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Hourglass
Hourglass: Time, Memory, Marriage | Dani Shapiro
The best-selling novelist and memoirist delivers her most intimate and powerful work: a piercing, life-affirming memoir about marriage and memory, about the frailty and elasticity of our most essential bonds, and about the accretion, over time, of both sorrow and love. Hourglass is an inquiry into how marriage is transformed by time--abraded, strengthened, shaped in miraculous and sometimes terrifying ways by accident and experience. With courage and relentless honesty, Dani Shapiro opens the door to her house, her marriage, and her heart, and invites us to witness her own marital reckoning--a reckoning in which she confronts both the life she dreamed of and the life she made, and struggles to reconcile the girl she was with the woman she has become. What are the forces that shape our most elemental bonds? How do we make lifelong commitments in the face of identities that are continuously shifting, and commit ourselves for all time when the self is so often in flux? What happens to love in the face of the unexpected, in the face of disappointment and compromise--how do we wrest beauty from imperfection, find grace in the ordinary, desire what we have rather than what we lack? Drawing on literature, poetry, philosophy, and theology, Shapiro writes gloriously of the joys and challenges of matrimonial life, in a luminous narrative that unfurls with urgent immediacy and sharp intelligence. Artful, intensely emotional work from one of our finest writers. From the Hardcover edition.
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Chelsea.Poole
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A short #memoir written in an interesting way: the author layers past + present from one sentence to the next + back again. I was right there with her as she remembered her son‘s early years, then flashed back to the present moment of going to dinner w/ her husband. I am delighted by this style, as it is the way I think (possibly we all do?), which made this #audiobook that much more intimate. I should say-the entire book is not written like this.

Megabooks I want to read this! 👯‍♀️ 4y
Chelsea.Poole @Megabooks I think you‘ll enjoy this one! The audiobook is narrated by the author...and she wrote one of my favorites from a couple years ago — I can‘t remember if you‘ve read it (probably!) and if you liked it 3y
Megabooks Yes, I very much enjoyed Inheritance!! 3y
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kbuggle
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Short, quiet, thoughtful. There‘s something to be said for picking up a book at the right moment in time for it-

mrozzz Yes!!! I really liked this one. 6y
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Well-ReadNeck
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A collection of small observances but not really a coherent whole. Sort of boring, I‘m afraid

saresmoore My thoughts exactly, except I didn‘t finish it... 6y
DebBates101 That picture made me yawn—literally 😩 6y
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ephemeralwaltz 😂😂 6y
Trashcanman 🤣 6y
Becker That‘s disappointing to hear. I had high hopes. 6y
laurenlovesliterature 😴😴😴😀😁😄😂 6y
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Well-ReadNeck
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Starting this one today. Already, it‘s full of small but spot on observations like this one.

pgh.femme Moving to an iPhone has renewed this habit for me. 6y
bnp Brings back memories. 6y
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Pamwurtzler Me too! 6y
Leftcoastzen 😃 6y
Clare-Dragonfly Ha! Today my boss and I were working on a document and she apologized for this very habit. 6y
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Well-ReadNeck
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#TBRTuesday

Reading down Mount TBR!!

meganlynae What is the one right underneath with the orange doorway? 6y
Lmstraubie I love Dani Shapiro. There is something so poetic about her writing. 6y
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meganlynae @Well-ReadNeck No, the orange doorway one? It says “City of” but I can‘t read the last word. 6y
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Lmstraubie
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I just love the way this woman writes.

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Bookalong
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Mehso-so

In Hourglass Dani Shapiro recounts moments of her life in this memoir about choices, relationships, marriage, life and time. She examines her 18 year marriage. Remembering the girl she used to be before and the woman she is now. How she looks back on all the memories of her life now.
There are beautifully written passages that I really enjoyed but at times I did find it dragged on a bit and fell flat.
#bookreview #bookworm #booklover #bookish

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sarahgreatlove
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I loved this book. It‘s a concise, sparse read in a way- but so moving and thought provoking. She describes the realities of marriage in all its frustrations and confusion very well. Highly recommended.

