7 essays, so many voices. This book made me think hard and I loved it. Newer terms and idea got put into my feminist head. Melissa made me feel less alone in my girlhood and growing up without guidance. I think ever woman should read this!
7 essays, so many voices. This book made me think hard and I loved it. Newer terms and idea got put into my feminist head. Melissa made me feel less alone in my girlhood and growing up without guidance. I think ever woman should read this!
I think this was the October book for #SheSaid, but I‘m just now finishing it. Some of it was really good and thought-provoking, some parts made me inexpressibly sad, and other parts dragged. I really loved her discussion of “empty consent” — I‘d never heard that before. Her reactions at a cuddle party she attended were also interesting as they forced her to focus on how her very early sexual encounters impacted the rest of her life.
I finally finished this one for #SheSaid. I can't say I loved it because I often had to make myself pick it back up, but parts of it were definitely thought provoking. It may have been a "right book - wrong time" issue as well. @Riveted_Reader_Melissa
This book surprised me with how open, feminist, and raw it was. Debo‘s writing is amazing, every word it necessary and perfect. I listened on #audio and she reads it herself, I think that added to her authenticity. Be sure to check out the CW on this one, there are quite a few painful elements. #BookspinBingo @TheAromaofBooks
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Anyone see the new VanDerSloot confession in Natalee Halloway‘s murder. Talk about the empty consent we (mostly women give) because deep down we know where a “No” might lead us. Talk about a stark reminder why “No” is tough, and dangerous to say. 😱
This is great. She sort of hits you on the head with how obvious some of her points should be.
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This book continues to make me think in all the right ways, and regret some ways in which I have not been Taking Care of Myself because I didn‘t feel that it was the right thing to do at the time. Disturbing the more you actually think about it, isn‘t it? That good girl, take care of everyone but yourself syndrome. How do we get out of that spiral of feeling responsible for everyone else‘s feelings?
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I really, really enjoyed this book. However, there was just so much that I feel could‘ve been left out. I read another review that said it is very “MFA” and I think I agree with that. A lot of it (but not all of it, which I felt was weird) read as a college academic research paper. But such good writing, and of course VERY important topics. I still think everyone should read it. I think I just expected it to be something it wasn‘t (I guess).
An incredible collection of essays: personal, literary, analytical, and investigative. Her beautiful writing is fiercely feminist, queer, and dedicated to complexity. Febos tackles narratives girls/women are taught that prioritize the comfort, success, feelings, etc of men over even women's safety, let alone freedom or happiness. She discusses consent, voyeurism, slut shaming, beauty standards, mother/daughter relationships, sex work, and more.
Loved this! Author writes about the experiences with boys that had a lasting effect on her as an adult.
Last day of my annual girls' trip, this year to Sedona, AZ where unfortunately forest fires are raging and most parks and trails were closed. We still had fun, of course. And the views are amazing even in the smoke.
Back in April, I suggested the tagged book as a group read. Guess who was the only one who showed up without reading it? 😬 Playing catch up so I can participate in tonight's discussion. What I've read so far is really good!
5🌟Febos brilliantly articulates the things that shaped her own Girlhood. How society pushes its own narrative's about women, even as young girls. I loved how she deconstructs so many issues so perfectly through personal experience and investigative reporting. She really captures the essence of what its like living as a woman in society. This collection is dark but light, tough but tender. I enjoyed it a lot! Such a smart collection. #bookreview
The events of girlhood can take a lifetime to process. Melissa developed early, leading to nonconsensual run ins with men and boys and attacks from other girls. She weaves these stories together with feminist theory in a dialogue where she explores as an adult what she couldn‘t name as a teen. A really fantastic essay collection that draws on mother-daughter relationships, addiction, and writing as therapy.