This book has a lot of #truth in it. As a #childlessbychoice woman, I have had a lot of friends try to justify/validate their decision to have kids to me. I‘m all, “whatever, do your thing.” I have found there‘s very little validation for childless women, at least in the South.
Skeebies05 “Oh but you‘d be a great mom” 🙄🙄 I get that one a lot. 6y
Charysselya Yes! Also child free by choice :)! 6y
Megabooks @Skeebies05 Yes 🤬🙄🙄 6y
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Megabooks @Indiefishsteak Ah yes it‘s child free not childless. I always get it wrong. Whoops! 😬😬 6y
TsundokuAleax It is the same up north. It tends to be more of people you know but I am lucky that I don't run into it as often as I did a few years ago. I have friends who deal with all sorts of terrible things said to them. 6y
Lreads I am also child free by choice. People have made wrong assumptions about me such as I must hate kids or I must be selfish. I‘ve also been made to feel like an outsider because of my choice. 6y
mrsh62010 This is me, one more person validating your child free by choice decision 6y
ericas If you want to cheer up immediately ask a teenager mother what's like to have children :-) The important for me is to be free to choose and never regret the choice whatever it is. 6y
cherinium My child free status was not by choice in the beginning. However, I read this book and came out on the other side feeling as if I had dodged a bullet.![[tagged book]](https://image.librarything.com/pics/litsy_webpics/icon_taggedBook@3x.png)
Childfree and Loving It! 6y
Childfree and Loving It!Zelma Mr. Z and I are oddballs here in south Louisiana in choosing not to have kids. People just can‘t wrap their minds around it. The toughest part lately is having less of a social circle and some friends cutting us off because we don‘t fit into their parent lifestyle. It‘s noticeable when friends post their mom group posts online. 🙄😟 6y
Zelma It‘s so nice to find other people who get it! @Skeebies05 @Indiefishsteak @Megabooks @TsundokuAleax @QuietlyLaura @mrsh62010 @ericas @cherinium ❤️ 6y
Megabooks Has anyone else been relegated to lunch with childed friends? Nights are for family; weekends are for friends with kids. I need a frequent diner card at Panera and Mellow Mushroom. I wish we lived near each other! @Skeebies05 @Indiefishsteak @TsundokuAleax @QuietlyLaura @mrsh62010 @ericas @cherinium @Zelma 6y
Megabooks @ericas I am strangely obsessed with Unexpected on TLC and Teen Mom OG on MTV (now with Bristol Palin 😮😜) 6y
TsundokuAleax @Megabooks I totally get that one. I have a lot of friends who are difficult to see unless they can bring the kids. Or they act like I am terrible if I want to hang out away from the family. But the good part is that those are few and far between.Thankfully I have a number of friends who are child free. 6y
Megabooks @TsundokuAleax yeah, since I‘m not working now, a lot of friends with children want to meet while their kids are in school - lunch, afternoon walks or coffee. Unfortunately, I just moved and all the people I already knew had kids, so I‘m working on the child free friends. Any suggestions on how to meet some? 6y
Zelma @Megabooks Bristol Palin is on Teen Mom? Wow, I am not surprised at all. 🙄😬 6y
Zelma @Megabooks @TsundokuAleax I‘ve had a slightly different experience. I tried to stay friends with everyone I knew with kids, working around their schedules in weird, inconvenient ways. End result has been most of our acquaintances drifting away from us as we have less in common or don‘t fit it their parent groups. The families we‘re still close to make it work and we do dinner/game nights, albeit usually at their house when the kids go to to bed! 6y
Megabooks @Zelma That‘s another difference is that I don‘t have a spouse/partner, so that‘s made it extra difficult to stay friends with couples. People really don‘t know where to stick you when you have no spouse or kid! 6y
Zelma @Megabooks I imagine that‘s even tougher. I‘m lucky in that I have a lot of child free friends (single and couples) and that was also the case when I was single. I definitely cultivate those relationships when I find them, but it is challenging not to fit into society‘s narrow classifications. I also seek friendships with people who have adult children. 6y
Lreads @Zelma @Megabooks It is nice to find others who understand that we aren‘t bad people because we chose to be child free. It‘s also hard to find people who read! At least there is Litsy! ☺️ 6y
TsundokuAleax @Megabooks Honestly the single part is harder than the child free. People have stopped inviting me places or trying to hang out because...reasons. There are never any mentioned or given, it just slowly happens. That is probably the hardest part. And I will say it is different as a female than it is for males. I know single guys who still hang out with those people no problem. 6y
Megabooks @Zelma yes, society so promotes like with like. I‘m finally getting to the age that someone with an adult child would see me as a peer. (38) Again, going far outside my age range is more difficult since I just moved back to my hometown and everyone still sees me as high school Meg. Although strangely I‘ve made friends with my mom‘s friends (67-80) and sub in her bridge group. 6y
Megabooks @TsundokuAleax I really think they think you‘re going to steal their husband/partner. But most of my married girlfriends I have to find time to hang out with alone. 6y
Megabooks @QuietlyLaura @Zelma 🥂 cheers 🥂 to people who understand (and good books) 6y
TsundokuAleax @Megabooks Yeah, I had to explain this the guy who still hangs with everyone. He was baffled by it completely. The funny part is that I identify as demi so their partners are in no danger from me. 6y
Megabooks @TsundokuAleax I‘m gray-a, so similar here. I haven‘t been in a relationship in over 10 years. 6y
TsundokuAleax @Megabooks Ah, the joys of not fitting the narrative. 6y
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