Nute Very cool photo! 6y
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Bookalong
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"Years vanish. Months collapse. Time is like a tall building made of playing cards. It seems orderly until a strong gust of wind comes along and blows the whole thing skyward. Imagine it: an entire deck of cards soaring like a flock of birds."
~Dani Shapiro
#currentread #currentlyreading #danishapiro #memoir #booklover #bookworm #bookish #booksandbeverage

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Lmstraubie

The stories- both the ones that happened and the ones that didn't. The ones eternally bound into the spines of books. The ones that I have polished until they gleam like jewels-until I can say this is it, precisely it-that is, until they change on me once more.

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Lmstraubie

Where does hope go when it vanishes? Does it live in a place where it attaches itself to other lost hopes? And what does that place look like? Is it a wall? A sea? Is it the soft bafflement I sometimes see in my husband's eyes?

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Lmstraubie
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I love the way this lady writes. 💖💖💖
Just realized this also fits today's prompt #1stbookof2018 #newyearreads @Alwaysbeenaloverofbooks @bookloo

Alwaysbeenaloverofbooks Why does her name sound so familiar? 🤔🤔 7y
mrozzz ☺️💜 7y
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Suet624
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I like Dani Shapiro and have always liked reading what she had to say. Unfortunately, this book was not my cup of tea. She talks so much about her fears for her financial future that I began to wonder if that was the main reason she published this book. Okay, that‘s a bit harsh, but... I will say that I always appreciate the lines she quotes from other authors.

kspenmoll Or no, too bad- I like her too and have this book in my TBR. Don‘t think I can muster much sympathy re finances given where she can live , etc. But maybe its all appearances . So I should read; its short! I bought the book because it was her, & was last time I knew, she lives in CT. Like to support if I can & like what local authors write. 7y
kspenmoll Found this article reviewing her book and two others. You may have seen this. https://mobile.nytimes.com/2017/05/16/books/review/hourglass-time-memory-marriag... 7y
Suet624 @kspenmoll thanks for the article. As the reviewer says, “the record scratched” as I heard of her precarious situation. It‘s not a bad book and it‘s short. 😁 you should definitely read it and let me know what you think. 7y
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nomadreader
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Lovely. Poignant. Lyrical. Haunting. I needed this book at this point in my life. It was a blessing.

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nomadreader
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Today's plan (plus Christmas decorating!)

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mrozzz
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I've loved Dani Shapiro since I read Slow Motion. Hesitant, I thought I wouldn't be able to relate to the topic of this memoir (focuses on marriage and how it does/doesn't last).

Engaged in the spring it's now hitting me that I'll be someone's wife and it's made me sentimental for books like this one: portraying the honesty and struggles of day-to-day life without romanticizing a couple's ability to stay the course. I was not disappointed.

emilyhaldi Nice review 👍🏻 7y
TheWordJar Beautifully said! 7y
mrozzz @emilyhaldi @TheWordJar Thank you both!! 😊 7y
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mrozzz
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Who did you think you would grow up to become? You could never have dreamt yourself up. Sit down. Let me tell you everything that's happened. You can stop running now. You are alive in the woman who watches as you vanish.

[DELETED] 3803335244 You nails are awesome 💅🏼 7y
TheWordJar Those nails!! 🙌 7y
TricksyTails 😍💅 Always on point!! 7y
mrozzz @ForeverNerdy @TheWordJar @TricksyTails Thanks!!! I just got the new color put on over the weekend 💁🏼😄 7y
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mrozzz

We did not spend our days gazing into each others' eyes. We did that gazing when we made love it when one of us was in trouble, but most of the time our gazes met and entwined as they looked at a third thing. Third things are essential to marriages, objects or practices or habits or arts... or human beings that provide a joint rapture or contentment. Lovemaking is not a third thing but two-in-one. For many couples, children is the third thing.

mrozzz (Quote pulled from Donald Hall describing his own marriage to Jane Kenyon.) 7y
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mrozzz
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Waiting for an event to start... the store hadn't even started setting up chairs, so I went next door 😉🥃

Kamisha Nice drink choice! 👌🏼🥃 7y
mrozzz @Kamisha thanks!! It's my go-to 😄 7y
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agoldie
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Just picked this up from the library tonight! I've been in the mood for a memoir, so I'm excited.

