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So much food for thought...

"Love is a decision, it is a judgment, it is a promise. If love were only a feeling, there would be no basis for the promise to love each other forever. A feeling comes and it may go. How can I judge that it will stay forever, when my act does not involve judgment and decision."

"Love is the active concern for the life and the growth of that which we love. Where this active concern is lacking, there is no love."

Paradoxically, the ability to be alone is the condition for the ability to love

Love is not primarily a relationship to a specific person; it is an attitude, an orientation of character which determines the relatedness of a person to the world as a whole, not toward one “object� of love. If a person loves only one other person and is indifferent to the rest of his fellow men, his love is not love but a symbiotic attachment, or an enlarged egotism

Well, Fromm is a philosopher - so to make his point he derives from aristotle to the bible and from spinoza to freud. I could have done without that part but surely appreciated some of his perspectives on the decline of love in the western world.

“Love, experienced thus, is a constant challenge; it is not a resting place, but a moving, growing, working together; even whether there is harmony or conflict, joy or sadness, is secondary to the fundamental fact that two people experience themselves from the essence of their existence.� #classicread

#QuotsyApr20 @TK-421
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Immature love says: "I love you because I need you." Mature love says: "I need you because I love you."

Eppure, all'inizio, essi non lo sanno; scambiano l'intensità dell'infatuazione, il folle amore che li lega, per la prova dell'intensità del loro sentimento, mentre potrebbe solo provare l'intensità della loro solitudine.

Fromm is the psychoanalyst and the basic question of all his works is "to have or to be".

#photoadaynov16 #inspiring

Maybe I'll finally get some answers.