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Soldier Sailor
Soldier Sailor | Claire Kilroy
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TheBookHippie
Soldier Sailor | Claire Kilroy
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Whelp
I‘ve some reading to do 🤭👀

Deblovestoread For the first time ever I‘ve read all but one. If you want to read Soldier Sailor and don‘t have it I‘d be happy to send mine to you. 4d
TheBookHippie @Deblovestoread oh yes please!!! My library has none of course 😵‍💫 and that is one I want to read! ♥️♥️♥️ 4d
Deblovestoread Will get it out to you this week. 💜 4d
TheBookHippie @Deblovestoread Thank you so much♥️ I‘m excited to read it. 3d
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charl08
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Oh Sailor, I thought, the little size of you. This is what it feels like when everything goes wrong, and by your own hand. When you are caught, cornered, the one to blame, when you discover something in your nature that you did not know was there and which you do not like. Confusion, shame, resentment, regret: it's my area. Don't panic. Sit tight. I can help you with this.

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charl08
Soldier Sailor | Claire Kilroy

'Hello,' I replied but didn't know what to add nor how to pitch it because she was three and I hadn't gotten to that page in childrearing yet. 'We're not supposed to praise little girls for their looks any more,' I told my friend, 'but for their brains, and my God but your daughter is clever. Such clever hair, such clever eyes.' She really was a beauty, that child.

'Gets it from her mother, obviously.'

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charl08
Soldier Sailor | Claire Kilroy

I ducked around a corner. Look, Mama's going round the bend! I wanted to tell you, but oh, oh. What struck me as the starkest contradiction of all was that, having navigated this much of life the volatility of youth, of love and loss, the agony and the ecstasy - the closest I had come to losing my mind was during the period known as settling down.

Suet624 💕💕💕 2w
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charl08
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I had listened to him on the other side of that door snoring away in the box room, those snug, contented snores I used to find endearing, the two of us tucked up together in the same bed on a cold night, except we were no longer in the same room. And soon we would no longer be under the same roof, nor even under the same stars. I could not get my head around it: how could my husband sleep under the circumstances?

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AnneCecilie
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A woman is taking care of her baby. In her eyes, her husband is never home, but always in the office. So she is left with “just” taking care of the baby and house 24/7. A grim portrait of the early days of motherhood.

AnneCecilie I‘m not a mother, so is the mother‘s feelings normal in the beginning or is she suffering from some kind of postpartum depression? 2w
TrishB I‘ve got this on the pile so can‘t comment as yet. 2w
BarbaraBB I do recognize some of her feelings without being depressed at the time. It‘s just that your life‘s turned upside down and you have no control over your life whatsoever, which takes some getting used to. Also you feel bad about your feelings and not being on cloud nine all the time as seems to be expected of you 2w
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Leniverse I would say she has postpartum depression, yes. But that level of sleep deprivation alone can make people crazy. The first child is an intense adjustment, and her husband is beyond useless. I think every mother will recognise some of what she's thinking, but she's an extreme case. 2w
AnneCecilie @BarbaraBB @Leniverse I‘ve understood that it‘s not easy being a mum at any stage since society has higher standards towards women than men. It‘s good to know that these extreme feelings aren‘t normal for everyone, and yes her husband is beyond useless. (edited) 2w
BarbaraBB Way beyond 🤦🏻‍♀️ 2w
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AnneCecilie
Soldier Sailor | Claire Kilroy

‘I get just two days off, you know?‘ my husband was complaining. ‘I get just two days off a week and I have to waste one of them in IKEA?‘
‘Two whole days? I haven‘t had a day off since he was born. Unless we count the time I was hospitalised with pneumonia. And then you got your mother in.‘

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AnneCecilie
Soldier Sailor | Claire Kilroy

