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The Defining Decade
The Defining Decade: Why Your Twenties Matter--And How to Make the Most of Them Now | Meg Jay
Our "thirty-is-the-new-twenty" culture tells us the twentysomething years don't matter. Some say they are a second adolescence. Others call them an emerging adulthood. Dr. Meg Jay, a clinical psychologist, argues that twentysomethings have been caught in a swirl of hype and misinformation, much of which has trivialized what is actually the most defining decade of adulthood. Drawing from a decade of work with hundreds of twentysomething clients and students, THE DEFINING DECADE weaves the latest science of the twentysomething years with behind-closed-doors stories from twentysomethings themselves. The result is a provocative read that provides the tools necessary to make the most of your twenties, and shows us how work, relationships, personality, social networks, identity, and even the brain can change more during this decade than at any other time in adulthood-if we use the time wisely. THE DEFINING DECADE is a smart, compassionate and constructive book about the years we cannot afford to miss.
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Kellimitchell
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A fresh perspective on a confusing time. Meg Jay provides helpful insights to avoid late life regrets. Loved it. 💚

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lilpumpkin2.0
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July 14, 2020 Very informational book!!! Even tho it was written in 2012, the book is still relevant to today and the way twenty somethings navigate their life. Twentysomethings have so much to deal with and think about because the 20s are an essential time to be planning, setting goals, and figuring out what job(s) you will be working in for the rest of your career; until retirement 5/5 ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️

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lilpumpkin2.0
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July 9, 2020 Happy Thursday! Almost the weekend! Hang in there. Introducing ... New TBR haul. It consists of The Defining Decade, THE UNHONEYMOONERS, and WHERE THE CRAWDADS SING!!! Im so excited to read all of them but first i need to finish Mambo in Chinatown.

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Andorsey
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Not bad, ground you as to realtity. Not everything was applicable but there was value nonetheless

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WhatDeeReads
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There was some sort of glitch in the matrix ands I can still read this book even though my library loan ended in December. I‘m gonna take it as a sign that I need to get reading right now.

Kimberlone This is such a great book! 6y
WhatDeeReads @Kimberlone I‘m trying to work through it. My brain is not great with non-fiction. 6y
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Amaneet
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Coffee and a good book! The Defining Decade by Meg Jay, PhD. #nonfiction #twenties #book #bookstoreadbeforeyoudie

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Saknicole
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Maybe 5 yrs ago, I heard Jay on NPR, and it caught my attention. I was 21, felt lost, overwhelmed with school and work, in a not so great relationship, and not sure of myself. I found her research based discussion of real issues that individuals in their 20s face to be sooo valuable. I bought 3 more copies and started giving them out as gifts. I recommend it to everyone in their New Adulthood, however you define it! #riotgrams #selfimprovement

AmyG I agree. I got these for my daughters. Excellent book. 7y
Kimberlone Such a good book! And the copy you gave me has been passed on twice! 7y
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ericarobynreads
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While a lot of this didn't resonate with me, I think it is definitely a must read for all! There is so much in here, I think everyone would walk away with something.

My full review here: http://ericarobynreads.blogspot.com/2017/08/book-review-defining-decade-by-meg-j...

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BooksForEmpathy
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This is my pick for the #septphotochallenge and I love it! This book was so important for me and a number of my friends. I realized the importance of "practicing" the way I wanted to live my life NOW instead of believing in the fantasy that when I turned 30 things would "magically" change and fall into place for me. Anybody else feel like when they turned a certain age something would (or should) happen to them? And was it different than expected?

ReadingEnvy I'm still waiting for 40 because I've felt 40 my whole life 😜 8y
Notafraidofwords Umm totally. When I was 15, I said I will be fulfilled at 18 and now I'm 25 and I'm like, maybe things will change when I'm 30. Maybe it's a defense mechanism. 8y
mauveandrosysky 30 was always my magic age, too! I just turned 30 in July and boy was I wrong! Ha. 8y
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BookThia So my husband picked this book up for our son, who is 21. And Son read it and gave it to roommate who reads it and gave it to girlfriend. It's on its 6th reader this summer. Even I thought it was fresh and interesting and I am WAY past my defining decade. 😜 8y
L_auren This book was hugely influential for me and some of my friends as well! Great pick. 8y
kspenmoll This sounds like an important book to read from all reviews etc I have seen on here. Thanks. Sometimes I wonder if I can ever read the amount of books I am gleaning from Litsy but its fun to imagine... 8y
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Bookish_penguin
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#currentlyreading and loving this book! I can't put it down.

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Kimberlone
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Knowing what to overlook is one way that older adults are typically wiser than young adults.

Texreader @Kimberlone That sounds so right on when I compare my husband and me to our thirteen year old! 8y
Saknicole Definitely. I have the most difficult time filtering the bad from the good and what should be minor. 8y
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Kimberlone
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Unthought knowns are those things we know about ourselves but forget somehow. These are the dreams we have lost sight of or the truths we sense but don't say out loud....The more terrifying uncertainty is wanting something but not knowing how to get it.

Saknicole Yes yes yes 8y
Saknicole I also love the section about conscious coupling. Made me really reevaluate how I was coupling haha. I definitely need to reread! 8y
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Kimberlone
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The deceptive irony is that our twentysomething years may not feel all that consequential. It is easy to imagine that life's significant experiences begin with big moments and exciting encounters, but that is not how it happens.

Kimberlone @Saknicole finally started reading!! So good!! 8y
Saknicole Yes! This book actually made me feel really empowered and in control of my life! Horray! My favorite section is about work and the "micro traumas." So many of those in my work life! 8y
MrBook Some of people's most impacting years on the world may be in their 20s and even teens, like Malala 😊! 8y
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k8gold
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Is 28 too late to read this? Hope not! Here we go!

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Jacki
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With about 80 percent of life's most significant events taking place by age thirty-five, as thirty somethings and beyond we largely either continue with, or correct for, the moves we made during our twenty something years.