Litsy

Men Who Hate Women: From Incels to Pickup Artists: The Truth about Extreme Misogyny and How it Affects Us All | Laura Bates

Perfect example of sexism. My daughter had 2 fliers sent home for basketball camps at the high school down the road. Both camps are sponsored by the same booster club. The boys get a nice card & the girls get a photocopy. Also the boys camp only has a $5 late fee for registering after a certain date & the girls it‘s a $20 fee. I told my husband that this shows girls don‘t matter as much as boys (I know that most parents don‘t think this but it

ncsufoxes irritates me). It shows girls sports are not as important as boys. I know that most young girls do not see this & think that but this is the message we are reinforcing. Now I need to figure out who to speak with about this. (edited) 1d

Bookwormjillk This is why I was so excited when my daughter started playing field hockey. Here it‘s only a girl‘s sport. Soccer was infuriating! 1d

Amiable As a female who grew up playing softball, basketball and soccer during the ‘80s, I feel this so much. We were always second-class citizens it came to athletics. 1d

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TheBookHippie @Amiable my daughter played basketball it was horrific then too (99-05) Tennis late 70s early 80s was horrific for me. 😵‍💫 I can‘t even discuss Archery. 1d

TheBookHippie @Bookwormjillk that‘s how volleyball is here! 1d

RamsFan1963 Every year, when it's time for the NCAA March Madness, the men's games get all the attention, the major broadcasts and all the newspaper & internet space, while the women's tournament is treated as an afterthought. It pisses me off, the women's tournament usually has better games and storylines, but if you don't go looking for the games on ESPN 2 or 3, you'd never know a tournament was even being played!! 12h

RamsFan1963 And, don't even get me started on how the WNBA is treated compared to the Gods of the NBA 😡😡😡 12h

ncsufoxes @RamsFan1963 tell me about it. Our 9 year old daughter likes basketball & we try & watch more games with her but they‘re so hard to find. We are NC State alumni & when the women‘s team made it to the final four we watched the games with her. Women‘s soccer is the same way. I wish they would show more matches on tv but they‘re of course don‘t. It‘s hard to show your daughter (& sons)strong women when they don‘t give them equal air time. 6h

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ncsufoxes

Men Who Hate Women: From Incels to Pickup Artists: The Truth about Extreme Misogyny and How it Affects Us All | Laura Bates

I‘ve been slowly reading this book for the last month. I want to part vomit, throw the book across the room, sign my daughter up for every self defense class from now until eternity. My oldest (he‘s 21) he‘s been telling me for the last few years that social media is a cesspool. He said the white supremacy is so bad. It‘s good to be knowledgeable but ugh this is horrific. Its of course only gotten worse since the 🍊one is back & now that he‘s a

ncsufoxes convicted offender it only gives these groups more power & lack of restraint. 1d

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Chelsea.Poole

Want Me: A Sex Writer's Journey Into the Heart of Desire | Tracy Clark-Flory

so-so

I found the cover art and subtitle misleading. This is a memoir of some of those things: reporting on sex work is covered, but as is the author‘s personal life including her mother‘s illness and death (TW), marriage and starting a family. While she does dive into the male gaze, starting in childhood with her father‘s porn — she becomes intrigued by sex and desire, discovering that she views sex through the male gaze herself. Good at times.

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Eggbeater

The Menopause Manifesto: Own Your Health with Facts and Feminism | Dr. Jennifer Gunter

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This Canadian doctor is funny and thorough and not patronizing. I was a bit overwhelmed, but the information was useful. I now know what questions to ask my doctor. I would recommend it to anyone currently going through the menopause transition who feels like there's a lot of junk information to sort through.

For anyone else confused or mortified by this whole process, I feel your pain.

ChaoticMissAdventures My own gyno recently asked me if I had heard of her and recommended reading her. I have seen her speak before and she is really personable. I am glad she is getting her messages out. 4d

Desha I just finished this book about a week ago before my gyno appointment…it really helped! I also recommend The New Hot by Meg Mathews and Next Level by Stacy T. Sims and Selene Yeager! 4d

ravenlee I strongly recommend this one, which I read just after the Manifesto and preferred.