‘Our marriage. Where is it going?‘
‘What do you mean? I just got a promotion.‘
‘How could you not get a promotion?‘
‘You mean congratulations?‘
‘No, I mean, how could you not get a promotion when you‘re always in the office? You‘ve a wife who does all the cooking, cleaning and child-rearing. She pairs your socks, she books your dental appointments . She sorts out all this shit,‘ I said, tapping the tax and insurance discs displayed on the

AnneCecilie windscreen. ‘I‘ve no time for my career, but you‘ve more time for yours than you did before becoming a father, back when we were equal.‘ ‘We are equal. We‘re a team.‘ ‘We‘re not a team. 2w
Reggie Ooof. Rough. Stacked! 1w
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andrew61
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A powerful evocation of the raw emotions of early motherhood. As the narrator talks to her toddler 'sailor', she describes with brutal honesty the contradiction of loving this new person so much you would kill for them but also run away. The loss of individuality is powerfully expressed, while the device of an old friend brings hope but also realisation that you can't go back. A brilliant piece of writing, tough, funny, heartbreaking. ⬇️

andrew61 The bookmark peeping out was given on preordering Katherine Priddys' new album when she supported the unthanks recently. Highly recommended, a beautiful voice. 4w
Cathythoughts Definitely stacked after your review 👍🏻♥️ 4w
andrew61 @Cathythoughts definitely worth trying Cathy, although memories of sleepless nights came flooding back, and hopefully, I wasn't quite as hopeless as the father in the story. 4w
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Leniverse
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An only very slightly exaggerated portrayal of life with an infant. (Her husband was almost unbelievably useless, and she was definitely enabling his behaviour in the worst way.) Emotionally intense, funny in places. Entirely accurate about the equal parts love and terror involved in having a child.

#WomensPrize #WomensPrize2024

BarbaraBB That husband drove me mad!! 1mo
Leniverse @BarbaraBB Right?! I would have either divorced or throttled that guy within the first month 😤 1mo
BarbaraBB Her enabling his behavior was annoying too indeed 😳 1mo
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BarbaraBB
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The narrator doesn‘t recognize herself in the woman‘s she used to be before she became a fulltime mother. It drives her mad but she‘s also madly in love with her little son Sailor. Her husband is worthless, doing nothing to share the responsibilities for their baby, he is just working and living his life. And loving her. But is it enough?

A very recognizable read about the struggles and blessings of motherhood. #womenprize

squirrelbrain Great review! 1mo
Chelsea.Poole I‘m looking forward to this one. 😊 1mo
BarbaraBB @Chelsea.Poole It‘ll probably bring back some memories for you too 😀 1mo
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TrishB I have this on the pile! 1mo
sarahbarnes You‘re doing a much better job selling me on the books on the long list this year than the organizers did. Another one I may have to try! 😁 1mo
BarbaraBB @sarahbarnes i read just a few but (except for Hangman) they are all really good 🤷🏻‍♀️😀 1mo
sarahbarnes Very good to know. I‘ve added this one and Enter Ghost to my library order. Are there others you really liked, too? 1mo
BarbaraBB @sarahbarnes Yes, my absolute favorite so far is 1mo
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BarbaraBB
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I remember this feeling so well! #motherhood

Megabooks 💜 💜 1mo
AmyG Yep. Sounds right. I had twins after my first….and didn‘t even have room for feelings other than exhaustion. 1mo
kspenmoll Yes.🩷 1mo
CarolynM Oh yes! 1mo
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squirrelbrain
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The MC talks to her young child as she struggles through the change in her life since giving birth to him, along with coping with a seemingly absent husband who prefers to work long hours.

I don‘t have kids so can‘t speak to the veracity of this novel but I certainly found the MC‘s stream of consciousness thoughts really stressful to read, but incredibly compelling.

Another great read from the #womensprize long list.

BarbaraBB Sounds great Helen 2mo
Reggie What a great review, stacked. 2mo
youneverarrived Stacking! 2mo
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Kazzie
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Oh wow - what a real story about how hard motherhood is. And how lonely. The gendered differences are interestingly depicted - in the husband and the friend. Ultimately makes you really appreciate your mom!