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Chrissyreadit
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This chapter was interesting- It seemed to have a significant overlap with parts work as well as shadow work. The part that gives up, the part that gets distracted, the part that perseveres… I can relate to all of it. The concept of shadow work is in accepting the parts of ourselves we are uncomfortable with. Through a somatic lens it‘s recognizing the body and brain want us to be safe. My ADHD brain is better suited to some tasks!

Chrissyreadit I know there are times i‘ve had to be stern with myself, use timers and trackers as well as ask for help and grace. This activity is a great example! I love it- but reading, then writing questions all require my focus more than most tasks- and Sometimes it feels overwhelming- and i‘m easily distracted. But once i start i‘m all in!!! 1w
TheBookHippie No. And people get so upset that this is true of me 🫠😝😅🫣 … 1w
Cuilin Ugh ADHD here too. I go between hating this about myself and then other times completely just accepting it and going with the flow. (And if that is not an indicator of being ADHD, I don‘t know what is lol) but I‘m tired of carrying the shame and guilt. 1w
kspenmoll Please do not,try not to feel shame, guilt. It‘s such a struggle,I know.My mom had our family very organized- school, homework, rotating work chart-I learned to be open about my ADD but it is easy at work as I work with spec ed students-also, much of my family is similar.The ability to hyper focus is a gift- losing things or leaving them behind is not! but the Tile app is my best friend for finding keys, wallet, even my kindle !!!! 1w
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Chrissyreadit
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Sorry- I am definitely a week or so behind.
I do believe names are important- and are why people have nicknames, change their name, use a married name or keep their name from birth. I personally love hearing how people came by their names too. I think names may speak about who we are- there are people who shorten their name and people who use completed names- go by formal address or first names. It all helps us start the conversation.

Chrissyreadit It is also telling when people purposely use the wrong name or title. 1w
TheBookHippie @Chrissyreadit it‘s abusive when they refuse to use your name. 1w
TheBookHippie So what schedule should we use? It‘s chapter 5 for this current week yes? 1w
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Chrissyreadit @TheBookHippie yes i will work on questions for next week for chapter 5 1w
TheBookHippie Names have power. Especially for women. And the Ms Miss Mrs thing is a tool of the patriarchy. 1w
BookwormAHN @TheBookHippie I so agree. Also is it just me or is it weird when you get switched from a Miss to Ma'am by the people working at Walmart? 1w
dabbe I am soooooo behind! 😩 1w
ravenlee One of the things about my husband‘s family (him included) that has baffled me for 20 years is that they‘re weird about names. Hub‘s sister is rarely called by her name, just her first initial (which is mine, too, and confused me at first). The cat my MIL had when I met hubby, the cat who loved him and despised me, was never called by her name (Ivy), but was any number of insulting nicknames, including “GrayFat.” 👇🏻 1w
ravenlee Everything and everybody has some weird pseudonym, and it has taken me years to sort out who they‘re talking about. I still don‘t get some of them. 🤷🏻‍♀️ 1w
kspenmoll I am behind reading. What chapter are we on? Apologies everyone! Been in a reading slump. Oops just saw this week is ch.4 Despite not having read this ch. I do believe names have power. I was named for my paternal grandmother & I feel a kinship with her & her life story despite the fact she was dead before I was born. There are so many instances of names & the power they hold. (edited) 1w
TheBookHippie @BookwormAHN it‘s an insult! 1w
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GingerAntics
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This sounds like what it feels like to have ADHD… but for everything. I wonder if that means ADHD people are never having deep spirituality or something. lol
#ClarissaPinkolaEstes #WomenWhoRunWithTheWolves @Chrissyreadit @CaroPi, @Cuilin, @TheBookHippie, @Deblovestoread, @zezeki, @BookwormAHN, @PathfinderNicole, @ravenlee, @dabbe, @ElizaMarie, @ImperfectCJ, @nanuska_153, @nosufoxes, @lil1inblue

