pickA friend of the family gave me, my sister, and my mom this book after my dad died a year ago tomorrow. I‘ve been reading a page a day, as it is organized by calendar days. I do think it helped. There were some common themes that resurfaced throughout the year. It at least regularly gave me the space once a day to work through my grief. As the book mentioned, there is no set time for when it will feel better. A year later doesn‘t stop the hurt.
I just found out that aquamation is now legal here! It was part of a bill that passed this July! HB 4116. I never thought I would see the day in this state. I will be sharing this with the community and be sure to bring it up at my Death Cafes. I like to think of it as going in a big dishwasher for a good bath 🤣 This is my first choice for my final disposition and it‘s in my advanced directives.
My Advanced Directives are officially completed and notarized! It feels so good to have this done, and it was fun. Death/Dying are usually not things anyone wants to talk/think about. But we should be. It‘s the most natural thing in the world; we‘re all going to do it one day. So live your most authentic life, & plan ahead. We are not promised the next moment. You‘ll be glad you got your legal documents done, your friends & family will be too.
#Tuesdaytunes (on Wednesday)
@TieDyeDude I still haven't streamed that Philly radio show that you mentioned a few weeks back, but it led to a revelation tonight. I was listening to a favorite artist of mine that I've posted about before - Stas Thee Boss and remembered she is a radio dj on a west coast public radio station, KEXP. But for some reason, it never occurred to me to try to stream her show...until tonight. And it's great! 👇
This is one of those emotional, feel-good stories that will stay with you for a long time! We need more people like Mrs. Kip and more books like this one!
I‘m looking forward to reading more books by this author! 💖💖
Our sweet kitty Riley passed away last night, peacefully in his sleep after a brief illness. He was 17.
He loved birdwatching, sunbeams, lap time, licking water off of shower doors and soda cans, and helping me with sewing projects. We deeply love and already miss our little peanut, but are grateful he‘s no longer struggling.
I've recently fallen down the rabbit hole of social media. I was spending too much time online and not enough time on my reading. However, today is a new start. I've deleted the apps that were distracting me, and I might still have time to salvage August.
pickI knew of this book before I asked my hospice coordinator for book recommendations. It was so informative, and written beautifully, gently. Everyone should read it. We will all experience the death of someone we know one day, and we will die, too. This book talks you through all of it, breaking down all the stigma that surrounds it, and helps you start with your own death plan and advanced directives. Highly recommended.
Grief lives in the body. MRI studies show that a grieving brain has a pattern unlike other emotions. Most of the time, an emotion lights up parts of the brain, but grief is distributed everywhere, into areas associated with memory, metabolism, visual imagery, and more. Grief can make you sick; it can be brutal, even deadly. One is coming to grips with what forever means. And we don‘t do that all at once and we don‘t do it one day at a time ⬇️
