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I Am a Bacha Posh
I Am a Bacha Posh: My Life as a Woman Living as a Man in Afghanistan | Ukmina Manoori
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"You will be a son, my daughter." With these stunning words Ukmina learned that she was to spend her childhood as a boy. In Afghanistan there is a widespread practice of girls dressing as boys to play the role of a son. These children are called bacha posh: literally "girls dressed as boys." This practice offers families the freedom to allow their child to shop and workand in some cases, it saves them from the disgrace of not having a male heir. But in adolescence, religion restores the natural law. The girls must marry, give birth, and give up their freedom. Ukmina decided to confront social and family pressure and keep her menswear. This brave choice paved the way for an extraordinary destiny: she wages war against the Soviets, assists the mujaheddin and ultimately commands the respect of all whom she encounters. She eventually becomes one of the elected council members of her province. But freedom always has a price. For "Ukmina warrior" that price was her life as a woman. This is a stunning and brave memoir about a little known practice that will challenge your perceptions about gender and the courage it takes to live your life to the fullest.
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So courageous. I'm scared for her during these turbulent times in #Afghanistan She wrote about how disrespectful America was in bringing dogs into the people's homes. What a brave woman. To stand up for women's rights just by deciding to wear men's clothing after puberty. I was in complete awe in her steadfast faith and communication with Allah. #Nonfiction2022 @Riveted_Reader_Melissa I am a Rebel #FoodandLit @Texreader @Catsandbooks

Texreader I agree! Instead of blaming Allah for the behavior of the Taliban, she looked to Allah for peace. 2y
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A girl raised as a boy (a bacha posh) defies her society‘s norms to re-assume the role of a girl at puberty. She refuses to give up all of the freedom she had as a boy. By “fighting” the Soviets (she never killed anyone), & then visiting Mecca, she gains respect to be elected twice to provincial posts—her goal to help Afghani women. She‘s illiterate & the writing style of this memoir is very simple, or perhaps it‘s the translation. ⬇️

Texreader During the civil wars after Russia was ousted, she had to go into hiding when the Taliban seized control—a woman exercising any sort of freedom considered the worst of sins. I tried to learn what she‘s doing now with the Taliban back in control but couldn‘t find anything. I assume she is back in hiding. 🙁 #Afghanistan #foodandlit (edited) 2y
BarbaraTheBibliophage I really loved this unexpected and unique memoir. 2y
Catsandbooks Hope she's OK! 2y
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The day the music died… 🙁

With the Soviet retreat, the Taliban has now taken over #Afghanistan. This book has caught up with the other book I‘m reading about the country, tagged in the comments below. I can‘t imagine being a woman in a Taliban-controlled country. I admire the heck out of these women finding a way to retain their humanity. #foodandlit @Catsandbooks @Butterfinger

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The author asks in the aftermath of the Soviet retreat from #Afghanistan. #foodandlit @Catsandbooks @Butterfinger

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Butterfinger
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I'm looking forward to listening to this today for #FoodandLit while I am knitting a dinosaur afghan for a toddler. @Catsandbooks @Texreader

Catsandbooks That Afghan sounds so cute! 🦕🦖 2y
Riveted_Reader_Melissa I found this one very interesting, I‘ll be curious what you thought. 2y
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Girls are raised as the “son” of the family, to protect the family‘s honor, until puberty.

#Afghanistan #foodandlit @Catsandbooks @Butterfinger

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This is a “bacha posh.” I‘ve read about this practice in other Muslim countries. This memoir is by a woman in #Afghanistan, where women‘s freedoms are particularly restricted. #foodandlit @Catsandbooks @Butterfinger

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Next up for #Afghanistan for #foodandlit. Yes I‘m ahead by a month. I‘ve got several books to read for Afghanistan and the only hope I have to read them was to start early. 😁

@Catsandbooks @Butterfinger

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This ebook is on sale. I bought it for #foodandlit #Afghanistan

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MommyWantsToReadHerBook
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Fascinating read! The more I think about it, though, the cover makes no sense 🙂 ⭐⭐⭐⭐

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Very late to the party, I finally watched The Kite Runner yesterday and embarked on a bit of an Afghanistan kick with these two titles. My best friend is of Pashtun descent but I hadn't specifically read anything about it before. Enjoying both of these so far.

