Home Feed
Home
Search
Search
Add Review, Blurb, Quote
Add
Activity
Activity
Profile
Profile
Not Gay
Not Gay: Sex Between Straight White Men | Jane Ward
8 posts | 2 read | 3 to read
A straight white girl can kiss a girl, like it, and still call herself straighther boyfriend may even encourage her. But can straight white guys experience the same easy sexual fluidity, or would kissing a guy just mean that they are really gay? Not Gay thrusts deep into a world where straight guy-on-guy action is not a myth but a reality: theres fraternity and military hazing rituals, where new recruits are made to grab each others penises and stick fingers up their fellow members anuses; online personal ads, where straight men seek other straight men to masturbate with; and, last but not least, the long and clandestine history of straight men frequenting public restrooms for sexual encounters with other men. For Jane Ward, these sexual practices reveal a unique social space where straight white men canand dohave sex with other straight white men; in fact, she argues, to do so reaffirms rather than challenges their gender and racial identity. Ward illustrates that sex between straight white men allows them to leverage whiteness and masculinity to authenticate their heterosexuality in the context of sex with men. By understanding their same-sex sexual practice as meaningless, accidental, or even necessary, straight white men can perform homosexual contact in heterosexual ways. These sex acts are not slippages into a queer way of being or expressions of a desired but unarticulated gay identity. Instead, Ward argues, they reveal the fluidity and complexity that characterizes all human sexual desire. In the end, Wards analysis offers a new way to think about heterosexualitynot as the opposite or absence of homosexuality, but as its own unique mode of engaging in homosexual sex, a mode characterized by pretense, dis-identification and racial and heterosexual privilege. Daring, insightful, and brimming with wit, Not Gay is a fascinating new take on the complexities of heterosexuality in the modern era.
Amazon Indiebound Barnes and Noble WorldCat Goodreads LibraryThing
Pick icon
100%
review
GingerAntics
post image
Pickpick

Straight men, are you okay? Straight white men, are you specifically okay? This entire book is an ode to the idea that it‘s about damned time we abandon our insistence on a binary view of life, love, sexuality, attraction, and gender.
👇🏻👇🏻👇🏻

GingerAntics This book is also very clear on how the toxic masculinity that harms women actually turns on itself in hazing rituals, ultimately using that violence and domination over weaker members of the group to reiterate and perpetuate itself. There is nothing healthy going on here. No, men are not okay. Straight men are not okay. Straight white men are absolutely not okay. Sadly, they are the ones most fervently fighting to keep things this way. 3w
18 likes1 stack add2 comments
quote
GingerAntics
post image

Seriously, I feel like this entire book is an argument for abandoning the binary views we have of gender, sexuality, attraction, and life.
#JaneWard #NotGay #gender #sexuality #binary #biological #cultural #gay #straight

quote
GingerAntics
post image

So being friends with other men is gay, but this is less gay? Again, I‘m going to need the men to show their work on this, because the math is NOT mathing.
#JaneWard #NotGay #MaybeGay #friendship #mathnotmathing #gay

quote
GingerAntics
post image

Reasons given for the acceptable practice of initiating new men into the military using homosexual sex acts. I‘m really going to need them to show their work on that second one. The other two make no sense either, but that one is extra special.
#JaneWard #NotGay #Military #USMilitary #WTF #ShowYourWork

blurb
GingerAntics
post image

Ward keeps using this concept of a sex terrorist to describe reasons a person may engage in a sex act in a way that is not in accordance with their orientation. Is this a real thing?
#JaneWard #NotGay #sexterrorist

quote
GingerAntics
post image

🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣
#JaneWard #NotGay

RamsFan1963 If they sold gay tests at the drug store, I think a lot more men would discover they're bisexual than people imagine. 3w
GingerAntics @RamsFan1963 legit had the same thought…. Although the drugstore does sell Covid tests and there are still folks who think that isn‘t real, so 🤷🏼‍♀️ 3w
10 likes2 comments
blurb
GingerAntics
post image

Thank you, Victorian era! I‘m still waiting for a single positive thing you have added to our lives, even beyond sexuality.
#JaneWard #NotGay #normal #heterosexual #homosexual #NormalSexual #VictorianEra #Victorian #reproduction

blurb
GingerAntics
post image

I enjoyed The Tragedy of Heterosexuality so much yesterday, I decided to read this one today.
#JaneWard #NotGay #audiobook