📕The Gift of Failure: How the Best Parents Learn to Let Go So Their Children Can Succeed
💻 Roxane Gay
📽 Gilmore Girls & The Goonies
🎧 Garbage & Genesis
🎼 Galileo by the Indigo Girls
#ManicMonday #LetterG
📕The Gift of Failure: How the Best Parents Learn to Let Go So Their Children Can Succeed
💻 Roxane Gay
📽 Gilmore Girls & The Goonies
🎧 Garbage & Genesis
🎼 Galileo by the Indigo Girls
#ManicMonday #LetterG
An excellent book for giving us the science and stats behind the helicopter parent epidemic and how to give your child autonomy and promote intrinsic motivation. Bottom line, let your kids fail and see what strategies work or don't work. My mom always said she did her time in school and my projects weren't her responsibility and, while I do help my kids, I totally understand the pride you have that comes with autonomy and ownership.
Next up in the TBR pile.📚
P.S. Letting go SUCKS.
In regards to family contributions, not chores, children can do around the house:
"Replacing toilet paper when it's gone. Leave the way the roll spins to your child's discretion."
Woah... just... woah...
I feel the same way as I did when I heard Marie Kondo thinks you only need 30 books. I haven't conditioned my children to have them start a toilet paper mutiny!!!!! ?
"It takes more time to teach a child to clean a toilet than to clean the toilet ourselves, as is the case with about every worthwhile lesson, and we just did not have that kind of time anymore."
When it's put into words, I really see what disservice we're doing to our kids.
I rarely read books because celebrities are talking about them, but @HarperCollins featured Kristen Bell with this on IG. After 10 minutes, I'm starting to think this needs to be handed out in hospitals!!! I put a lot of responsibility on my kids because I'm raising adults, not adult children, but I definitely see a few of my shortcomings already being pointed out.
Such an interesting read. Currently on the chapter about sports. A huge factor of tension for kids and parents.
So #24in48 didn't work out. I'm looking ahead to #diverseathon and being kind in my expectations of myself.
I needed to read this book. As parents, we're overprotecting and coddling our kids so they aren't learning how to function on their own. Stop giving rewards for grades (oops) or every little thing they do. Have kids learn the intrinsic value of their behaviors and natural consequences.