Mayo Clinic The Menopause Solution: A doctor's guide to relieving hot flashes, enjoying better sex, sleeping well, controlling your weight, and being happy!

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Robotswithpersonality

Unlikeable Female Characters: The Women Pop Culture Wants You to Hate | Anna Bogutskaya

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Has English come up with any secular equivalents for the phrase 'preaching to the choir/converted?' It's the strongest feeling I had while reading this: I'm glad it exists, I'm not sure I needed to read it.
I will say, I was not familiar with all examples of media (film/television) discussed, but the author did a great job of summarizing each such that I never felt like I was unable to follow the thread - 1/?

Robotswithpersonality 2/? why that example was provided for the trope being discussed.
I like that there was an evolution tracked in each chapter, the history of the trope/stereotype in Hollywood, edging into pop culture and society, how it has evolved, hopefully with a more nuanced approach, how various journalism/scholarship has started to examine each of these archetypes, though there are examples throughout history of savvy women aware of these roles, 6d

Robotswithpersonality 3/? their possibilities and pitfalls, how the types mostly emerge from misogynistic/patriarchal thinking and can reinforce negative views, and how they may be subverted.
Some repeating themes:
How these types have been part of internalized misogyny, pitting women against other women, against female characters, how the type in fiction bleeds out and can be indiscriminately used to tarnish the actress/celebrity associated with a role. 6d

Robotswithpersonality 4/? So, so many examples of the double standard, behaviour in male characters praised, while similar behaviour in female characters lines them up for a negative label, (though there are moments where actresses gain critical acclaim, where the character is loved for her unconventionality, where maybe the absolute of 'men this, women that' is blurred); 6d

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Robotswithpersonality 5/? acknowledgement of the further reductive stereotypes applying to women of colour, how even within the range of juicy unlikeable roles that may be controversial or may be award fodder, it's historically only been available to white women who fit a narrow beauty standard; reclamation of some terms but not others, author is not alone in having a complicated relationship with some of the words used. 6d

Robotswithpersonality 6/? I do feel a little like the message is already out there, though obviously, quoted short form journalism vs a book may reach different audiences, and just because I feel it's acknowledged fact doesn't mean there isn't a large swath of the population the author knows is unaware and needs to be schooled. 6d

Robotswithpersonality 7/7 I think most of all Bogutskaya had a great time discussing female characters from film and television that were formative in their portrayals, if not completely unproblematic, and in many cases need a second glance because they may have been overlooked/unfairly maligned when first seen on screen.
⚠️SA, misogyny 6d

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Robotswithpersonality

Unlikeable Female Characters: The Women Pop Culture Wants You to Hate | Anna Bogutskaya

“We can't avoid being influenced by the stories we see onscreen, but we also have the power to influence the stories that are made.“

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DrSabrinaMoldenReads

All About Love: New Visions | bell hooks

A little late but I did it! #redbook #bibliophile

Eggs, Alwaysbeenaloverofbooks

TheBookHippie I do love this book. 6d

Eggs Excellent ❤️📕❤️ 5d

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Robotswithpersonality

Unlikeable Female Characters: The Women Pop Culture Wants You to Hate | Anna Bogutskaya

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Jari-chan

Untenrum frei | Margarete Stokowski

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Soft pick. I like the way Stokowski writes, it's easy-going, a bit snarky and sometimes even funny. Even though the things she writes about are not funny. More than once I found myself in the episodes of her life she shares with us. We learn how sneaky patriarchy is in our daily life and how it claims to be the right way to live. Sadly, the author looses her wit towards the end of the book.

#roll100 @PuddleJumper

PuddleJumper Nicely done! Another off your list 1w

Jari-chan @PuddleJumper Yes! 🙌 Even though my #roll100 list is currently on nr. 107 🤔 1w

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