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The Purity Myth: How America's Obsession with Virginity is Hurting Young Women | Jessica Valenti

We‘ve seen time and time again just how many men involved in the conservative right are all about porn and homosexuality in secret, when they think they can get away with it.
#ThePurityMyth #JessicaValenti #truth #doublestandard #morallycorrupt #morallowground

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kaysworld1

Complete Poems of Frances E.W. Harper | Frances Ellen Watkins Harper

Mrs Frances Ellen Watkins Harper you are an amazing Poet and I am so grateful to find your poetry on audio, so far my favourite is Double Standard and oh so true it is.
I am glad to read you were born free and you had a very successful career in poetry.
#blackfemaleauthors #audio #africanamericanpoet #poetry #femaleauthors #listerningobooks #doublestandard #greatauthors #everyonemustread ❤️📚🍁📚📚📚📚📚

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GingerAntics

The Beauty Myth | Naomi Wolf

A chapter ago, she said the double standard had died. Hm. 🤔🤔🤔
#thebeautymyth #naomiwolf #doublestandard

julesG There have been double standards for so long, probably longer than humans have counted time. I wish we could just overcome it, but it seems to be part of our DNA. 6y

GingerAntics @julesG I don‘t know about that. Double standards have existed since the beginning of time in patriarchal societies, but in matriarchal societies everyone ends up equal. Women, when put in charge, don‘t see men as the enemy or someone to be controlled, they see them as partners. It‘s just a totally different mentality that in today‘s society is seen as weak and useless, but it would make the world better. 6y

GingerAntics @julesG it may be part of male DNA, but even that is going too far because not every guy believes in the double standards these days. Just look at Neil Gaiman. Thank god he had a son. 6y

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julesG I totally ignored matriarchal societies. And with part of our DNA I was, of course, exaggerating. 😉 But it feels like that, as if it was so ingrained in all of us, through our societies. Argh! Makes me so angry! I'd love to live in a matriarchal society. 6y

GingerAntics @julesG a lot of work has been done to erase matriarchal societies, and if anyone remembers them now, the gut reaction has been set up to be “oh thats unnatural.” 🙄 I‘d love to live in one, too. I think most people would like it if they tried. I want to buy an island and make it a matriarchal society and we can all move there. It probably won‘t last long. We probably won‘t have a standing army. 🤔 6y

julesG Met a stranger on a train last year. He was from the amazon rain forest, from a matriarchal tribe. It was very interesting to talk to him. 6y

GingerAntics @julesG oh wow, really? That had to be interesting. He must be looking around, appalled at how little people care about women and children, education, working things out with words instead of guns. Hm. I wasn‘t sure places still existed like that. I thought Christianity destroyed them all. That‘s uplifting. 6y

julesG He was in his 50s. He got a scholarship from a Catholic school when he was about 10, made it to university in the states and now worked for a diamond broker, travelling between the major diamond trading cities. He had married a woman from a rural area in West Germany. He told me, he had to explain the concept of marriage to his mother, the matriarch of his tribe. He was very very polite and respectful towards me and another female passenger.... 6y

julesG ....travelling with an infant. We really had a lovely chat for two hours, until we all had to change trains in the next big city. The both of us women encouraged him to write down his story. He had so much to share, about his tribe his life. I remember him saying that he preferred Europe to the US. But of course, the western political/cultural systems were still a shock to him at first. But he was introduced to these in his youth, so he adjusted 6y

GingerAntics @julesG oh my god, a woman‘s dream!!! Wow, he had to explain marriage to his mother. Hm. That‘s interesting. From a survival stand point, that makes sense. Most matriarchal societies I‘ve read about are more communal. In some, a man can claim a child after it‘s born or it‘s just a child of the community. In others, every kid is a child of the community. They thrive on this whole “it takes a village” thing. (edited) 6y

GingerAntics @julesG yeah, I would imagine that if you come from a society where women are seen as people, then you come out into western society and women are less than human it would be a bit of a shock. 6y

julesG He said, in his tribe a woman chooses her mate. She may choose to keep/stay with him as long as she was happy in the relationship. But they don't have marriages, relationships don't have to be for life and he himself had a few real siblings and half-siblings. So, him getting married, he explained it as a love-contract to his mother. 6y

GingerAntics @julesG Hm, that‘s an interesting way to put it. With the crazy divorce rates and people staying in horrible marriages “for the kids” or whatever stupid reasons, I‘m seriously beginning to question marriage. That makes so much sense. Men have to behave and treat their women well or they will leave. It‘s logic. We teach girls that only hussies leave bad men. Just look at these abuse cycles. 6y

GingerAntics @julesG at least in America, it‘s gotten to the point that mothers - middle class, upper class, everyone - actually feed their infant daughters LESS. It‘s socially sanctioned child abuse against girls and no one cares. 🤦🏼‍♀️ Parts of this book are great. Parts of this book are infuriating. I swear. 6y

julesG Also, due to communal childcare, care for each other, no woman is dependent on a man. Everyone is an equal member of the group, has to contribute, but is also supported by the community. 6y