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For many families in Afghanistan a young girl can be dressed as a boy and sent out to work like a son to help provide for the family...at least until about the age of 10 when they must re-enter the closed life of women inside the home. This true story is about 1 woman who refused to give up her life of freedom and respect and refused to don the veil, choosing instead a life dressed as a man even though it meant giving up marriage and family. ⤵️

Riveted_Reader_Melissa ↪️ I found this book very interesting, not only for its content, but it‘s set in the Pashto region of Afghanistan and such a different perspective from that of Malala Yousafzai‘s that I read recently with #SheSaid 3y
Come-read-with-me I‘ve been wanting to read this for ages. Thanks for the great review! 3y
Riveted_Reader_Melissa @Come-read-with-me You are welcome. @BarbaraTheBibliophage just read this one too. 3y
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BarbaraTheBibliophage I‘m glad you like it, Melissa! I thought a lot about the comparison with Malala and also 3y
Riveted_Reader_Melissa @BarbaraTheBibliophage I love books that give different points of view on the same area/culture/etc. I also found her impressions of the Russians vs Mujahideen vs Americans vs The Afghan Government of Karzai vs the Taliban very interesting in light of all the war journalist books I read during our conflict. 3y
BarbaraTheBibliophage @Riveted_Reader_Melissa I agree. Can you suggest a “best of” choice about that era? 3y
Riveted_Reader_Melissa @BarbaraTheBibliophage Sadly no, they blend together somewhat after a bunch. Historically.... probably 3y
Riveted_Reader_Melissa But I also read one by photojournalist Lynsey Addario which is partly there, 2 by Richard Engle, and one by Kim Barker. 3y
BarbaraTheBibliophage @Riveted_Reader_Melissa I have this one by Richard Engel on my list for #readingasia2021 so maybe it will work a bit. Thanks for the other suggestions! 3y
Riveted_Reader_Melissa @BarbaraTheBibliophage That‘s one of the ones that I read. You might be able to use Addario‘s too, she stops in a few countries in her book & reporting. 3y
Riveted_Reader_Melissa Any other countries you need books for? 3y
BarbaraTheBibliophage @Riveted_Reader_Melissa I think I‘m doing fairly well finding options. It really depends on how detailed your map of Asia is ... 3y
Riveted_Reader_Melissa @BarbaraTheBibliophage Very true! Good luck with all of that. 3y
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BarbaraTheBibliophage
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In families without enough sons, Afghan families traditionally designate a daughter to “be” a son until puberty. But Ukmina doesn‘t want to return to the world of women. Her life of adventure that follows is interesting and inspiring. And true! I enjoyed this short visit to a completely unique life.

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BarbaraTheBibliophage I thought I might use this for #somethingbyatransauthor for #nonfictionchallenge2021. Fascinating as it is, Ukmina isn‘t trans. I‘d say non-binary is more accurate. Or just simply non traditional in her country. 3y
rockpools Oh how interesting! I‘d heard about the Albanian tradition, though that‘s an adult choice I believe. 3y
BarbaraTheBibliophage @rockpools I‘ll have to check the Albanian tradition out. Haven‘t heard of it until now. This kind of thing is less rare than some folks would have us believe. 3y
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Centique We have a large Samoan community here and for centuries they‘ve accepted a third gender called fa‘afafine (defined as biologically male expressing female role) Super interesting - also as to how the western LGBTQIA+ concept sometimes fails to fit them. I‘m meaning to read this but I know there are other island nations with similar traditions (edited) 3y
squirrelbrain This is fascinating stuff - I hadn‘t heard of any of these traditions before. 3y
Librarybelle Definitely sounds fascinating! 3y
BarbaraTheBibliophage @Centique That‘s another tradition I‘ve never heard about. I also heard about the Hawaiian and Tahitian term Māhū, which is considered to be a third gender in 3y
BarbaraTheBibliophage @squirrelbrain @Librarybelle It‘s definitely worth the short listen. 3y
Centique @BarbaraTheBibliophage thanks for that tip - I have that on my TBR but I think I need to push it to the top! 3y
BarbaraTheBibliophage @Centique Hope you like it!! 3y
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BarbaraTheBibliophage
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Found this short book while exploring the Audible Plus catalog. Just about 20 min in and it is fascinating. I had no idea Afghan parents could choose a daughter to live like a son. #readingasia2021 #afghanistan

Riveted_Reader_Melissa Sounds great! 3y
BarbaraTheBibliophage @Riveted_Reader_Melissa It is unique. I‘m not sure if it‘s truly a trans author, though. Will finalize when I finish. 3y
Librarybelle Sounds very interesting! 3y
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