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valeriegeary
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I'm not a huge fan of memoir but when I read them, I don't like a straight narrative. I want them like this one: circling around a memory, a theme, a moment; circling and revisiting and turning feelings inside and out and over and under until something starts to make sense. Real life is so much more complicated than fiction. I want memoirs to be complicated too. And this one is. Also the prose is poetry. Worth it just for that.

Jinjer I was going to stack it but see that I already have!😆 7y
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LilithHomer
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Bailedbailed

Sort of not in the mood for these first world problems.

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HardcoverHearts
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I find it interesting to note the types of books I find solace in when times feel turbulent. Sometimes I want to face the issues head on to articulate the problem & work to a solution. Other times I try to hide in something so different that the escape is a panacea- maybe even off this planet, in a made up place. But today I need emotion, quiet reflection & softness. This audiobook is a balm, especially as the author's narration is lovely.

Cinfhen 💕💕 7y
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Denisereads75
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This memoir was very well written but I couldn't relate.

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peaKnit
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There was a line to get in the library today. How cool is that? 😎 📚

RaimeyGallant Nice! 7y
JenReadsAlot I forgot to stop when we met up! I have a bunch of goodies waiting for me too... 7y
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Christine
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I really loved this - short, bittersweet, and quite wonderful. I've read a couple of her previous memoirs and liked them to varying degrees, but I think this is my favorite so far. Though her writing is always so good, this had a new level of depth and maturity that really impressed me.

peaKnit I can't wait to read it, it's at the library for me:) 7y
Christine @peaknit - Ooh yay - hope your library is open on the weekend! ;) 7y
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whereistexasjen
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My review of Hourglass got a little personal. How could it not? Hourglass is a memoir about marriage. My husband and I were married in October. It was one of those Hit Me At The Right Time Books and was also a smack dab in my wheelhouse book. Hourglass is a melancholy and meditative little memoir full of the heavy weight of the past. You can read my review here: http://bit.ly/2v0sSxd

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Lauren.Archer
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Very short but very poignant book. This feels more like a meditation in love marriage and family. I would highly recommend this for really anybody, even if you are not married. This is extremely thought provoking.

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Lauren.Archer
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Finally got this off of hold at the library. Under 150 pages, think I might get this in tonight.

L_auren On my list! Let us know what you think! 7y
8little_paws Yaaaaaas. This memoir is stunning. 7y
Lmstraubie Just picked this up too. Looking forward to hearing what you think. 7y
Denisereads75 I just got this from the library too. I have two others to read before it though. 7y
BooksForEmpathy It's so beautiful. One of my favorites this year. 7y
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HardcoverHearts
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Here is a potential stack that I have put together for the @24in48 readathon. I say potential because I'm lawless. As a mood reader, I can't predict what I will feel like reading, even a day before. I live for that moment after I close one book and ponder which one I will pick next. But I do like to group a bunch of potentials together for a readathon in the interests of time so I don't wander around my apartment, picking up random books.

Suet624 I'm looking forward to reading Shapiro's book sometime soon. 7y
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LizzyM
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Beautiful, poetic, dreamy memoir. I found it so inciteful and thought provoking, but I admit that may be due to the fact that I am relatively close to her in age and have been married for 14 years... 4.5⭐️

mcipher I'm in my fourteenth year of marriage, too! Feels so crazy long. 😝 7y
LizzyM @mcipher I know!! And yet at the same time it seems like it has flown by in the blink of an eye! 7y
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katiemoon
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I absolutely loved this book! It was incredibly touching and beautiful. I highly recommend it! 😊

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LizzyM
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It's a quote of a quote😜but still lovely. Beautiful writing in this memoir so far.

