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Nobody's Victim: Fighting Psychos, Stalkers, Pervs, and Trolls
Nobody's Victim: Fighting Psychos, Stalkers, Pervs, and Trolls | Jeannine Amber, Carrie Goldberg
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Nobody's Victim is an unflinching look at a hidden world most people don't know exists--one of stalking, blackmail, and sexual violence, online and off--and the incredible story of how one lawyer, determined to fight back, turned her own hell into a revolution. "We are all a moment away from having our life overtaken by somebody hell-bent on our destruction." That grim reality--gleaned from personal experience and twenty years of trauma work --is a fundamental principle of Carrie Goldberg's cutting-edge victims' rights law firm. Riveting and an essential timely conversation-starter, Nobody's Victim invites readers to join Carrie on the front lines of the war against sexual violence and privacy violations as she fights for revenge porn and sextortion laws, uncovers major Title IX violations, and sues the hell out of tech companies, schools, and powerful sexual predators. Her battleground is the courtroom; her crusade is to transform clients from victims into warriors. In gripping detail, Carrie shares the diabolical ways her clients are attacked and how she, through her unique combination of advocacy, badass relentlessness, risk-taking, and client-empowerment, pursues justice for them all. There are stories about a woman whose ex-boyfriend made fake bomb threats in her name and caused a national panic; a fifteen-year-old girl who was sexually assaulted on school grounds and then suspended when she reported the attack; and a man whose ex-boyfriend used a dating app to send more than 1,200 men to ex's home and work for sex. With breathtaking honesty, Carrie also shares her own shattering story about why she began her work and the uphill battle of building a business. While her clients are a diverse group--from every gender, sexual orientation, age, class, race, religion, occupation, and background--the offenders are not. They are highly predictable. In this book, Carrie offers a taxonomy of the four types of offenders she encounters most often at her firm: assholes, psychos, pervs, and trolls. "If we recognize the patterns of these perpetrators," she explains, "we know how to fight back." Deeply personal yet achingly universal, Nobody's Victim is a bold and much-needed analysis of victim protection in the era of the Internet. This book is an urgent warning of a coming crisis, a predictor of imminent danger, and a weapon to take back control and protect ourselves--both online and off.
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Kempii
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This book‘s conclusion resonated so strongly, it brought me to tears: “Identify the one thing that makes you feel powerless and devote your life to fixing it.” After having been stalked, harassed, and assaulted, and knowing so many women whose reports were covered up, dismissed, or derided—I started a Scrabble nonprofit with a core goal to provide a safe and harassment-free environment for women. If you‘ve been hurt, know that you‘re not alone.

Kempii Massive trigger warnings for this book related to sexual assault, stalking, suicide, and general human cruelty. 2y
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The officers asked Vanessa about the assault and warned her that if she pressed charges against the boy, there was a good chance the boy‘s parents would press charges against her, too. “For what?” she asked, confused. “Underage sex,”

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“By the time we filed our amended complaint on March 31, 2017, Gutierrez had directed more than eleven hundred men to Matthew's door.“

This quote is in reference to the case of the online harassment of Matthew Herrick via Grindr and it's making me sick. I hadn't heard of this case until reading this book and I'm absolutely appalled. Grindr should be totally defunct from what they allowed to happen to this man.

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This book is a phenomenal source of valuable information. Offering true stories and guidance for a variety of difficult situations for men and women. My situation has called for the help of Nobody's Victim with writing up a PPO, (Personal Protection Order) the best resource out there.

I'm sorry about my goals but I had to shift them around in the last week.

@jerdencon @kathywheeler @wanderinglynn

wanderinglynn Never apologize about your goals or having to change your goals. ❤️Your goals are just that—YOUR goals, based on your needs & abilities. And you need them to work for you. We all have life happenings & that‘s why goals are adaptable. And if we need to change our goals every week because of life happenings, then we change our goals every week! Whatever you need to do for you. You got this! 🙌🏻💜 5y
sharread Thanks ❤ 5y
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actualdisneyprincess
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This book was amazing, plain and simple. #nobodysvictim #carriegoldberg #timesup #metoo #believewomen

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Twocougs
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Heartbreaking and fascinating stories from a lawyer that is trying to help those abused and hurt. Her work gives me hope for victims.

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akaGingerK
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Mostly a pick but with caveats. A detailed, engaging overview of the various ways sexual assault and harassment harm their targets, and the ways Goldberg‘s law office sought relief for her clients. However, some of the studies she cites are outdated (19th century theory of mob behavior!) or controversial (Dworkin). And her mention of Sesta-Fosta isn‘t nuanced- though expected given her focus. CW: sexual assault, antisemitism, suicidal ideation

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I‘ve been to one Sherlockian convention. I went with a friend, and I made three more. Two of them (so far!) have come forward as having been sufficiently harassed by That Guy Everyone‘s Talking About- and had their concerns ignored - that they‘d dropped out of their fan communities. Earlier this year, other friends told me about their encounters with That Other Guy at a different type of convention. I‘m so tired, y‘all.