag you in my earlier comment! 7y
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Tamra @Well-ReadNeck thanks! Do you have any favorites to recommend? Mine are 7 & 10. 7y
Well-ReadNeck @Tamra TBH, I can‘t remember off the top of my head. Mine is 17, so I‘m a couple of sets of books ahead of you. 🤣 7y
Tamra @Well-ReadNeck 😂 Well, if you have survived......there is hope for me. 7y
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