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Buy Yourself the F*cking Lilies
Buy Yourself the F*cking Lilies: And Other Rituals to Fix Your Life, from Someone Who's Been There | Tara Schuster
Brutally honest, often hilarious, occasionally heartbreaking lessons in self-care from a young vice president at Comedy Central deemed ahead of her time by Jordan Peele. Compelling, persuasive, and useful no matter where you are in your life.Chelsea Handler, #1 New York Times bestselling author of Life Will Be the Death of Me A bracingly honest, funny read . . . like Wild meets You Are a Badass.Adam Grant, #1 New York Times bestselling author of Give and Take, Originals, and Option B By the time she was in her late twenties, Tara Schuster was a sought-after TV executive who had worked with Jon Stewart and launched Key & Peele to viral superstardom. By all appearances, she had mastered being a grown-up. But beneath that veneer of success, she was a chronically anxious, self-medicating mess. No one knew that her road to adulthood had been paved with depression, anxiety, and shame, owing in large part to her minimally parented upbringing. She realized shed hit rock bottom when she drunk-dialed her therapist pleading for help. Buy Yourself the F*cking Lilies is the story of Taras path to re-parenting herself and becoming a ninja of self-love. This is the book Tara wished someone had given her and it is the book many of us desperately need: a candid, funny, practical guide to growing up and learning to love yourself in a non-throw-up-in-your-mouth-its-so-cheesy way.
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Jen2
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Good audiobook.

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limada
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Obviously, I bought this based on the title. While it's kind of self-indulgent of the author, there are some valid, realistic life experiences that she's shared that can be valid, realistic ways to improve your own life. I'm not a twenty-something, so I'm not in the target market, but that doesn't mean I can't take something useful from her words. Buy yourself the f*cking lilies. #56-2023

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Blueberry
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Pickpick

I'm thankful I read and finished this. Self-help, mental illness, addiction, humor

5⭐

Alwaysbeenaloverofbooks Love this cover 💚📚 1y
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Blueberry
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I'm a couple of chapters in and getting alot from it.

#Selfhelp
#LoveYourself
#VolumesandVocals

@Alwaysbeenaloverofbooks
@Eggs

Eggs Wonderful choice 👏🏻👏🏻 1y
NataliePatalie I like the title hehe 1y
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TheReadingReceptionist

i finally picked this book up again ... and it's made me think

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Julsmarshall
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Bailedbailed

It is a #DNF for me on this one. Maybe just not in the mood or the right phase of life. Just not for me. #BookspinBingo @TheAromaofBooks

TheAromaofBooks Sometimes a book just doesn't hit right. 2y
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Julsmarshall
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November‘s #Bookspin List. Looking forward to a month of less work (my big conference will be over November 12th) and more reading.

Kimzey Good luck with the conference! It‘ll be great to have a reading reward afterwards. 📚 2y
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fredthemoose
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#AlphabetGgame #LetterB

This is maybe not the highest brow book I could have chosen, but I picked it for exceeding my expectations. As I remember it, the author documents her journey of digging herself out of a life hole and building one she loved in a way that seemed practical and real and not full of cringey platitudes.

Thanks for the tag @CaitZ @Alwaysbeenaloverofbooks

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Alwaysbeenaloverofbooks
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#Positivity
#BookMoods

🌸📚🌸📚

Eggs 🌞🌸☺️ 2y
JamieArc I really liked this one. I actually put to use some of the things she talked about. 2y
Alwaysbeenaloverofbooks @JamieArc I‘m liking it so far! I should have read it sooner! 🌸 2y
Moonprismpower I LOVE this book. 2y
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Melismatic
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Practical self help is the best kind. This book is not technical, scientific, deep, or intensely emotional. It provides little, achievable suggestions for being kinder to yourself.

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Smartypants
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More please! Hands down one of the best “self-help” books I‘ve read with practical ways to create more joy in your life EVERY day. I‘ve been in a slump, lots of life changes, lots of people exiting my life for various reasons so this was right on time! Don‘t let anybody dim your light!

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Smrloomis
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Enjoyed this a lot. One small issue: pretty sure no one should breathe in incense or other smoky things like that. I‘m not a medical professional or anything, but yuck! Otherwise I thought this was good and useful - and also funny ❤️

rubyslippersreads Also, don‘t buy yourself lilies if you live with cats. They are deadly to felines. 😿 3y
Smrloomis @rubyslippersreads I didn‘t know that! Thanks for adding that in. 3y
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sarahgreatlove
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One of the most actually helpful books I‘ve read. She doesn‘t sugar coat anything, her life has been brutal in a lot of ways and that helps. You kind of think that if she‘s managed to pull herself together then surely her advice is worth following. I recommend this highly for anyone who has had a messed up childhood and relationship with parents but who doesn‘t want an academic, heavy or weepy book. ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️

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janerzy
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Mehso-so

Is it terrible to say that I love the cover more than the book itself……Good reminders for life thou!

