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Why Are All the Black Kids Sitting Together in the Cafeteria?
Why Are All the Black Kids Sitting Together in the Cafeteria?: And Other Conversations about Race (Large Print 16pt) | Beverly Daniel Tatum
Walk into any racially mixed high school and you will see black youth seated together in the cafeteria. Of course, it's not just the black kids sitting together-the white, Latino, Asian Pacific, and, in some regions, American Indian youth are clustered in their own groups, too. The same phenomenon can be observed in college dining halls, faculty lounges, and corporate cafeterias. What is going on here? Is this self-segregation a problem we should try to fix, or a coping strategy we should support? How can we get past our reluctance to talk about racial issues to even discuss it? And what about all the other questions we and our children have about race? Beverly Daniel Tatum, a renowned authority on the psychology of racism, asserts that we do not know how to talk about our racial differences: Whites are afraid of using the wrong words and being perceived as ''racist'' while parents of color are afraid of exposing their children to painful racial realities too soon. Using real-life examples and the latest research, Tatum presents strong evidence that straight talk about our racial identities-whatever they may be-is essential if we are serious about facilitating communication across racial and ethnic divides. We have waited far too long to begin our conversations about race. This remarkable book, infused with great wisdom and humanity, has already helped hundreds of thousands of readers figure out where to start.
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sdbruening
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Awesome book. Topics still very much relevant today even though it was written in the 90s. I appreciate that it seems like it was written for educators, so I feel like there are more tangible things and concepts I can apply at school. A great balance of anecdotes to increase empathy with research to back it up. She also addressed all categories of racial experiences, not just black.

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sdbruening
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As a teacher with many Hispanic students, this is great for me to know and incorporate. Familism (which is already part of music programs) and maintaining Spanish are important for the success of Hispanic students for their identity, family relationships, and academic success.

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sdbruening
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This author does a great job of explaining affirmative action.

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sdbruening
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What affirmative action originally looked like.

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sdbruening
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Succinct answer to the book title! In the next section the author describes how, because academic success is associated with white people, black students are afraid that being academically successful will alienate them from their black peers. I hope that has reduced since this book was written in the 90s but still sad.

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sdbruening
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I especially like the writing of that last sentence. In the absence of dissonance.

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jesuisdeanna
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The target audience for this book is educators and workplace leaders. I belong to neither of these categories but found it a good read nonetheless. She is very insightful on how racism is experienced by black people of different ages and socioeconomic statuses as well as by other minority groups. The history of racism in our country and policies that she provides is enough to make this worth the read.

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jesuisdeanna
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My first post, so I hope I'm doing this right!

I've been wanting to read this book for a long time so when ThriftBooks suggested it, I took it as a sign that now was the time. I'm neither Black nor White, but do feel that there is always more that I can learn. I'm about halfway through the book and so far it's been very informative and interesting.

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bookishbitch
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My next non-fiction read. It isn't enough to not be racist. We have to be antiracist, which means we have work to do. I have work to do. #tbrpile

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Megabooks
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While this is a good book, and I appreciate the updates the author did in 2016, most of it didn‘t feel as fresh or groundbreaking as it did when originally published in 1997. I think it shines best when discussing the education system/working environment and race relations and cross-racial adoption in the US. Although it is broad enough that others may find different takeaways. Thanks @Reviewsbylola for the rec! #audiobook #chirp ⬇️

Megabooks Are there any other NCAA basketball fans here on litsy? I finished this up while most of the Gonzaga/UCLA game was playing on mute. That shot!! Omg!!! That shot!! I‘m not super invested in any team left, but I love college basketball, and my heart broke for those UCLA players. Tyger especially impressed me. So smart, so scrappy!! 4y
vivastory @Megabooks I follow it casually unless KU is playing, but I heard about that shot! 4y
Megabooks @vivastory normally I only casually watch unless Duke is playing, but I always find someone to root for in the tournament. Definitely not Duke this year...😕 4y
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Scochrane26 I haven‘t watched this year but am kind of glad that the dominate teams aren‘t in it (UK/Duke), giving people some different teams to root for. I might watch the championship game. @megabooks (edited) 4y
Megabooks @Scochrane26 yeah it‘s so rare to see teams like Houston and Baylor in the Final Four. The Zags have been knocking at the door for years. Should be an interesting game! Michigan (and maybe UCLA) were the only teams you‘ve seen in the elite 8 very often that were there this year. No Mich St in the running either. Virginia, Kansas, and UNC were out early. Just such a weird year. 4y
Susanita That shot was amazing! 4y
Megabooks @Susanita I was so impressed! I‘m proud of how well UCLA did because that is a once in a career shot and UCLA came from the first four. NCAA highlight reel for Suggs/Gonzaga for sure! 4y
Cinfhen OMG!!! I‘m surprised you didn‘t hear my family‘s hooting last night!!! That buzzer shot!!!!!! 4y
Megabooks @Cinfhen right?!? I was watching alone and my parents think I‘m nuts to care this much about teams I don‘t normally watch, and I‘m like it‘s MARCH! 4y
mom2bugnbee I'm 48yo & I'm fairly certain that was the best game I've ever watched. MAYBE Duke/UK in 1992, but BOY was that amazing last night! I hated for either team to lose. 4y
Reviewsbylola I haven‘t read this one yet but working FT in the girls‘ school currently makes me even more excited to read it. 4y
Megabooks @Reviewsbylola I wonder who recommended it then. 🤔 4y
Reviewsbylola I think I‘ve posted about it. I just haven‘t actually read it. 😂 4y
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JoyBlue
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cozypunk
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Academic yet practical @BookBosomed1 would like to try #3wordreviews by @ShyBookOwl ?

