Surrounded by Idiots: How Ineffective Communication Causes Chaos | 
panGingerAntics This book is passive aggressive and confrontational. It describes verbally abusive people in the first chapter, not poor communicators. It‘s full of pop-psychology, pseudo-expertise, and platitudes. It even suggests that these “poor communicators” (verbally abusive people) should have a child in order to get in touch with their feelings. From the standpoint of a verbally abused child, this book feels very dangerous. 3y
GingerAntics Don‘t even get me started on the perpetuation of the ridiculous arm crossing theory (that was debunked at least 20 years ago). 3y
GingerAntics Crossed arms can mean what he you‘re not listening or are closed off emotionally, they can just as often mean someone is cold, feeling vulnerable or afraid, their arms are tired, or it‘s just comfortable to the person. Some of the best communicators and listeners in the world stand with their arms crossed quite frequently. 3y
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GingerAntics You talk to them and feel you are the only person they ever want to have a conversation with, and their arms are crossed the whole time. Tone of voice, eye contact, if you‘re facing the person you‘re talking to, if your body is relaxed or tense, if you‘re actively listening are all far more important than the position in which you hold your arms. 3y
GingerAntics Okay, rant over. 3y
rabbitprincess I know right? I cross my arms ALL THE TIME and it does not mean I am not listening! That‘s just the most comfortable way for my arms to go. 3y
GingerAntics @rabbitprincess right? Sometimes that‘s just really comfortable. It drives me nuts when ignorant idiots make assumptions based on that one gesture, ignoring all other body language. 3y
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