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GingerAntics
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Just watched his TEDtalk. It was great. If, like me, you read this book and wondered how on earth he was so close to his mother but she didn‘t notice he was gay, this will answer that question for you. He‘s also delightfully funny...and he even shows off the LIA handbook he STILL has (I think it‘s mostly to prove it really is as bad as he made it out to be). Here the link: https://youtu.be/JmCtZz-RztQ
#garrardconley #boyerased #TEDtalk

GingerAntics I hope you enjoy it as much as I did. 4y
TheBookHippie This is on my TBR. Hoping I can stomach it. I heard it was marvelous. (edited) 4y
GingerAntics @TheBookHippie I wasn‘t sure I was going to be able to stomach it. Maybe it‘s that I‘ve gotten used to some of this madness, but I think it‘s his mentality about it. It wasn‘t nearly as bad as I expected it to be. I mean, what happened to him certainly was, but his mentality colours the way he tells the story, so it‘s easier to read. 4y
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GingerAntics @TheBookHippie he‘s so good at not letting you know quite what the ending is going to be until you get there, so there was one point during the book when I decided I just needed to know, if I was going to go on. I needed to know he was okay, the scared 19/20 yo was going to be okay. So I googled him. All it took was the one sentence under “personal life” on his Wikipedia page: “Conley resides in New York City with his husband.” (edited) 4y
GingerAntics @TheBookHippie after that I happily finished the book. If you‘re not sure, I‘d go for the TEDtalk first. He‘s much more humorous in that one, and you get to see for yourself that he‘s fine with all this, he‘s cool with his parents. So you can see it all worked out. I think knowing that going in really helps when you get to the hardest/most heartbreaking parts of the book. 4y
TheBookHippie I‘ll try it when I return home from vacation 😩 so afraid. Oye. 4y
GingerAntics @TheBookHippie I was, too. I knew if I didn‘t read it while I had it, I‘d have to be on the waiting list for another 6 months, so I just read it. The build up is way worse. 4y
ItsAnotherJen Thank you so much for sharing the link to his TED talk. 3y
GingerAntics @JenFowler I enjoyed his talk as much as the book. He‘s clearly a very nice guy. I love that he‘s turned out okay after all the madness from his teen years. 3y
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Wow. Just wow. This book is short but powerful. The things people will do to other people in an effort to force their beliefs on others is despicable. Books like this, situations like this, make me grateful that I have severed all ties with people who believe in madness like this.
Garrard is a strong and amazing man. He has more love in his little finger than I may ever have.
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GingerAntics I have no idea how he‘s managed to forgive his parents for sending him to 8 days of hell. I don‘t know how he‘s gotten past the year he spent trying to live in his academic world and his parents conservative Christian world, simultaneously. I‘m so thankful and glad he‘s had the courage to write this book, to put everything out there for the world to see. I‘m so happy I‘ve googled him and found he has a husband now. 👇🏻👇🏻👇🏻 4y
GingerAntics I hope they are happy together. I hope he is happy now. I hope that the self loathing, eating disorder, and suicidal ideation are mere memories now. The photos I‘ve seen online seem to suggest that this is likely the case. The people who gave this book a “so-so” because they disagreed with the methods in the conversion therapy are completely short changing Conley for the wonderful writer and incredibly brave human being he is. 👇🏻👇🏻👇🏻 4y
GingerAntics At least, I hope that‘s what they were disagreeing with. If they are disagreeing with his mental health and his happiness despite the madness found within this book, I‘m going to have to restrain myself from telling them where they can go and what they can do there. I am so glad he walked out of that madness when they got pissed a him for not being angry, and never went back. 👇🏻👇🏻👇🏻 (edited) 4y
GingerAntics I‘m glad his mother realised her son didn‘t need to be there and refused to ever bring him back. He is the bravest, badassest man and I love him. #boyerased #garrardconley #brave #lgbtq #badass 4y
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GingerAntics
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I know otherwise intelligent people who will never reach this point. They will never understand the world around them, they will never experience some of the amazing history of the world or science that explains it, because it‘s not biblical. I love these people and I feel sorry for them.
#garrardconley #boyerased #science #history #censorship

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GingerAntics
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This madness damaged people, it damages families. Homosexuality has never damaged a single person or a single family who didn‘t hold the bigoted, hateful beliefs propagated by these camps. These should be outlawed in every and all civil societies. Period.
#garrardconley #boyerased #conversiontherapy #abuse #barbaric

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GingerAntics
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I‘m sorry, no one is working for any kind of decent deity when they traffic in human suffering, personal hurt, and emotional scars. The mantra of “hurt people hurt people” is just an excuse to continue hurting people and to not take responsibility for the pain and suffering people cause other people.
#garrardconley #boyerased #hurtpeoplehurtpeople #totalcrap #excuses

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GingerAntics
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I was happy to see that while his father was an ordained Baptist Missionary pastor, he didn‘t end his relationship with his only child after he left the madness of conversion therapy.
#garrardconley #boyerased #fathersandsons

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GingerAntics
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For a group of people who love to tout that “all things are possible with Jesus,” they sure do love writing people off who have even the slightest difference in world view.
#boyerased #garrardconley #humanityisnotanillness

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GingerAntics
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Yes, because it‘s better to stay silent about pedophilia than to talk about sex or protect children. 🙄 These groups like to condemn Catholicism for the exact same thing. I guess they‘re just trying to redirect everyone‘s attention from their own perversions.
#garrardconley #boyerased #childabuse #stopchildabuse #protectthechildren

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GingerAntics
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You mean like the belief system your torturing these people with?! FFS
I never heard of this kind of insanity until I moved to Texas. Even seemingly kind people believe that sometimes this sort of thing is necessary. I‘ve heard people say “Being gay isn‘t a sin in and of itself. You can‘t control that. Acting on it is a sin, so just don‘t act on it. Just be celebrate.” WTF
I‘m sorry but this mentality is totally twisted.
#garrardconley #boyerased

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GingerAntics
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The idea that anyone can “pray away” their sexuality is ridiculous. Hell, they think more prayer will keep teenagers from having sex. That‘s why teen pregnancy is so much higher in these areas than in other areas where parents take a slightly more realistic approach.
#garrardconley #boyerased #humansexuality #conservative #headinthesand