So much food for thought...
"Love is a decision, it is a judgment, it is a promise. If love were only a feeling, there would be no basis for the promise to love each other forever. A feeling comes and it may go. How can I judge that it will stay forever, when my act does not involve judgment and decision."
"Love is the active concern for the life and the growth of that which we love. Where this active concern is lacking, there is no love."