Bookwomble ADHD can come in the flavour of intense focus that's hard to disengage from, so perhaps us ADHDers can enter altered states of consciousness more easily in certain circumstances 🤔 2w
Cuilin @GingerAntics @Bookwomble I can certainly get into zen “flow” as an ADHDer. I just can‘t predict or schedule when it will happen. 2w
Bookwomble @Cuilin Yep! 😏 2w
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Deblovestoread As a mother who raised an ADHD son I can verify that if the activity was something he liked he could would be all in if the timing was right. Put a fishing pole in his hands it was the most zen thing I ever saw. 2w
GingerAntics @Bookwomble @Cuilin @Deblovestoread I had forgotten the flow state we can slip into so well… good point. 2w
dabbe @Bookwomble I see this emoji a lot, but I can't make out what it is with my old eyes. What is this? 🫂 2w
Bookwomble @dabbe Two people hugging in a non-sexual, consensual and supportive fashion 😊 2w
dabbe @Bookwomble I LOVE it! What's it called so I can find it? I've tried looking under “heart“, but it doesn't come up. 2w
Bookwomble @dabbe Search emojis for "hug" ?? 2w
dabbe @Bookwomble Yay! Thank you! 🫂 2w
Chrissyreadit One of my favorite books on ADHD is ADHD 2.0 I know that there were so many things i could not understand about myself until the past few years and that book has been a great tool. Also Breathework. On a more personal thought- The co morbidity of ADHD and CPTSD would be someone who is always alert but unable to sink in for fear of losing alertness of environment. I think when we feel safe and interested magic can happen. 2w
GingerAntics @Chrissyreadit I wasn‘t aware of the comorbidity between ADHD and CPTSD… but that makes SO much sense to me. I‘ll have to go look this up. 2w
Chrissyreadit @GingerAntics It‘s not that there is common comorbidity- it‘s the when there is co morbidity- yes look up!!! I could have a huge convo about ADHD- that i considere a superpower- until i became sick AND developed PTSD- everything became challenging…. 2w
GingerAntics @Chrissyreadit oh, I‘ve had PTSD since my childhood. I just never thought of them together. 2w
Chrissyreadit @GingerAntics - that‘s why i was thinking you are not experiencing just ADHD- you have neurodivergence and trauma. It‘s a lot to look at- but most of all your body and brain is in a survival loop- and trauma can keep you emotionally responding in a way that made sense when you were actively living in trauma…. just stuff to explore- and i think you will find it good to explore and find strategies that make sense for you ❤️ 2w
GingerAntics @Chrissyreadit girl, you are speaking my language… though I may still be actively living in trauma. We‘ll see how much of a home health nurse I am come Tuesday. Sigh 2w
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Chrissyreadit
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I think about how we all have our own perspectives and often struggle to see a big picture or accept other perspectives as valid. I would love to be able to feel grounded more often with clearer understanding of situations.

AmyG Same, probably, for all of us. Just takes more work, more awareness and being present. And listening fully to others. (edited) 2w
TheBookHippie I think we all struggle to think it‘s valid -so I switched to this is valid for them. Unless hateful- I don‘t generally care… I think it‘s very important to not dismiss lived experience- especially from someone marginalised. 2w
TheBookHippie I generally feel grounded. Especially in chaos -so I‘m doing fairly better than most in this current regime. Also being in social justice a long time helps. Peace within with chaos outside is the way to live. 2w
Cuilin I really embrace other people‘s opinions, I think having children who are very much of their generation has led me to explore and grow. I love learning I love hearing what other people have to say. For example, I am not a Taylor Swift fan, but I‘ve enjoyed watching people break down the new album and the lyrics both those who hated it and those who love it I find it fascinating. (edited) 2w
ravenlee I like the idea that the fiery skull shows what is behind the persona. It burns away the façade and allows us to see who someone truly is. I‘d like to think sometimes it‘s for the better, but generally not. 2w
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Chrissyreadit
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We often have “a feeling” but do not know how to respond. Have you ever questioned your intuition? I know that my intuition is often right but sometimes i ignore it because it is “inconvenient “.

