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Vagina Problems: Endometriosis, Painful Sex, and Other Taboo Topics | Lara Parker
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With unflinching honesty, Lara Parker, the Deputy Director for BuzzFeed, shares her day-to-day challenges of living, working, and loving with chronic pain caused by endometriosis in this raw, darkly humorous, and hopeful memoir. I wasnt ready to be completely honest about my vagina yet, and the world wasnt ready for that either. But I was getting there. I wanted the world to know that all of this pain I had been feeling...that it was related to my vagina. Thus, Vagina Problems was born. It was a cutesy name. It was my way of taking this pain and saying, Whatever. Im here. I have it. It sucks. Lets talk about it. In April 2014, Deputy Editorial Director at BuzzFeed Lara Parker opened up to the world in an article on the website: she suffers from endometriosis. And beyond that? She let the whole world know that she wasnt having any sex, as sex was excruciatingly painful. Less than a year before, she received not only the diagnosis of endometriosis, but also a diagnosis of pelvic floor dysfunction, vulvodynia, vaginismus, and vulvar vestibulitis. Combined, these debilitating conditions have wreaked havoc on her life, causing excruciating pain throughout her body since she was fourteen years old. These are her Vagina Problems. It was five years before Lara learned what was happening to her body. Five years of doctors insisting she just had bad period cramps, or implying her pain was psychological. Shamed and stigmatized, Lara fought back against a medical community biased against women and discovered that the ignorance of many doctors about womens anatomy was damaging more than just her own life. One in ten women have endometriosis and it takes an average of seven years before they receive an accurate diagnosisor any relief from this incurable illness chronic pain. With candid revelations about her vaginal physical therapy, dating as a straight woman without penetrative sex, coping with painful seizures while at the office, diet and wardrobe malfunctions when your vagina hurts all the time, and the depression and anxiety of feeling unloved, Lara tackles it all in Vagina Problems: Endometriosis, Painful Sex, and Other Taboo Topics with courage, wit, love, and a determination to live her best life.
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I read this to better understand a friend who has Vagina Problems. I liked a look at her week and how she feels day to day. As someone in chronic pain since 1997, I can relate to her there.

I remember being in my 20s and being very angry that I couldn‘t eat chocolate or go on Safari or study abroad. I get it really. But being past that stage now in my 40s, it got emotionally taxing to read her rants. That‘s my issue, but I would recommend this ⬇️

Megabooks ⬆️⬆️ Chapter 11: the letter to the doctors who didn‘t believe her was very well done and affirming!! 💕💕 4y
Reviewsbylola This sounds like a very important book. 4y
Megabooks @Reviewsbylola I think it is. Very validating for a lot of women 4y
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Lara is in her late 20s describing what it‘s like to have already been in chronic pain for 10 years. This was me with a different illness, and I can totally relate to her being pissed off that she‘s unable to keep up with her peers at work and play. I want to hug her so hard.

An additional 10+ years or life, therapy, and friendship has put me in a easier place mentally, and I hope she finds that, too. I‘m enjoying this memoir. ⅓ in 💕

Eggs Chronic pain for so many years is a challenge. But the added challenge for me is that it‘s an invisible disability-to others you look perfectly okay... 4y
Megabooks @Eggs exactly!! So many people, in numbers I‘ve seen women are over represented, have chronic pain/illness where we look fine. And there‘s just now some cultural awareness and awareness with doctors that yes, this is real. But still, when we don‘t look like my mom (she has post polio), people (docs too) don‘t always take us or our issues seriously. 4y
Lizpixie Definitely #stacked this one! I was 13 when I started getting endometriosis symptoms but I wasn‘t diagnosed till I was 21. They even made me see a shrink🙄 Now I‘m watching both my daughters go through it, it‘s awful how so much hasn‘t changed😡 4y
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CaroPi I had pain all my life with my period and miomas. I knew that is endometriosis long ago but is until my 41 that a doctor finally confirm! 4y
Megabooks @Lizpixie she‘s had a similar journey to diagnosis. I think you‘ll like this one. And “healthcare” for women is totally ridiculous! (edited) 4y
Megabooks @CaroPi wow! That is a long journey to diagnosis. I am so sorry! 4y
myellenbee Glad there is a book to get people talking about these problems. 4y
Megabooks @myellenbee for sure! I‘m reading it to better understand what a friend is going through. She and I talk about it some, but neither one of us wants to talk about our pain all the time, especially since it‘s only on the phone due to Covid! (edited) 4y
myellenbee You are a good friend. Its tough during covid. I hope your friend finds help and real answers. 4y
Megabooks @myellenbee thank you! 4y
Reviewsbylola ❤️❤️❤️ 4y
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“This book is raw and honest and everything it needs to be. There is no happy ending, at least not the type we would all love to see with a cure and forever love and butterflies and flowers. But it has an ending that may feel familiar to others with chronic illnesses or hopefully at least spark some hope.”

See the full review here:

https://theshaggyshepherd.wordpress.com/2020/10/05/book-review-vagina-problems-b...

#memoir #femoir

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