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Not Gay: Sex Between Straight White Men | Jane Ward

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Straight men, are you okay? Straight white men, are you specifically okay? This entire book is an ode to the idea that it‘s about damned time we abandon our insistence on a binary view of life, love, sexuality, attraction, and gender.
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GingerAntics This book is also very clear on how the toxic masculinity that harms women actually turns on itself in hazing rituals, ultimately using that violence and domination over weaker members of the group to reiterate and perpetuate itself. There is nothing healthy going on here. No, men are not okay. Straight men are not okay. Straight white men are absolutely not okay. Sadly, they are the ones most fervently fighting to keep things this way. 1w

GingerAntics #JaneWard #NotGay #men #whitemen #straightmen #masculinity #ToxicMasculinity #gay #straight #binary #genderbinary #sexualbinary 1w

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GingerAntics

The Tragedy of Heterosexuality | Jane Ward

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#JaneWard #TheTragedyOfHeterosexuality #men #women #weneedproof

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GingerAntics

The Tragedy of Heterosexuality | Jane Ward

This seems so obvious, and yet it‘s just not true for A LOT of men. I‘m certainly not saying every man, but the loudest, most vocal, most powerful men certainly. Not to mention all the men who look up to those men as the ideal of manhood and masculinity.
#JaneWard #TheTragedyOfHeterosexuality #men #women #intowomen #forwomen #manhood #masculinity #simple

TheBookHippie A man attaches himself to woman - not to enjoy her, but to enjoy himself.
SIMONE DE BEAUVOIR 1w

GingerAntics @TheBookHippie she was actually comparing heterosexual ideals to queer ones. That in heterosexual culture it‘s about what is most pleasurable to the man, not is pleasurable for the woman, ever. In queer culture it‘s how much pleasure a body can experience. Full stop. She was baffled by a survey where every straight man said sex was over when he came. She said “I can‘t imagine sex with my wife being over just because either of us came.” 🤣😂🤣 1w

GingerAntics @TheBookHippie basically, the whole books can be boiled down to “straight men think they are entitled to sex” and “heterosexuals, are you okay?” 1w

TheBookHippie @GingerAntics exactly. Men think sex is for them. That‘s it. Women are an object to achieve it whether they want it or not. 1w

GingerAntics @TheBookHippie yup! I loved this book. It was just a little snarky, just a little funny, but very poignant and important. 1w

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GingerAntics

The Tragedy of Heterosexuality | Jane Ward

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#JaneWard #TheTragedyOfHeterosexuality #men #women #queer #lovewomen

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GingerAntics

The Tragedy of Heterosexuality | Jane Ward

WHAT THE ACTUAL FLYING 🤬?!
Sadly, given the state of affairs between men and women these days, I think this has just become the quiet part we don‘t actually say out loud. “Men‘s latent cruelty in courtship and women‘s receptivity to pain and domination as core heterosexual impulses.”
#JaneWard #TheTragedyOfHeterosexuality #eugenics #men #women #disturbing #oddlytrue #stilltrue

GingerAntics The Five Love Languages is a continuation of this theme! I KNEW I hated that book.

The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate

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fredthemoose

Of Boys and Men: Why the Modern Male Is Struggling, Why It Matters, and What to Do about It | Richard Reeves

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⭐️⭐️⭐️ I‘m torn on this one. The author highlights important areas where boys lag behind girls (rates of maturation, educational attainment) and ways particularly Black boys experience discrimination and the structural issues they face in school and society. He‘s careful to make clear he does not want to improve outcomes for boys and men at the expense of women. He loses me when talking about how now that women don‘t “need” men, ⬇️

fredthemoose … men are now adrift and don‘t know their roles. I have a hard time thinking of other groups who are waiting for society to present them with their unique, valued role instead of just rolling up their sleeves, figuring out how to use their talents to make a contribution and getting to work. 🤷‍♀️ (edited) 2mo

willaful Nicely put! 2mo

quietlycuriouskate 🎯 2mo

fredthemoose @willaful @quietlycuriouskate thanks. I really struggled with what to think of this. It did make me think and I want to be fair to it. The author was careful never to say it, but it seemed like implicitly a lot of the problem is that men are no long implicit the top of the hierarchy just for existing and that is hard for them and I‘m not the *most* sympathetic to that. (edited) 2mo

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No More Mr. Nice Guy!: A Proven Plan for Getting what You Want in Love, Sex, and Life | Robert A. Glover

December 30th #ChristmasCheer Nice #WinterGames24 #HolidayBookDragons @StayCurious @Eggs @Alwaysbeenaloverofbooks

Alwaysbeenaloverofbooks 💙🤍💙 2mo

Eggs Excellent 👌🏼 2mo

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mcctrish

Thursday | Mary Lindeen

#tlt #threelistthursday some of the newer movies I‘ve never heard of and I need to make a list to watch them ( instead of football which is on now against my will) my three are 2 I watch every year; Die Hard and love actually and 1 I think should be on the list; Rent 🎶and it‘s beginning to snow 🎶

dabbe

dabbe You've given me even more to add to my list! My husband groans when I make him watch LOVE ACTUALLY every year, but then he's the teary one at the end. #men 😂 3mo

dabbe Thanks for playing and sharing, too! 💙❄️💙 3mo

mcctrish @dabbe love actually is kind of problematic but I love it so, even hating Alan Rickman despite loving him with my whole heart 3mo