GingerAntics @julesG exactly!!! And that‘s what happens when women are in charge. I‘ve heard people who had all sons and were so happy about it, once they‘ve gotten old they‘re all “I should have had a daughter so someone could take care of me in my old age. I‘m going to have to go to a nursing home now.” 🙄 Girls are almost seen as automatic feee labour. It‘s ridiculous. 6y

julesG 🙈🙈🙈 Why oh why? 6y

julesG I know, it's been like that for ages: Girls being less, being free labour, taking care of elderly family members as well as younger siblings.... I always try to remedy this with my kids, but even I notice a gender divide in my home. My son often says, he doesn't do a certain task, his sister could do it. He doesn't get away with it. It means an ear full, plus doing the task and one of his sisters for being an ass. Tough job! 6y

GingerAntics @julesG good job, mum!!! More parents need to do it. I have no idea where these kids get the idea that their sisters will just pick up their slack. 6y

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GingerAntics

The Beauty Myth | Naomi Wolf

Where does Naomi Wolf live that the sexual double standard no longer exists? I figured out there was a double standard between me (and other girls) and the boys in about third grade (1994). The double standard never went anywhere here in America. Where does Wolf live, because I want to move there.
#naomiwolf #thebeautymyth #goingdownhillfast #shouldhavequitwhileshewasahead #doublestandard

Literary_Siren For real! I HATE the double standard. I have to work twice as hard and I‘m twice as smart as most of the boys around me. 6y

GingerAntics @Literary_Siren it‘s every where from “good girls don‘t...” to of a guy has a bunch of sexual partners he‘s a “pimp” or a “playa” or desirable, if a woman has more than one or two partners she‘s a whore. 🙄 I‘m with you on being annoyed. We‘re usually more qualified, but somehow we still have to work twice as hard. The thing that annoys me the most is when guys find out I‘m a historian, they tend to assume I‘m a women‘s historian. 🙄 6y

julesG Why would you be a women's historian? That's so sexist. Not all female doctors are gynecologists. 😤 6y

GingerAntics @julesG THANK YOU!!! 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 I swear, my masters program was mostly women, and the ONE student who was really interested in women‘s history was a MAN!!! 6y

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GingerAntics

One Nation, Under Gods: A New American History | Peter Manseau

Rather disheartening that among all of the other glimmering bits of cultural awareness in this book, Manseau has decided to continue with the “ours is real, yours is mythology” doctrine. It‘s sad. It negates a lot of what he has to say. I guess he‘s not as aware and open minded as he‘d like us to believe.
#petermanseau #onenationundergods #mythology #religion #history #religioushistory #doublestandard

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niftytiffd

We Should All Be Feminists | Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie

This!! 👏 #truth #doublestandard 😡

JanuarieTimewalker13 True. I just wish everyone (male and female) would cry their anger away.... then pick themselves up and do something g about it. Not take it out on other people, you know? 8y

Hooked_on_books Loved this book! I want to stand on street corners and hand out copies. 8y

niftytiffd @JanuarieTimewalker13 Absolutely!! @Hooked__on__books Same here! 💁📕 8y

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britt_brooke

Kurt Vonnegut: The Last Interview: And Other Conversations | Kurt Vonnegut

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Laura317 Obviously, Vonnegut wasn't a fan of religion. I find it scary that people think it is perfectly ok to put people who believe a certain way on a reservation. 😱😱😱 If he had said some other group, folks would be all up in arms. 8y

britt_brooke @Laura317 Oh, I agree. I really don't think he was being serious. 8y

OrangeMooseReads 👏 oh Kurt he knew how to get the people talking. 8y

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britt_brooke @OrangeMooseReads Absolutely! 8y

Laura317 The thing that concerns me is that folks will say "oh, so and so is just kidding," when it come to Christians, but if the same is said about other groups, it's taken seriously. In today's world, we really can't jokingly say things like this. #doublestandard 8y

britt_brooke @Laura317 I'm not easily offended by religious criticism. He does not specifically mention Christians in this passage. ? He says "religious fundamentalists." That could be extremists from any religion. 8y

Laura317 @britt_brooke Point taken. 😉I am not offended by religious criticism. Goodness knows I see it all the time in this world. Wonder what group of fundamentalists Vonnegut was referring to, then? 8y

britt_brooke @Laura317 I think he was generalizing. 8y

britt_brooke @Laura317 I appreciate your point and our discussion. 👍🏻 8y

Laura317 @britt_brooke 👍🏼 8y

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Thekelburrows

Strong Poison | Dorothy L. Sayers

My on-going love affair with Lord Wimsey continues.

Desha Me too!!! BIG Dorothy Sayers fan lol 😜😍📚 8y

quirkyreader I love how this cover tried 8y

quirkyreader tries to make Lord Peter look like Mike Hammer and Sam Spade. 8y

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Thekelburrows @Desha I love them all. @quirkyreader Agreed it is a hilariously strange cover. 8y

Verity That cover is nuts. Kinda brilliant in its total not rightness though. I'm listening to Strong Poison on audio for the umpteenth time again at the moment. 8y

Pete I like how she's suspect but this dude is Cosby-ing her drink #doublestandard 8y

Thekelburrows @Pete you are a treasure, sir. 8y

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