AmyG I have been working on listening to my intuition more. How many times, in hindsight, have I realized I should have been listening to myself. But sometimes intuition is a fleeting thought proven correct all along. For me, it‘s trying to be aware of those. 2w
TheBookHippie Anytime I have not trusted my intuition or put it aside to avoid conflict- I have paid dearly. I don‘t do that anymore. Using No. As a complete sentence has helped me immensely. 2w
Cuilin @TheBookHippie Yes no is a complete sentence. Definitely works. I also like to use the pause. I literally say nothing but just keep looking, slightly quizzical. It makes people very uncomfortable, and they start filling in the gap themselves. Yeah, always go with your intuition. 2w
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TheBookHippie @Cuilin oh I‘m going to use that. Thank you. ♥️ 2w
Kerrbearlib I didn‘t used to listen to my intuition because I was taught not to trust it. I‘ve since realized society brainwashes people, especially women, to not trust our intuition. I think this quote from Controlling People sums it up perfectly: “many people have learned to distrust their own intuition and everyone else's, too. It was not so long ago that those who listened to their intuition were called witches and warlocks.” I trust my intuition now. 2w
ravenlee I feel like this could have a whole separate discussion about menopause/pre-menopause. As a “woman of a certain age,” there‘s a lot of question as to whether any of this is physical or mental/emotional. 2w
Chrissyreadit @ravenlee We can‘t win either- because everything is our fault. I was gaslit for almost a decade and it was perimenopause and menopause- combined with EDS it‘s all excruciating- 2w
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Chrissyreadit
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This is something that lives in my thoughts all the time… We are being fear mongered about immigrants.. vaccines… books…and because our brains are hard wired to seek safety it is easy for some people to give in to the fear mongering. In the end Baba Yaga was the provider of safety….

AmyG With all the fear mongering in our news, I have had moments of “fearful doubt”? I recently got vaccines and for a hot minute I felt fear. But I was able to tell myself, listen to myself, that this is science and nothing to fear. 2w
AmyG I also want to add….if someone I don‘t fully trust is trying to help me…well, that makes it more difficult to accept the help. 2w
TheBookHippie I was raised to question everything never take anything at face value. Especially the news, especially those in power. 2w
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TheBookHippie So fear of reaction to a vaccine or drug -yes -but only because I do have multiple medication allergies. It‘s a leap of faith for new things that they‘ll do more good than harm. Otherwise not that I can think of. 2w
Cuilin As an immigrant myself living in America, yeah I‘ve been full of fear a lot lately. It‘s definitely affecting my health. A few years ago, I was in a coffee shop and somebody said something to me about not being American and then ended it with, but you‘re the right type of immigrant so you‘re OK. Like WTF? They really thought that last line made things better. 2w
ravenlee There‘s so much fear of the unknown, fear of the different. It‘s particularly bad now, but it‘s not a recent phenomenon. People in general are afraid of what they do not understand. Sometimes that fear is protective, but it almost cuts off our realm of experience if we never push past it. 2w
Chrissyreadit @AmyG I do think as women it is much harder to trust the medical profession. 2w
Chrissyreadit @TheBookHippie knowing what we know of history it‘s a wonder we can trust anything at all…. 2w
Chrissyreadit @Cuilin I did not realize you are an immigrant! That definitely gives you a different perspective about so much of what is happening now. And Rascim is ugly- and Rascists are currently emboldened…. 2w
Chrissyreadit @Cuilin What are some ways you are caring for yourself? 2w
Chrissyreadit @ravenlee Yes- but also i feel like fear is being groomed and weaponized- and courage is not part of the equation. Especially for fox news watchers. 2w
Cuilin @Chrissyreadit Thanks for asking. I‘ve had some health issues which has kept me home quite a bit for the last two years and I‘m sure all of that is exacerbating my fear. I‘m doing better, getting daily exercise, eating right, etc 2w
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Chrissyreadit
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I have always felt a bit of connection to Baba Yaga. When my daughter was little she would ask me which disney princess i was and i always told her i was Baba Yaga. I believed deeply in the wisdom of the crone and fear mongering of witches….