Deblovestoread Same about Love Actually! 3mo

dabbe @mcctrish As he says about his character: “A classic fool.“ Oh, I adore him and miss him! 😭 3mo

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Chelsea.Poole

Of Boys and Men: Why the Modern Male Is Struggling, Why It Matters, and What to Do about It | Richard Reeves

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Of Boys and Men is included on Obama‘s summer reading list. I snagged this audiobook immediately, as it was new to me and I‘m over here trying to raise a couple of boys. At 7 hrs, it‘s a doable look at how men and boys are caught between two narratives: “the problem” or ignored by the left and toxic culture/manly man weirdness of the right. It‘s political but also focuses on policies that could help-like red shirting boys in kindergarten.

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BarkingMadRead

Ruth | Elizabeth Gaskell

Ch 4: the day trip takes a turn #thomasseesall #bellinghamisstillajerk #theystaytoolong #timeforashortcut #agrumpymasonseesthem #nohomeforruth #bellinghamtakesadvantage #becausethatswhatbrosdo 🙄 #offtolondon #isaiditbeforeandillsayitagain #whatcouldgowrong #hashtagbrigade

BarkingMadRead @librarybelle @ruthiella @currentlyreadinginCO @amor4libros @bookwormjillk @catlass007 @mcctrish @indoordame @rubyslippersreads @thebookhippie @dabbe @crinoline_laphroaig

@clare-dragonfly @julieclair @aimeesue @quietjenn @kao @bklover @alldebooks @jewright @cuilin @willaful 7mo

mcctrish We could take the carriage but then I‘d miss my walking time FFS right from the get go it was doomed to fail but running into Mason was even worse than I expected 7mo

BarkingMadRead @mcctrish how did she get to be this age and know nothing about men?!? Ugh! 7mo

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mcctrish @BarkingMadRead nobody talks about anything useful apparently 7mo

IndoorDame Seriously! Why does nobody talk to their daughters about anything useful? And why hasn‘t this changed more? 7mo

IndoorDame I hate him so much more now!!! I was predicting she‘d stay completely clueless and he‘d just passively take advantage, but she finally had half a good instinct and good idea, and tried to act on it, and he‘s doubling down on his scheming and manipulation! 😡 7mo

Clare-Dragonfly For a minute there I thought Mrs. Mason was going to drag her away and Ruth would be upset but safe for the time being. But no, she just made it worse 😭😭😭 7mo

TheBookHippie @BarkingMadRead half the teen moms I mentor have zero idea how they got pregnant … guess what they are…. Evangelical Christians 😵‍💫😭🤢🤬 7mo

TheBookHippie @IndoorDame Religiosity and control. Knowledge is power. 7mo

TheBookHippie @Clare-Dragonfly 😭😭😭😭 7mo

TheBookHippie @IndoorDame LOATHE INTENSELY 7mo

BarkingMadRead @TheBookHippie nooooooooo 🙈🙈🙈 7mo

TheBookHippie @BarkingMadRead makes me so mad. 7mo

Bookwormjillk It‘s a bookworm thrill to sit down on a Sunday and read a chapter that starts with a sentence about how lovely Sundays are. Too bad the chapter took a turn, like we all said it would. Also maybe if Mason would have just fed her a sandwich Ruth wouldn‘t have been wandering around on Sundays making bad decisions. 7mo

dabbe What makes this even sadder (IMHO) is that Ruth thinks she loves this man and willingly believes he'll take care of her. I mean, she saw him save a kid, he's rich, he gave her a flower and (so far) has acted fairly chivalrously. If it weren't for our omniscient narrator, I might be swayed, too. At least Tess loathed D'Urberville. Not that it saved her. #men 🙄 7mo

willaful Such an excruciating chapter! It's like everything conspires against her. :-(

@IndoorDame yes, he is absolute trash. 🤬 7mo

currentlyreadinginCO Agreed @dabbe I can't stand the way in which she trusts this man, but I suppose that the narrator makes it really easy to understand what's about to go down here for even the most naive of readers 7mo

dabbe @currentlyreadinginCO Definitely not going to be good for Ruth. And we already love and care about her! 😢 7mo

dabbe @willaful @IndoorDame Pretty package on the outside, utter evil on the inside. 👿 7mo

Crinoline_Laphroaig Naivete of Ruth is so over the top. I find it hard to bite she has no concept of the social mores of the day. Also setting out at 2pm with expectation that you'll be home on time is just bad math. 7mo

Aimeesue A big part of Ruth‘s problem is her unwillingness “to oppose the wishes of any one.” Fine when it‘s your parents or people who love you, but horrible when it‘s someone who wants to control you or take advantage of you. 7mo

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