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Becoming a Matriarch
Becoming a Matriarch | Helen Knott
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When matriarchs begin to disappear, there is a choice to either step into the places they left behind, or to craft a new space. Helen Knotts debut memoir, In My Own Moccasins, wowed reviewers, award juries, and readers alike with its profoundly honest and moving account of addiction, intergenerational trauma, resilience, and survival. Now, in her highly anticipated second book, Knott returns with a chronicle of grief, love, and legacy. Having lost both her mom and grandmother in just over six months, forced to navigate the fine lines between matriarchy, martyrdom, and codependency, Knott realizes she must let go, not just of the women who raised her, but of the woman she thought she was. Woven into the pages are themes of mourning, sobriety through loss, and generational dreaming. Becoming a Matriarch is charted with poetic insights, sass, humour, and heart, taking the reader over the rivers and mountains of Dane Zaa territory in Northeastern British Columbia, along the cobbled streets of Antigua, Guatemala, and straight to the heart of what matriarchy truly means. This is a journey through pain, on the way to becoming.
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Riveted_Reader_Melissa
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Hello #SheSaid!

Thoughts for those of you finishing up this week….for those of you that signed up for the mail list, mine is mailing out this week too.

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In 2012 I sat among the Mam Indigenous people in Guatemala impacted by mining. We were gathered in the basement of a church for ceremony and I noticed that the colours in the four directions were the same I knew: white for North, red for East, yellow for South, black for West. I smiled at the sight of shared knowledge that made me feel closer to home. They were in a state of active recovery of traditional practices—again, same deal as us.

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I turned toward the big scary things looming in the distance and let myself feel them, and to let myself fall apart, trusting that Creator would put me back together again after it had passed. Mama rarely cried or showed fear, and I knew a part of this had to do with her desire to protect us. I couldn‘t follow her down this path. I made a mark in my map, broke the endless loop, and created a new way. #SheSaid

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Becoming a Matriarch | Helen Knott

#Bookspin December:

1. Hunger
2. The Future Is Disabled
3. All Boys Aren‘t Blue
4. Woman on the Edge
5. The Reason
6. Swimming in the Dark
7. Crip up the Kitchen
8. It‘s not about the Burqa
9. The Argonauts
10. Dutch Girl
11. Greenwood
12. Swimming in the Dark
13. It Could Happen Here
14. You or Someone You Love
15. All Boys Aren‘t Blue
16. Freedom
17. Ordinary Notes
18. Coming Out
19. His Name Is George Floyd
20. Ordinary Girls

TheAromaofBooks Woohoo!! 3w
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Riveted_Reader_Melissa
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Hello #SheSaid

Such an odd feeling this week, reading this section about grief, about holding things in and letting them out, about taking up the burden to help others, and then carrying that weight. And how holding it all in our bodies is not great for us…. I need to let it sink in more to comment, but I think we all need to let it out more, stop holding it in to make others comfortable…

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Riveted_Reader_Melissa
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“The world will Always Take what you are willing to give.”

We all need to be a little less willing to give, remember the old saying, ‘put on your oxygen mask first or you can not help anyone else‘. Save some space for yourself to just be, refresh, regenerate, get grounded, and just be in the moment and refill your own well before everyone drains you dry. “The world will always take what you are willing to give.” Save a little you for yourself

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Riveted_Reader_Melissa
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Hello #SheSaid

If you were able to get ahold of this book, how did you like this week‘s sections? If not, did you sign up to get my book as it travels around visiting?

Sorry for the late post, but we can talk in the comments 😉

Riveted_Reader_Melissa There are a few quotes from those section that really stuck with me, I‘ll post them too. But although this is so much a book about the women in her family and their lives and letting them go, I love the way she grows through it & learns to be loving and fierce herself….become her own female head of the family. 1mo
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Julsmarshall I was not able to get my hands on this book but you can keep tagging me, I‘ll keep trying 😄 1mo
Riveted_Reader_Melissa @Julsmarshall Do you want me to take you off the tag list for this month? If you asked before and I forgot or missed it, my apologies 1mo
Riveted_Reader_Melissa @Julsmarshall and if you go to last weeks post there is a sign up for the reading book share group 1mo
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Riveted_Reader_Melissa
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Hello #SheSaid!

I‘m really enjoying this book so far, not much overlap with her previous book, but the talk about matriarchs, carrying on the traditions over multiple generations, ties to & fighting for the land, the continuing line despite it all, the people that we lean on & in turn become the ones approached to lean on, all feel very solid & centering to me this week. Terrible things happen to people & a people, but humans & families carry on.

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Riveted_Reader_Melissa
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Hello #SheSaid!

My book has arrived, so the schedule is up and ready to go!

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Riveted_Reader_Melissa
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Hello #She Said!