#dw2021 Dr. Tatum writes about child & teen psychology and identity development with nuance. I wish every educator and parent could read this, but those two groups have the LEAST amount of time on their hands. 🙂🙃😴 Realistically, read these 3-ish sections: (continued in comments)

cozypunk Ch 2: The Complexity of Identity
Ch 10: Embracing a Cross-Racial Dialogue
Any chapter(s) that applies to your family / classroom
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BookBosomed1 Just now seeing this! Ack! 4y
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WriterAtHeart
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A great, informational read that deals with the development of racial identity. I also enjoyed listening to the updates in this 20th anniversary edition.

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cozypunk
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Triple kitties! #audiobook #catsoflitsy

cozypunk And it's over 2 minutes later. 🥺 4y
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cozypunk
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I was soooo anxious for my monthly Libro.fm credit to kick in! Now, I can start listening to this 20th anniversary edition - read by the author, Beverly Daniel Tatum #blitsy #nonfiction

P.S. I'm on a tight budge but I treated my*shelf* to a Libro.fm #audiobook subscription. Same price as Audible but shares it's profit with independent book stores.

Chelleo I read this many years ago but I really enjoyed it. 4y
Chrissyreadit @dandy.punk checking in about the Happily Ever After Swap - have you sent anything? Received anything? 4y
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AmberWB
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1. Currently reading the tagged book for a book study, as well as The Great Influenza.
2. You Should See Me In a Crown!!!! So good!
3. No surprise- it was also You Should See Me in a Crown. It has definitely been my favorite book this year.

#weekendreads. @rachelsbrittain

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nikirtehsuxlol
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via Me and White Supeemacy

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Reviewsbylola
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Found on Facebook.

Buying the tagged book that I had ordered from our local bookstore. Now need to think about adding a second title. #blackpublishingpower #blackoutbestselletlist

silentrequiem Love this idea! 4y
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Nerdfins
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Me a month ago when the Phases were announced: “Even if Barnes and Noble opened I still won‘t go out. Not in this pandemic!”
Today when Barnes and Noble opened: “I NEED TO GET OUT OF THIS HOUSE!”
My haul includes books about racism, Stonewall, and feminism. I also got a Golden Girls bookmark and a Pride themed book shirt. Good haul.

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UnRuLee
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Everyone needs to read this book. Run, don‘t walk.

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“Education does not have to mean alienation.”

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“Many of us are both dominant and subordinate....the thread and threat of violence runs through all of the isms. There is a need to acknowledge each other‘s pain, even as we attend to our own.”

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“Cultural racism—the cultural images and messages that affirm the assumed superiority of Whites and the assumed inferiority of people of color—is like smog in the air. Sometimes it is so thick it is visible, other times it is less apparent, but always, day in and day out, we are breathing it in. None of us would introduce ourselves as ‘smog breathers‘...but if we live in a smoggy place, how can we avoid breathing the air?”

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UnRuLee
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“Who voted for Trump?” is an important question. For the health of our democracy, “Who was prevented from voting?” is even more important.

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Krose1
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I read this in an effort to educate myself about race in America. I thought this was really insightful and helpful in explaining how changing some thought processes can make white people better allies. Would definitely recommend.

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Laura317
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I always wondered why people chose to identify as one race or another. This makes perfect sense. I am learning SO much about race - and this book hits on all races. I admit I was so weary of the race discussions. I felt uncomfortable and sometimes defensive. I have been oblivious all this time to the experiences other races have. I am only 1/2 way through, but I highly recommend this book. My feelings on the subject have done a complete 180.

