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Fed Up: Emotional Labor, Women, and the Way Forward | Gemma Hartley

After weeks and weeks of illness in our house we finally seemed to be getting back on trackā€¦ and now my hubby has Covid. It‘s half term here so I‘m stuck at home with three little boys and an Ill man (not that Ill, but I‘ll enough to make it known š) at home wanting to get waited on. My reading goals have gone out the window this month. Feeling frustrated and fed upā€¦ and concerned for my hubby of course š¸

Read4life I hope everyone feels better soon. I also hope you get some time to take care of yourself. Hugs sent to you. š’™ 2y

StillLookingForCarmenSanDiego Sending you love. That's tough. I hope he's well soon. And that you take care of yourself as well. š’— 2y

BethM Hope everyone gets well soon, take care of yourself mama! The man flu is perhaps the worst kind of illnesses for wives ;) 2y

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Jas16 Sending love and support. 2y

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Dodi Sending you lots of strength and hoping that you can soon find some very much deserved time for yourself! ā¯¤ļø¸ 2y

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Magpiegem @Bookzombie @CarolynM @Dodi @MaureenMc @Jas16 @StillLookingForCarmenSanDiego @BethM @Read4life thank you so much for your love and kind words. When I‘m feeling down my Litsy community always picks me up ā¯¤ļø¸ā¯¤ļø¸ā¯¤ļø¸ 2y

Magpiegem @BethM isn‘t it just!! š‚š‚ 2y

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Fed Up: Emotional Labor, Women, and the Way Forward | Gemma Hartley

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This book is terrific. It looks at the emotional labor women do that is invisible and typically entirely unnoticed by men, and how this can become overwhelming over time. My husband does more emotionally labor than the average guy, but there are still things he just doesn‘t see or get, so I really connected with this. It‘s quite validating.

TrishB I‘m not sure if reading this will be validating or enraging. But I think I will probably read anyway! 3y

Librariana I often think about the way I look at the world emotionally vs. how my husband perceives it... and how the world, in turn perceives him... the strength he's expected to display. I'm sure it was a deeply interesting, thought-provoking read. Added! š 3y

Hooked_on_books @TrishB It‘s a little of both, really, but at the end of the book she mentions some strategies that can help with communication about emotional labor that can hopefully lead to change. 3y

Hooked_on_books @Librariana It‘s thought provoking for sure! And it‘s so true how gendering so many things harms everyone, forcing people into molds that don‘t fit and are unfair. She doesn‘t get into toxic masculinity here per se, but that can certainly play a role. 3y

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RebL

Fed Up: Emotional Labor, Women, and the Way Forward | Gemma Hartley

I fell behind logging my reading. Probably every Litten can relate to all the various reasons. I did manage to make grid collages for an IG pal who requested my 2019 reading list. So... in the spirit of ā€good enough,ā€¯ here‘s one feat books for adults. (I read a ton of kidlit & YA for work.)

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KatieDid927

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This is a VERY lukewarm pick. The only reason it‘s not a so-so for me is how important the subject matter is. I loved the author‘s piece in Harpar‘s Bazaar so I was looking forward to the book. Unfortunately, it only discusses emotional labor in partnerships. This was important stuff for couples, but I was so disheartened that she didn‘t delve into the emotional labor single women do too in our friendships and families which is just as valid.

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Jgotham

Fed Up: Emotional Labor, Women, and the Way Forward | Gemma Hartley

Think I‘m gonna pass this book out at my job š‚

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Jgotham

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I really like this quote in the first few pages.

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mrozzz

Fed Up: Emotional Labor, Women, and the Way Forward | Gemma Hartley

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Can't decide if this was more enlightening or enraging. I especially enjoyed how Hartley gave examples from her own relationship and emphasized how important it is for both partners to work towards balancing the brunt of emotional labor because even when one might be doing more, it might be because they've spent years belittling the efforts of the other. Meeting in the middle and respecting each other's strengths (+ weaknesses) is so important.

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Augustdana

Fed Up: Emotional Labor, Women, and the Way Forward | Gemma Hartley

Snow day! Gotta finish this! Mostly because those other two books I was next in line for have become available from the library š¤Ŗš¤Ŗš©

Eggs Love those jammie pants āļø¸ 5y

Augustdana @Eggs thanks! They‘re my favourite! 5y

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Augustdana

Fed Up: Emotional Labor, Women, and the Way Forward | Gemma Hartley

I‘ve got two other books that I‘m next in line for, and I‘m feeling the pressure. Looking forward to this one since I read the article online a few years ago. š”—š”—š”—ā˛�ļø¸ā˛�ļø¸ā˛�ļø¸https://www.harpersbazaar.com/culture/features/a12063822/emotional-labor-gender-equality/

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