TheBookHippie In my personal post I wrote of how I grew up with this story. I have always loved her. 2w
Cuilin All I knew honestly was from children‘s books like Tomie DePaola. I enjoyed these stories though. 2w
lil1inblue I've got to play catch-up! I don't want to say I got stuck on Chapter 2, but I needed to take it in small bits because it got heavy. I'm hoping to get to Chapter 3 this weekend! I do remember hearing about Baba Yaga from my 4th grade teacher, Mrs. Abrams (she was THE BEST), but I don't remember a lot of details. 2w
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GingerAntics I had never heard of her before this… at least not by the name. 2w
dabbe I'm with @lil1inblue. Chapter 2 was a LOT to digest. Never heard of Baba Yaga either ... can't wait to read about her! 🧡 2w
ravenlee I didn‘t grow up with Baba Yaga exactly, but I encountered the stories sometime in my adolescence. Now I‘m starting to think about elements of the BY/Vasilisa stories in books I‘ve read. For instance, Ilona Andrews incorporates Vasilisa into the Kate Daniels world (specifically the Roman novella Sanctuary), Patricia Briggs‘ Mercy Thompson series features a Baba Yaga who is involved in MLM sales… 2w
ravenlee …and I‘m starting to wonder if the heroine of Katherine Arden‘s Small Spaces is a Vasilisa. Well, I had an amazing literature mentor who leaned heavily into Jung/Campbell/Frye archetypes and I‘ve been conditioned to find archetypes in literature! 😆 2w
Chrissyreadit @lil1inblue @dabbe take your time- Chapters are a lot. There is always time to jump in where you are ❤️ 2w
Chrissyreadit @ravenlee I love that!! And i bet those archetypes appear in places we have not yet realized too! 2w
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Darklunarose I really enjoyed this book a few years back. And she isn‘t wrong about love. 3w
IriDas I‘m afraid I don‘t agree. If everything tells you to leave, you should look into that feeling. Because if you truly love, you won‘t get that feeling unless there‘s a very serious problem. 3w
AnnCrystal 💝💝💝. 3w
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Chrissyreadit @IriDas I think this is complicated and nuanced- and depends on the perspective of the quote for sure. You are right that too many times women stay in dangerous relationships with a misconception of love. Maybe the first step is defining healthy love, then feeling safe when it is healthy. 3w
kspenmoll @IriDas I truly appreciate your point of view and it certainly is valid. My perspective is different because of my 34 year-old marriage-early in our marriage my husband suffered a series of devastating losses: after 22 yrs.,he lost the job he was passionate about due to a buy out, his younger brother died suddenly, leaving behind an infant & 5 yr.old, his mother died of cancer. He succumbed to a deep depression. I was left to take care of ⬇️ (edited) 3w
kspenmoll @IriDas ⬆️ our 4 yr. old, manage the household, manage my ongoing recovery from a previous car accident, look for a job. I did indeed feel like “running” as fast as I could! But I chose to stay if he would get treatment.I was lucky to have the support of family & friends. He found the tight treatment, embraced it & worked his way back to the land of the living.In the process he was diagnosed with Autism like our son. I went to work & grad ⬇️ (edited) 3w
kspenmoll @IriDas school & he was home with our son. I know many women do not run from abusive situations- I have a sister & close friend who eventually left theirs.thank you for your response to this post; it certainly caused me to reflect more deeply on what I posted.💕💕 (edited) 3w
IriDas @kspenmoll Thanks for sharing your story. It helped understand your perspective and why that quote resonated with you. So glad to hear that your husband was willing to seek help. It truly makes me happy to hear. I realize that I too should have probably phrased my last sentence better. I wish we lived in a society where people didn‘t use quotes like this one to shame people into staying in bad situations and that more stories ended like yours. 💕 3w
Chrissyreadit @kspenmoll Thank you for sharing your story. The power of your resilience and love was beautiful. 3w
Chrissyreadit What did you go to grad school for? 3w
kspenmoll @Chrissyreadit My Masters is in Special Education! 3w
kspenmoll @Chrissyreadit ❤️❤️❤️ 3w
Chrissyreadit @🙌🙌💛🙌🙌 3w
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Chrissyreadit I have watched her before. I love this talk tbh. Thank you for sharing! 4w
GingerAntics @Chrissyreadit she is great. She‘s given others, too. I‘ve watched one other, but somewhere I read she‘d done several, so I must find them all. 4w
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