I know a few of us have had issues getting ahold of this book in the US…not sure why it‘s available in Canada, England, Australia, but not on the US. I got her first book just fine…BUT I do not like being told I can NOT read something. It makes me want to read it more.

I know it is price-prohibitive for us all to order it from overseas, so I have a suggestion. Let me tag everyone & let you know what I‘m thinking in the comments.

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Riveted_Reader_Melissa Litsy has had a few book clubs over time, but maybe we can borrow a page (idea) from the Litsy Postal Mark Up Book Club. I‘ll order the book from afar, read it, and then mail it onto the next that wants it… if we want to follow the book mark up model, we can write a few comments in the end or margins as we go…and pass to the next. If you are interested, there will be a link in the next post for your email & mailing address. I‘ll mail to ⤵️ 2mo
Riveted_Reader_Melissa ↪️ the next. And use the emails to send you the next address to mail to when you are finished. 2mo
vlwelser I ❤ you and I love this idea but I'm going to pass on this one. Her first book was excellent but this seems like a lot. 2mo
JenlovesJT47 You can download it onto your kindle app or iBooks app! ⬆️ 2mo
Riveted_Reader_Melissa @JenlovesJT47 What is this magic ? 2mo
JenlovesJT47 Anna‘s Archive is something I stumbled across when I was looking for Sweet Valley books. It is the world‘s largest open library and everything is free. If you want to donate money to them you can and you will get faster downloads but the most you would have to wait to download is 10 minutes which keeps it free for everyone. I love this site because it is great for hard to find, out of print/expensive books. You can download books right to your 2mo
JenlovesJT47 Phone! It‘s been a lifesaver for me because I‘m low on funds at the moment. 2mo
DGRachel Just FYI, there seems to be some questions around copyright infringement/piracy related to Anna‘s Archive. Something to consider. While this memoir looks amazing, I‘ll be sitting this one out, too. 2mo
Bookwormjillk Thanks for this! I couldn‘t find it and am really interested. 2mo
Riveted_Reader_Melissa @DGRachel like I said, I‘m willing to mail my copy on to another interested in reading it after me. Just use the link to drop your mailing information 2mo
Riveted_Reader_Melissa @DGRachel I was afraid of that with sites that I do not know. 2mo
JenlovesJT47 I understand if you feel that way, it‘s a personal choice 100%. I have used it for about 3 months now and haven‘t had any problems with it. 🙃 2mo
Riveted_Reader_Melissa @vlwelser When life throws us curve balls, adapt is usually my first go too…how can we make this work anyway 😉. 1mo
vlwelser I think I looked at my schedule and used this as an excuse to do 1 less thing this month. I hope you all are enjoying the book, though. 1mo
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Riveted_Reader_Melissa
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Hello #SheSaid

This is supposed to be our next read, but I‘m having a difficult time getting a copy here in the US. Is anyone else having issues?

staci.reads Yes, all I can find is a $23 dollar paperback from a 3rd party seller on Amazon, and I don't want to go that route for a couple reasons. 2mo
Riveted_Reader_Melissa Even on eBay I can only find shipped from England, Canada, or Australia 🤷‍♀️ 2mo
Suet624 Looks really good. Bummer it‘s hard to find. 2mo
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Riveted_Reader_Melissa @Suet624 I thought so too, that‘s why I was wondering if anyone else was having issues too 2mo
Riveted_Reader_Melissa @staci.reads I‘m going to order from them, the payment still goes through Amazon and they are located in Canada, so probably why they needed to go 3rd party seller. I‘ll let you know how I make out 2mo
MallenNC I only saw it on Amazon for $38 which isn‘t reasonable and I see it on Blackwell‘s site from the UK for $12 (shipping included) but the shipping time probably would not work for our purposes. 2mo
Riveted_Reader_Melissa It‘s very odd to me that it‘s won some awards, and that her first memoir is available everywhere, but this one is so difficult to get in the US. 2mo
TheKidUpstairs I'm not sure what shipping costs are, but if you want to order it but not use Amazon, I think GoodMinds.com ships to the US. (GoodMinds is a FirstNations owned and operated online book store here in Ontario) 2mo
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angieinwonderland
Becoming a Matriarch | Helen Knott
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I didn't think it was possible to read a story that mirrored mine so very closely, right down to the new fear that our broken hearts will surely fail any day now. Tears streamed down my face while I read this, as I suspected they would.

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TheKidUpstairs
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Beautifully written, thoughtful and engaging portrait of what it means to be an Indigenous woman in 2023. In a short span of time Helen Knott lost her mother and her grandmother. She reflects here on her journey to reconcile with the loss, to find her tears and her scream, to make space for herself and her loved ones, and to figure out her place as a woman free of the constraints of societal and colonial expectations.

robinb What a beautiful review. Sounds like a wonderful book. 😊 1y
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TheKidUpstairs
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"Mortality is a thing housed in the bodies of the women I love."