CouronneDhiver I totally get this. My family is mixed race. I identify with one side, my middle sister identifies as the other, and the youngest one just says “Canadian”. So weird! (edited) 6y
Laura317 @CouronneDhiver Our children are a different race than we are. It makes for some difficult yet necessary conversations. And y‘all aren‘t weird at all! The book mentions your exact state - if you haven‘t read this book, I recommend it. 6y
CouronneDhiver God bless you ... That is so cool! 👍🏻👍🏽 I think it takes all kinds of family “blends” being open to conversation, in order for people to open their minds. I‘ll definitely look for this book 6y
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KS1805
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Necessary reading to understand racial development. Most white people believe we aren‘t affected by race but Tatum lays out a very clear argument for all the ways we white people are shaped by race.

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Laura317
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Starting this today. As a mother to two children that are a different race, this feels like something I should try harder to understand.

Riveted_Reader_Melissa It‘s one that‘s been on my radar for awhile, I really need to get to it soon too. 6y
Laura317 @Riveted_Reader_Melissa I‘d love to see your thoughts on it. I‘m learning that I am blind to a lot in this world. I must open my eyes! 6y
Riveted_Reader_Melissa @Laura317 It‘s such an easy thing to have happen, it really takes work to see things. Do you watch This Is Us, even when I think I see a lot, that show showed me something I didn‘t even realize was a thing the other day. No matter how much we try to pay attention, things can still slip by if they aren‘t a part of our day to day life. 6y
Laura317 @Riveted_Reader_Melissa No I‘ve never watched This Is Us. All my coworkers rave about it. I will look it up. Maybe it‘s on Prime or Netflix. 🤷🏻‍♀️ 6y
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jcalyn5
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I initially read excerpts of the first edition in my graduate human development course, but honestly, everyone needs to read this book. While the author and her research are hugely important to social and developmental psychologists, this book is written for a wide audience. It will be particularly enlightening for White people, but everyone can learn something here. And the 20th anniversary edition has post-2016 election information. #race

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“But we can learn the history we were not taught, we can watch the documentaries we never saw in school, and we can read about the lives of change agents, past and present. We can discover another way. We are surrounded by a “cloud of witnesses” who will give us courage if we let them.” #antiracism

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“For English-language learners, however, not knowing English is a tremendous disadvantage, not because their native language is ineffectual for learning but because schools do not generally view languages other than English as a resource for learning. ...it would be as if the strong foundation that had been created were abandoned and the building materials were placed on top of a sandlot across the street.” #bilingual #education

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“Sometimes poorly organized antiracism workshops or other educational experiences can create a scenario that places participants at risk for getting stuck in their anger. Effective consciousness-raising about racism must also point the way toward constructive action. When people don‘t have the tools for moving forward, they tend to return to what is familiar, often becoming more vigorous in their defense of the racial status quo...” #antiracism

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“...Passive racist behavior is equivalent to standing still on the walkway. No overt effort is being made, but the conveyor belt moves the bystanders along to the same destination as those who are actively walking...” #racism

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“Prejudice is an integral part of our socialization, and it is not our fault. ...we are not at fault for the stereotypes, distortions, and omissions that shaped our thinking as we grew up. To say that it is not our fault does not relieve us of responsibility, however. ...Each of us needs to look at our own behavior.” #socialpsychology #prejudice #stereotypes

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bookandcat
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While I did not read this today, Dr. Beverly Tatum's book was part of my curriculum in my master's program and was an adjunct to learning about different racial identity development frameworks. She presents it in an approachable and clear way, and her information is so incredibly important. It is extremely influential to me and how I try to approach the world. #awholenewworldchallenge #24in48 #hour12challengs @24in48

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MsLeah8417
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Nonfiction book in my TBR pile that needs to move immediately to the head of the class! 📚📖

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ProfMasala
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Black Women Writers Collection at the Johnson Library, inside of the South Shore Arts Bank, Chicago, Illinois #blackwomen #blackfeminism #feminist #writer

Lesliereads Great stack❣️ 8y
ProfMasala @Lesliereads thank you, it made me happy and I wanted to share 8y
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thecharmofit
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Joining in #booktober with a #longtitle selection; this is the longest one on my bookshelves. :) It's also a marvelous, insightful discussion about race in the US. Dr Tatum is a black professor who teaches many white students, and she's wonderful at delving into the issues without alienating potential white readers who've never had to think about race before. It's a book I've suggested to several friends as their introduction to white privilege.

WOCreads I've seen the title around, sounds like an interesting I introduction. Also maybe a good primer on US specifically race relations? Hope you're enjoying Litsy, Eva, welcome!😃 8y
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shainareads
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I'M BACK, Y'ALL. Thanks for the update, @Litsy!

OutlandishLit MY QUEEN 8y
Heather_Reads 🎉🎉 8y
BkClubCare I want to read this - looking forward to hearing your thots. 8y
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Ysabet Hooray! 8y
MrBook It's about time! 😜😉😎👏🏻👍🏻 8y
kerry Yaasssss 8y
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