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Concerning My Daughter
Concerning My Daughter | Kim Hye-jin
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The Prize-Winning International Bestseller 'I can't help but be moved by a story about women meeting, fighting, helping each other, looking after one another, and raising their voices against the prejudice and criticism they are subject to.' Cho Nam-joo, author of Kim Jiyoung, Born 1982 When a mother allows her thirty-something daughter to move into her apartment, she wants for her what many mothers might say they want for their child: a steady income, and, even better, a good husband with a good job with whom to start a family. But when Green turns up with her girlfriend, Lane, in tow, her mother is unprepared and unwilling to welcome Lane into her home. In fact, she can barely bring herself to be civil. Having centred her life on her husband and child, her daughters definition of family is not one she can accept. Her daughters involvement in a case of unfair dismissal involving gay colleagues from the university where she works is similarly strange to her. And yet when the care home where she works insists that she lower her standard of care for an elderly dementia patient who has no family, who travelled the world as a successful diplomat, who chose not to have children, Greens mother cannot accept it. Why should not having chosen a traditional life mean that your life is worth nothing at all? In Concerning My Daughter, translated from Korean by Jamie Chang, Kim Hye-jin lays bare our most universal fears on ageing, death, and isolation, to offer finally a paean to love in all its forms.
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Shievad
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This Korean novella explores LGBTQ issues in modern day Korea through the POV of a woman in her 60s whose 30something daughter is in a lesbian relationship. The MC works as a caregiver in a SNF; the story also explores topics themes of aging and end of life care as well as discrimination and domestic violence.

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CaseyTheCanadianLesbrarian
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An interesting sparse novel, told from an unlikely perspective about contemporary queer lives in Korea and investigativing issues like ageism, elder care, and how the heteropatriarchay and capitalism fail to fulfill their promises to women. A 70-year-old mother is forced to reckon with the fact that her 30something daughter is a lesbian when she and her partner move in with her. The restrained depiction of the mother never makes her a villain.

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Sophronisba
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“The server brings over two bowls of hot udon. I look at my daughter as she grabs chopsticks and spoons from the box of utensils. She looks tired, or thinner, or older.“

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Floresj
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Parts I liked, parts I had a hard time following which caused the lower rating. Really interesting generational story of a widow coming to terms with her daughter and her partner and taking care of a dementia patient. Fluid story telling that allows the reader to live in the main character‘s mind.

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charl08

Everything that has nothing to do with her is all 'the way of the world' that she can put away in some place where she doesn't have to see it... She's probably constantly telling her children that too. And her children will say that to their children. And in that way, things that can be labeled 'the way of the world' and put out of sight are created one after the other.

charl08 And they become something large, solid, overwhelming, and terrifying that cannot be changed through the efforts of just one or two people. 2y
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charl08
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"Crossing off items from the list of things you enjoy - that's what it means to grow old."

BookDragonNotWorm I tell myself that if I stay healthy enough to get really old, I can have all those things again. In abundance! 😁 2y
charl08 @BookDragonNotWorm hopefully there will be some magic medicine developed to make that possible! 2y
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