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Erinreadsthebooks
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This was fun. The format really worked for me in that there‘s actionable ideas at the end of each section. If I‘m going to read a self help book, I want it to be down to earth, legit, and contain cuss words. She hit the mark on all of it, so I‘d definitely recommend ✊

Allyneedsbooks 👏🏼 3y
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Kaarin
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This was the right book to come along at the right time for me. It‘s not perfect, but there were a handful of things that stuck in small corners of my heart. Grateful for unexpected teachers.

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DGRachel
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As others have said, there‘s really nothing new here, and Schuster has a love of Brene Brown that I do not share, but sometimes messaging comes when you need it and when it comes from multiple sources, maybe it‘s time to listen. Time to pick up a journal and start writing, and time to buy yourself the f*cking lilies. 💐

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BBooks
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Positive read leaning on self help but with the author admitted issues and working through them via this book and lots of self love... anyways buy the 💐⚘🌷🌻🌹💐 we are all in this together lovey

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Mrs_B
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Just brilliant. Tara strikes a perfect balance between helpful advice and hilarious anecdotes. None of the advice was particularly ground breaking but she‘s so persuasive it makes you want to go out and try it all. I am already putting some of her rituals into daily life. I need a hardback copy of this book to refer back to - although I did enjoy the audio.

rachaich My friend tells me to Buy the f#*ckin aubergines!! Because I never buy them, though I love them, because the kids never liked them 😒😟🙄 4y
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S3V3N
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The entire year I was 26.
#FirstLineFridays
@ShyBookOwl

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Moonprismpower
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A more realistic self-care book that really motivated me. I listened to the audio and now am buying the book. There is some cheese in it, like her Paris trip and big splurge, so obviously she has money, but that wasn‘t the point and it wasn‘t an eat pray love travel the world on your trust fund and come to to enlightenment book. It‘s a set your goals, save for the big purchases & travel & treat yourself right book. For that I am grateful.

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Moonprismpower
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I created my own vision board. I wanted few images as they can distract me. I settled on a picture I like of myself and wrote my goals down. Simple goals. I am loving this book more than most self-care books and yes it‘s cheesy but I find Tara Schuster convincing and practical in her self-care approach and relatable as a person.
WHAT ARE YOUR GOALS?
❤️🥳👍

#ThinkPostiveBePositive
@Alwaysbeenaloverofbooks

Eggs Write some words of gratitude each day for my blessings 4y
Moonprismpower @Eggs I do that too! I love bullet points of good things in my day. Do you do it in the morning or at night? 4y
Eggs Morning I‘m grateful for the things I want to be or have (as if I already have it) and evening for what happened during the day. This is the ideal though I don‘t always accomplish it 🤷‍♀️ 4y
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Moonprismpower @Eggs in the evenings I try to write things i did that made me happy through the day. Usually that is Litsy, family work and coffee or treats lol. And I write my step count #goals 😃 4y
Eggs @Moonprismpower Good for you! It helps doesn‘t it? 4y
Moonprismpower @Eggs it makes each day better. Sending good vibes your way! 😀 4y
Eggs Thanks, I‘ll take those vibes! Can‘t live without the good vibes! Same to you ❤️ @Moonprismpower (edited) 4y
Alwaysbeenaloverofbooks I love this and I meant to buy this book yesterday! I bought Her and forgot this one! We can cheer each other on!! ❤️❤️❤️ 4y
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Moonprismpower
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@Alwaysbeenaloverofbooks
@Blackink_WhitePaper
#litsylove
This is my mantra today. I f*cking love this rebel deck. It gives me straight up sarcastic yet positive goals for the day. So today I will be grateful because even though the world is cray I
1.get to go to work today!
2.paid off most my credit card and hope to have it completely paid off by the end of the month, thanks tax season!
3.spoke with my sister today to start it off right.