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Lmstraubie
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Just a small #bookhaul for today. One for my son. One for the Mystery Book Exchange I'm hosting next week and two for me. 🙆🙆🙆

MrBook #NiceStack! Love The Strand! 7y
Lmstraubie @MrBook It was my first visit, but hopefully not my last. ☺️ 7y
MrBook 😁👏🏻🙌🏻 7y
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tinaisreading
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“My June Reading Wrap-Up” @tinaisreading/my-june-reading-wrap-up-84f72b786932" rel="nofollow" target="_top">https://medium.com/@tinaisreading/my-june-reading-wrap-up-84f72b786932

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thebookishgirl
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About to finish this book. It really makes me reflect on time, memory and love. This is a book I can see myself re-reading in the future🙊

MrBook 🙌🏻 7y
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BooksForEmpathy
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A beautiful reflection on marriage and the unknowable direction of our lives. After listening to Dani Shapiro on Lit Up, I was compelled to read her newest work. She contemplates that it's not so much "what" happens to you, but "when" it happens to you. She writes with such ease and familiarity, and captures the everyday, fleeting yet repetitive, thoughts we have about our lives and the choices we make; I finished the audiobook in one sitting.

8little_paws YAAAAAAS this is a top read of all time for me 7y
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tinaisreading
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I really admire the way Shapiro was able to capture the disorienting effects of time with her writing and structure in this book. She weaves together themes and phrases artfully. Overall, though, I felt like this was a little too dreamy for me. The book is full of a lot of weighty poetic prose that can seem overdone/melodramatic. Still, she has some beautiful quotes and it's a very slim, fast read.

MrBook Great review and pic! 7y
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HardcoverHearts
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That moment when you realize that you will need to carry this bag for the entire rest of the day, even though it is now filled with new, signed copies! 😳 I'm blaming it on Litsy, for sure!

batsy Kintu and Like a Mule! Got my eye on those 😍 7y
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tinaisreading
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My June TBR list. I finished The Cosmopolitans this morning, so now on to Hourglass! The Immortal Life is the only one missing from this pile because I'm waiting on a hold from the library! 📚 #bookstack #junetbr

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Kimlayman7
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A pretty good month for reading! I listened to Hourglass on audio too.

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jenngreenaway
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"At the moment of my death, I'd like to be looking at the pictures of everyone I have ever loved."

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Kimlayman7
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Listened to this one on audiobook, which I would recommend. The author narrates it and I love her voice. I actually think I enjoyed listening to it way more than I would have liked reading it, just because of the style of her writing. She weaves back and forth in time, telling stories from her marriage. Definitely worth a listen.

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readinginthedark
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Shapiro writes with honesty and focus. She writes about small things that happen daily and how hard it is to think about the future while the present is happening. I couldn't relate much to her background or personal life, but I enjoyed her writing style. This is not a fast and thrilling memoir by any means, but for those of us who like a bit of quiet reflection, Shapiro's newest book is just the thing. #arc #firsttoread

Suet624 I like Shapiro's writing. Looking forward to this one. 8y
readinginthedark @Suet624 This was my first by her, but I'll definitely be reading more! 8y
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tinaisreading
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My 2 next reads are cover twinsies. #nextreads #bookcovers

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bio_chem06
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This was just not for me. It only has to do with the format, I don't like the flow. It's beautifully written, I just didn't enjoy it, however I would recommend it to others to try.

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Kimlayman7
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I'm new to audiobooks but I love listening to podcasts, so I thought I'd try it. Going to start with this one, because I love her voice. #audiobook #hourglass

CatchMyBookBreath I love her writing! 8y
AlaMich Audiobooks are the best, though I've learned that there's something of an art to choosing them. 8y
tpixie Welcome to Litsy!!💕📚💕 8y
Sace What @AlaMich said. I find it harder to pick an audiobook than a book. 8y
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Michreads
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⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️ a beautiful meditation on marriage. I loved the writing and the complete honesty and truth. Many, many good quotes but loved this one. "The future - even minutes from now-is an actuarial guess." ???