I LOVE IT I LOVE IT I LOVE IT I LOVE IT I LOVE IT I LOVE IT!
The silliness and the warmth, that compassionate, gently teaching vibe. Similar to Becky Chambers in that sometimes it takes the author speaking through alien species to remind humans there are more accepting, kinder ways to act towards yourself and others. Main character is ace and agender, also disability rep with asthma and allergies, and some of the early medical discussion 1/?