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The Book You Wish Your Parents Had Read
The Book You Wish Your Parents Had Read: (and Your Children Will Be Glad That You Did) | Philippa Perry
"A beautifully comprehensive look at what it might mean to be a sane and emotionally intelligent parent . . . hugely warm, wise, hopeful and encouraging."--Alain de Botton, author of How Proust Can Change Your Life Instant #1 Sunday Times Bestseller Every parent wants their child to be happy and every parent wants to avoid screwing them up (they way their parents did!). But how do you do that? In this absorbing, clever, and warm book, renowned psychotherapist Philippa Perry tells us what really matters and what behavior it is important to avoid--the vital dos and don'ts of parenting. Her approach begins with parents themselves and their own psychological make-up and history--and how that in turn influences one's parenting. Instead of mapping out the "perfect" plan, Perry offers a big-picture look at the elements that lead to good parent-child relationships. This refreshing judgement-free book will help you to: * Understand how your own upbringing may affect your parenting * Accept that you will make mistakes and learn what you can do about them * Break negative cycles and patterns * Handle your own and child's feelings * Understand what different behaviors communicate Full of sage and sane advice, The Book You Wish Your Parents Had Read is one every parent will want to read and every child will wish their parents had.
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readingjedi
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Bailedbailed

I read about 20% then skim read the rest. It's all great advice but nothing I didn't already know and I found it a bit repetitive. It's very accessible and well explained, but it's the sort of thing that I find so tedious to read in anything more than meme sized chunks! My bad!

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readingjedi
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Starting this one. Not entirely sure why I requested this one from NetGalley as I really don't like/enjoy self-help books and the parenting guides I've read in the past just gave me The Rage so I'm understandably weary.

Leniverse Good luck 😕😬 Parenting guides tend to enrage me too. 2y
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youneverarrived
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I‘ve read quite a few parenting books (since becoming a Mam I really love learning about child psychology etc) and this is my favourite by far. A lot of it made sense to me & it‘s very accessible and insightful. One I will keep and return to. ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️

Thanks @squirrelbrain for sending me this a while back 😘

squirrelbrain You‘re welcome. I skimmed through a library copy a while ago as I bought it for another friend who had just had a baby and wanted to check it out first. It seems eminently readable, with a lot of sensible advice. Looking forward to hearing your news soon! 2y
youneverarrived @squirrelbrain it‘s brilliant. Did your friend like it too? I was telling my Mam about it and she‘s reading and enjoying it now aswell 👍 2y
squirrelbrain Yes, he did! I like Philippa Perry - think she gives great, practical advice. 2y
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youneverarrived
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I‘ve been wanting to read this book Helen 😁😁 and I love the notebook! 😍 thank you so much, it‘s much appreciated! 😘

Thank you Kay for the card 🤗😘

TrishB Sorry I‘ve missed it- have a lovely day 🎉🎉 3y
Cathythoughts Happy Birthday 🥳❤️ 3y
Libby1 Happy birthday! 😊 3y
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squirrelbrain I hoped you hadn‘t read it already...! Have a fantastic day! 😘 3y
batsy Happy birthday! Have a fabulous day 🎂💐💕 3y
kaysworld1 Happy birthday 🎂🥳🎉🎈🎁🎊 3y
youneverarrived @TrishB no worries, thank you 😘 3y
youneverarrived @squirrelbrain it‘s one I‘ve been meaning to buy! Thank you 😘😘 3y
Caroline2 Happy birthday! 🥳 book is on its way. Sorry it‘s late!! 😘 3y
youneverarrived @Caroline2 thank you so much! 😘😘 3y
Caroline2 You‘re welcome! My Amazon account says it should have hopefully arrived. 👍 3y
youneverarrived @Caroline2 I've just got back from my hols and it's here 😃 it sounds right up my street and the cover is beautiful, can't wait to read it. Thank you 😘 3y
Caroline2 You‘re welcome. 😁 me and squirrel brain read it for a buddy read and we both really enjoyed it. 👍 3y
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Caroline2
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DNF 50%. I don‘t like parenting books that focus on what not to do and use extreme examples of “when things go bad!” This was clearly written by a privileged, middle class mum with just one child. Some working class families, both parents have to work to pay the bills! Some of her examples made me cry. 🥺

GingerAntics I found the whole brained child to be useful in dealing with all people, actually. It needs to be changed to the whole brained person and everyone needs to read it. 4y
monkeygirlsmama Awww, I'm sorry it was such a disaster read. 😢 I have a hard time with a lot of advice/self help books for that same reason. So many authors write as if their perspective and way is the ONLY way and that everyone who doesn't read their book and immediately subscribe to their theories is a horrible person. Not all advice/self help books are like that, of course, but far too many. :/ 4y
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Caroline2 @GingerAntics Yes! I loved that book too. 👍 😉 4y
Caroline2 @monkeygirlsmama Yep! You‘ve hit the nail on the head with that for this one. I‘ve read quite a few self help books and some are really good but sadly a lot are how you describe them. 4y
GingerAntics @Caroline2 I read it for my NaNo project a few years back, but it‘s amazing how handy it‘s been in dealing with every human on the planet, especially considering more adults don‘t regulate themselves at the level they expect from their children or the children around them. 4y
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Anna40
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Loved it. Many 'suggestions' make sense and tie into the idea of trusting your intuition and gut rather than following strategies that might work for one child in a specific situation but do NOT work for your child- something I have often experienced when reading parenting books. Flexibility, empathy and learning about your own and your children's feelings and how our children's behavior is co-created with ours are key elements in parenting.

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eeclayton So true! 4y
Anna40 @eeclayton I agree! True for every relationship, not only with our children, but also our partner, friends, co-workers... 4y
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Caroline2
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Be interesting to see if this book lives up to its title...! 😬 #bookmail

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Chelsea.Poole
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I often find parenting books boring, condescending, and/or unrealistic. This one was refreshingly simple and straightforward. I mainly listened to the #audiobook and read along (during our long trip home from the beach yesterday) and the narration by the British author was 👍🏻. There are definitely wise points throughout that I hope to utilize in my parenting journey. Main takeaways: behaviors are feelings, feelings aren't good/bad - just are,⬇️

Chelsea.Poole as parents, the feelings our children have remind us of our own experiences and it is uncomfortable so we like to ignore, scold, or undermine valid feelings in our children. This book encourages empathy for our kids and discussing the feeling at the root of the behavior, no matter the age of the child. Being aware of how we were treated as children is helpful when parenting the next generation. #parenting #nonficiton 4y
Smrloomis Oh! This actually sounds good 😂 Can you tell I‘ve mostly read the books you‘re talking about - boring, condescending & unrealistic? 4y
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KatWDV
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Just started this. I‘m reserving judgement for now.

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