Listen with the Heart

SqueakyChu

Listen with the Heart: Relationships and Hearing Loss | Michael A. Harvey

The Yiddish word is “tsuris” ... NOT “souris”!! 😲

humouress I can see this one really annoyed you. :0) 6y

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SqueakyChu

Listen with the Heart: Relationships and Hearing Loss | Michael A. Harvey

I bailed about a third of the way through this book. I wanted to read about how to cope with hearing loss, not to sit in on psychotherapy sessions with other people. Sheesh!

Swe_Eva That‘s a shame - the blurb sounds interesting. 6y

SqueakyChu @Swe_Eva I might save this book to read some other time. It certainly won‘t take precedence now. You made me feel guilty about ditching it! 😃 (edited) 6y

SqueakyChu @Swe_Eva Actually, I just now “unbailed” this book. I started skimming the chapters and found a few that were actually interesting and more applicable to my own hearing loss. Thanks for the guilt, Eva! Haha! I am now going to read this book by skipping around all the chapters and NOT read them in sequence. (edited) 6y

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SqueakyChu @Swe_Eva You were totally right. I found a chapter about a man who was hard of hearing from birth. Some of his experiences being hard of hearing paralleled my own. It‘s hard enough being a talkative 70-year-old who is hearing impaired. I can‘t imagine what it must be like to be a hearing impaired teen. ☹️ (edited) 6y

SqueakyChu @Swe_Eva I guess I was looking for a way to relate to this book and could not do so in the beginning chapters about married couples whose marriages were on the rocks because of a hearing issue. I TOTALLY did not relate to that. (edited) 6y

Swe_Eva @SqueakyChu Well, I didn't mean to guilt you into reading a book you didn't care for - I am a huge proponent of skipping books you don't enjoy - but I'm glad you found parts that were good. ? I have a hard of hearing friend who is extremely social and she's always had a tricky time trying to participate in group conversations. One on one is not a huge problem, but someone so social wants to be in the middle of the "action." 6y

SqueakyChu @Swe_Eva Well, what you actually did was guilt me into looking for parts of the book that I found helpful. After that, I found the book to be better than I thought. I plan to read it all now. The good thing is that I no longer find it a slog. 6y

SqueakyChu @Swe_Eva I so understand your friend. Group conversations to me are not as difficult as the ambient environment. Noisy restaurants are a nightmare for me. Dinner at a sidewalk cafe is a blessing. Loud music in the background is awful. Singing birds are wonderful. It‘s really kind of lonely being hearing impaired. The chapter I just read addressed that issue in a very positive manner. Thanks for your first comment. It really helped! 6y

Swe_Eva @SqueakyChu I can see how my friend gets a little left out at times - not intentionally of course - just when hearing people start bantering and joking about and she misses most of it. Must be terrible to be around a bunch of chatty people when you want to be in on things but just can‘t keep up. And nobody is going to sit around and explain what was said all the time. Glad I helped! 👍🏻😁 6y

SqueakyChu Glad you helped, too! 😃 6y

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SqueakyChu

Listen with the Heart: Relationships and Hearing Loss | Michael A. Harvey

I requested this book from #BookMooch because I am hard of hearing. After reading about half of it, I‘m a bit disappointed because it is too heavily focused on psychotherapy for my reading pleasure. I was expecting a book which is more tuned into helping family members and friends tune into better empathy for those suffering with my condition.

lesmel Bummer! My mom suffers from SSHL (1 ear) & I always am looking for ways to help her or better understand her situation. 7y

SqueakyChu @lesmel This book has some good insights, though. I‘ll try to follow up when I‘m finished reading it with more of my thoughts. 7y

SqueakyChu This is very true...
“Turning up the volume of audiotapes does not make it clearer, it often distorts the signal.” (edited) 7y

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SqueakyChu Louder is often not better. Slower and clearer is better for those like me with poor word discrimination. I have moderate NSHL and wear bilateral hearing aids. 7y

ValerieAndBooks I am Deaf myself (since birth) and people get surprised when I tell them we need to move away from a noisy background in order to understand them better 🤷🏻‍♀️ 7y

SqueakyChu @ValerieAndBooks I was really hoping that this book would have been more of a “how to” guide for others that I could pass it along to my husband. So far, it doesn‘t seem to fit the bill. I‘ve worn hearing aids for over 20 years. He‘s good, but not great, with communicating with me. 😃 7y

SharonGoforth Welcome to Litsy!! I‘m over on LT as well ☺️ 7y

SqueakyChu @SharonGoforth Thank you! It‘s nice to find a fellow LTer here! 😃 7y

ValerieAndBooks @SqueakyChu how long have you two been married? My hubby and I have been together a long time (35 years total) and by now he knows what works best for us. I wish I could think of recommended reading. Maybe @Betty has suggestions. 7y

Betty @SqueakyChu welcome to Litsy! I've been Deaf since birth. Can't think right off the bat, @ValerieAndBooks what books to recommend. (edited) 7y

Betty @SqueakyChu, so right that louder is not better. I had a dentist long ago who thought getting closer could help me lipread him better. I couldn't move my head back while in the dentist chair! 7y

SqueakyChu @ValerieAndBooks LOL! We‘ve been married for 38 years! Even today he was reading the paper and talking to me about something while facing away from me. He‘s hopeless!! 😀 7y

SqueakyChu @Betty Thanks for the welcome! 7y

SqueakyChu @Betty Hilarious! I tell my dentist and hygienist to stop talking to me when they put their masks on because I then can‘t understand a thing they say! 😃 (edited) 7y

Betty Funny that your husband forgets. My OWN mother forgot too...once I asked her to make a phone call for me (this was long long before TTYs and video-relays), she looked at me puzzled and asked "can't you do that?" @SqueakyChu (edited) 7y

SqueakyChu @Betty *sigh* No one understands! 7y

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