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Man Alive: A True Story of Violence, Forgiveness and Becoming a Man
Man Alive: A True Story of Violence, Forgiveness and Becoming a Man | Thomas Page McBee
"Thomas Page McBee s "Man Alive" hurtled through my life. I read it in a matter of hours. It s a confession, it s a poem, it's a time warp, it s a brilliant work of art. I bow down to McBeehis humility, his sense of humor, his insightfulness, his structural deftness, his ability to put into words what is often said but rarely, with such visceral clarity and beauty, communicated."Heidi Julavits, author of "The Vanishers" and "The Uses of Enchantment" What does it really mean to be a man? In "Man Alive," Thomas Page McBee attempts to answer that question by focusing on two of the men who most impacted his life&mash;one, his otherwise ordinary father who abused him as a child, and the other, a mugger who almost killed him. Standing at the brink of the life-changing decision to transition from female to male, McBee seeks to understand these examples of flawed manhood and tells us how a brush with violence sent him on the quest to untangle a sinister past, and freed him to become the man he was meant to be. "Man Alive" engages an extraordinary personal story to tell a universal onehow we all struggle to create ourselves, and how this struggle often requires risks. Far from a transgender transition tell-all, "Man Alive" grapples with the larger questions of legacy and forgiveness, love and violence, agency and invisibility. Praise for "Man Alive: " ""Man Alive" is a sweet, tender hurt of a memoir ... about forgiveness and self-discovery, but mostly it s about love, so much love. McBee takes us in his capable hands and shows us what it takes to become a man who is gloriously, gloriously alive."Roxane Gay, author of "Bad Feminist" and "An Untamed State" "Thomas Page McBee's story of how he came to claim both his past and his future is by turns despairing and hopeful, exceptional and relatable. To read it is to witness the birth of a fuller, truer self. I loved this book."Ann Friedman, columnist, "New York Magazine" "'Whoever's child I am, my body belongs to me, ' McBee writes, and his book is an elegant, generous transcription of the journey toward this incandescent, non-aggrandized, life-sustaining form of self-possessionthe kind that emanates from dispossession, rather than running from it."Maggie Nelson, author of "Bluets" and "The Art of Cruelty: A Reckoning" "Well aware that memory and identity rarely follow a linear path, Thomas Page McBee attempts to answer the question, 'What does it really mean to be a man?' Weaving past and present to do so, the book's journey connects violence, masculinity and forgiveness. McBee has an intelligent heart, and it beats in every sentence of this gorgeous book."Saeed Jones, author of "Prelude to Bruise" "Exquisitely written and bristling with emotion, this important book reminds us of how much vulnerability and violence inheres to any identity. A real achievement of form and narrative. Jack Halberstam, author of "The Queer Art of Failure" About the Author: Thomas Page McBee was the "masculinity expert" for "VICE" and writes the columns "Self-Made Man" for "The Rumpus" and "The American Man" for "Pacific Standard." His essays and reportage have appeared in the the "New York Times," TheAtlantic.com, "Salon," and "BuzzFeed," where he was a regular contributor on gender issues. He lives in New York City where he works as the editor of special projects at Quartz, and is currently at work on a book about modern American masculinity."
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Moray_Reads
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The Scottish Parliament goes back to work today and there's a big drive for trans rights and resolving the delays to the revised Gender Recognition Act. Hopefully after the activism there'll be reasons for some positive #tubthumping to come #RedRoseSeptember

Lindy 🦋 5y
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gradcat Great! 👍 5y
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Well, finished this one in less than a day. It was quite good and so refreshing to read a trans narrative that didn‘t leave me feeling helpless. There was still a lot of heart ache but also an underlying sense of self and okay-ness that was truly inspiring.

#transbooks #lgbtq

ohyeahthatgirl I'm ao glad to hear it's good! It's on my library's Trans display. 6y
SkeletonKey @ohyeahthatgirl - that‘s excellent!! I‘m looking forward to the next one. 6y
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SkeletonKey
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Next up on sick-bed reading.

I‘ve been on testosterone for a month now and I definitely struggle with the idea that although I‘m often uncomfortable and nervous around men, I might some day be perceived as one. I really haven‘t figured out how I feel about this and the thought-spirals are deep, but it sounds like this person had similar struggles and it‘ll be good to read it.

#transbooks #transbook #lgbtqia

mreads Wow good luck and that cover is awesome 6y
SkeletonKey @mreads - It‘s a very satisfying book design all around! 6y
jmofo Thanks for sharing that. The world is improved by the variety of stories we tell. 🖤 thank you for being here. 6y
SkeletonKey @jmofo - Hey, that‘s probably the kindest thing someone has said to me in a while. Thank YOU. 🖤 6y
jmofo @SkeletonKey I like to be inspired to be kind. So thank you for that! Ha! 😊Your posts add much to my Listyland! I hope you feel better soon. (edited) 6y
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This_Accidental_Hipster
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Hey, my name is Lys, and I'm a Trans guy trying to figure out who the hell he actually is.
Thomas Page McBee's words have been so damn valuable in that journey so far.
#LGBTQ #LGBTQ2+ #Transgender #QueerLit

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Read this tender, tough memoir.

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Moray_Reads
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McBee writes with such clarity and there's a purity to his prose that is almost spare but it just leaves you more open to the emotional impact of his most beautiful sentences and the story. It's a deeply personal narrative of his decision, aged 30, to move from passing into full transition and how this decision is bound up with his identity and his past. There's a trigger warning for child sexual abuse though it isn't graphic 👇

Moray_Reads I've seen a couple of reviewers lament the fact that he doesn't engage with tranns* history or the theory and politics of gender and masculinity but I'm not really convinced that this is a valid criticism because that clearly isn't the book he set out to write. This is his story, his identity, his experience, is it really fair to demand that there be more? For me it was definitely enough 7y
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"Being human means being at the mercy of others. It's uncomfortable at that knife's edge, but you've still got a choice about who dictates how you live."

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Post 2/3 of #TransBooks to learn about trans* and gender identity issues. If you know of any other books to recommend, especially by trans* or non-binary poc, please let me know. 🏳️‍🌈

#StandWithGavin #GenderIdentity #LGBTbooks #NonBinary

ReadingEnvy I have Trans and I've read For Today I Am A Boy, which I thought was excellent. 8y
Prairiegirl_reading Annabel is heartbreaker! 💔It is excellent. 8y
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