TheBookHippie 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼🤍 4y
Alwaysbeenaloverofbooks Yay!!!! I‘ve got to get this book!! 4y
Alwaysbeenaloverofbooks I meant to buy myself some flowers at Walmart yesterday and forgot 😘 4y
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Moonprismpower @Alwaysbeenaloverofbooks I‘ll draw you a bad crayon drawing of flowers in my next letter. Lol. And yes this book is pretty good so far. I just started it though. I‘m listening on audio and her voice is grating but I‘m getting used to it. I wish more audiobooks had Janeane Garofalo narrating. I love her smoky, constantly annoyed voice. (edited) 4y
MemoirsForMe 🙌🏻🙌🏻💕 4y
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Chelsea.Poole
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Pretty much loved this. Finding that sweet spot between over indulgence and little pick-me-ups is key. I liked Schuster‘s philosophy on journaling for discovery, treating yourself with respect, and just adopting an all-around positive attitude. Much of this I already believe/do for myself but it‘s nice to hear the reinforcement. I enjoyed the bits throughout about the author‘s own life experiences. 🌸

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Chelsea.Poole
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Couldn‘t sleep — listened to 20% of this delightful little #audiobook 💤💐

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jessjess
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For #thinkpositivebepositive #thoughtfulmoment today.

There's always going to be other people who are gonna want to judge you. My best advice is the earlier you can stop caring so much about other people's views of who you are or who you should be the happier you really are going to be. It's something I've struggled with a lot because at heart I'm a people pleaser. Fight that shit. Fight it so hard, because it only hurts you. 💕

Alwaysbeenaloverofbooks I totally agree!!! 4y
jessjess @Alwaysbeenaloverofbooks I am going to have to get a hard copy, I kept screenshotting lines. 4y
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Alwaysbeenaloverofbooks @jessjess I want a hard copy too! 4y
Moonprismpower I borrowed this on Thursday through my library‘s Libby app then literally finished on Sunday. Saturday I had already put in an order for the hardcopy at my local bookstore. 👊💪👍 4y
jessjess @Moonprismpower definitely when I have some extra pin money I want to get the hardcopy as well, it really was awesome 4y
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I think Tara would support a lazy Sunday morning in bed with a book. And therefore, I‘m very glad to have this particular book for said lazy Sunday morning in bed. Laugh-out-loud funny but also so genuine and heartfelt, it has none of the saccharine and put-on tones of other “self-help” books by “experts,” and I‘m loving it. I‘d definitely want to hang out with her. #buyyourselfthefuckinglilies #taraschuster

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Jen_Reads
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I would be halfway done this book if I wasn‘t underlining and tabbing pages. This is the first self help style book I‘ve read that I connect to. It makes me want to better myself and I love how Tara Schuster writes.

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Jen_Reads
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I love this quote I found on Tara Schuster‘s Instagram

💐

JamieArc Glad to see someone else reading and liking this book! 4y
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Jen_Reads
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I am not very far in this book and I am already marking it up and tabbing pages.

I‘d give these pens a 4 out of 5. I can tell I used them, but they do not bleed onto the other page or make reading where I‘ve underlined or written on the page before hard. And they write nice.

melissajayne What type of Sharpies are they? 4y
GypsyKat Idk what this book is about, but back when I was happily single, I used to buy myself flowers all the time. I‘d take myself on dates, too. Lots of great memories of just getting to know myself.💖 I‘m happily married now, but those single times were precious to me. 4y
Jen_Reads @melissajayne they are just a sharpie marker pen 4y
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Jen_Reads
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Attempting to read this one today, but I have had a headache for hours and had to finish season 2 of Umbrella Academy. I am really hoping that sleep helps.

tjwill I‘m watching Umbrella Academy right now! So good! 4y
Jen_Reads @tjwill I am already wanting to rewatch it. 4y
tjwill @Jen_Reads 🙌🏽 4y
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Jen_Reads
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I went to Target and treated myself to somethings. Unf*ckology came from Amazon, but the other things I picked up. I am going into a self-improvement mode this month after having a few anxiety attacks in July (one while at work which is super embarrassing for me). The pens will hopefully be true to their word and not bleed through the pages. Also could not resist the Baby Yoda.

Leftcoastzen Baby yoda so cute! Hugs to you , I hope you find things that can help with the attacks. 4y
JamieArc I liked Buy Yourself.... There were some really practical things that I could do. I did not like some aspects of Girl, Wash Your Face and Buy Yourself felt like a better option to Girl. 4y
tracey38 Hope you share some of your thoughts once you read it. I need to go through a self-improvement process with my anxiety, too. And let us know how the pens work. I am all into office supplies! 4y
bookishdawg The author of “Buy Yourself...” was just on the Forever 35 podcast. A great interview 👍🏻 4y
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guinsgirlreads
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Picked this up at Target based solely on it‘s title. 😝👍🏻

JoScho I would have done the same. Fantastic title! 5y
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EKonrad
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I'm officially obsessed with this self-help book that just might help me actually fix my life!

⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️

Full review at http://erinkonrad.com/2020/02/25/buy-yourself-the-fcking-lilies-book-review/

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Book 150 of 2019
#netgalley #arc

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