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Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle | Emily Nagoski, PhD, Amelia Nagoski, DMA
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This groundbreaking book explains why women experience burnout differently than men--and provides a simple, science-based plan to help women minimize stress, manage emotions, and live a more joyful life. The gap between what it's really like to be a woman and what people expect women to be is a primary cause of burnout, because we exhaust ourselves trying to close the space between the two. How can you "love your body" when everything around you tells you you're inadequate? How do you "lean in" at work when you're already giving 110% and aren't recognized for it? How can you live happily and healthily in a world that is constantly telling you you're too fat, too needy, too noisy, and too selfish? Sisters Emily Nagoski, Ph.D., the bestselling author of Come as You Are, and Amelia Nagoski, DMA, are here to help end the cycle of overwhelm and exhaustion, and confront the obstacles that stand between women and well-being. With insights from the latest science, prescriptive advice, and helpful worksheets and exercises, Burnout reveals: * what you can do to complete the biological stress cycle--and return your body to a state of relaxation. * how to manage the "monitor" in your brain that regulates the emotion of frustration. * how the Bikini Industrial Complex makes it difficult for women to love their bodies--and how to fight back. * why rest, human connection, and befriending your inner critic are key to recovering from and preventing burnout. All women will find something transformative in these pages--and be empowered to create positive and lasting change.
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saresmoore
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Pickpick

I finally finished reading this and I‘m so glad I did. This is a highly applicable, science-based, progressive, and confident look at the effects of the patriarchy on women. When I started reading this, it was overwhelming because I was under more oppression than I could have possibly realized, but because of that the timing was perfect and now I‘ve finished the book with acceptance and hope for the future. I‘m grateful for how it turned out.

kspenmoll Even your review sounds hopeful. 5mo
TrishB Sounds like a good book, I‘m glad it helped ❤️ 5mo
Lindy 🌻🌻🌻 5mo
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Suet624 Much love to you, Sara. 4mo
saresmoore @Suet624 Thank you, Sue. I can‘t tell you how much I appreciate your words of encouragement and that very apt card. The image instantly spoke right to the core of me. ♥️♥️♥️ 4mo
Suet624 I‘m so glad. 4mo
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mrozzz
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Pickpick

Wonderful/informative, even fun despite the oft-depressing topics, like the "Bikini Industrial Complex" & the "Giver Syndrome", sisters Emily & Amelia collaborated on a super relatable book. Though it is focused on issues women face & how we can cope with burnout in our professional and personal lives by doing things like not dissing other women based on appearance, it also embraces everyone's hotness, and prioritizing sleep etc— REAL self care.

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🌰🌰🌳🌲

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SarahSaysRead
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I liked the first half more than the second half - it seemed more geared toward biological/physical reactions to stress and managing those, where the second half was more managing your own thought processes. But in general I liked this a lot, related to it HARD, and bought myself the hardcover copy to refer back to.

#stress #selfcare #feminism #audiobook

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Blaire
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I need to get back to this book. Right now my life involves getting up at 5 am to work instead of doing yoga, and tossing and turning all night with stress dreams. I can feel the tension building up. I did have a dance party with my kids last night and that helped. But I can wait to get back to a typical schedule with more reading and less stress.

4thhouseontheleft Yoga always helps me with stress, that‘s too bad you can‘t fit it in right now! I sometimes do Yoga with Adrienne on YouTube when I am really tight on time. 7mo
JennyM Hugs to you 😘😘😘 7mo
Chrissyreadit ❤️❤️❤️ 7mo
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ElishaLovesBooks 💕💛 7mo
Lindy Insomnia is the worst. Hope everything is in balance soon. 🌻 7mo
ShyBookOwl I wish you luck 💕 7mo
ChasingOm This book is on my list too. I hope you‘re able to get back to your normal soon! 7mo
Blaire @4thhouseontheleft I need to make the time for it...I know it‘s more important than usual when I‘m stressed but this month has been a hard one for self-care. I also love yoga with adriene. I usually start my mornings with one of her videos, I need to give myself a rest and get back to it. 7mo
Blaire @JennyM @chrissyreadit @elishalovesbooks thank you! It should start to calm down in June...just need to make it through and breathe. 7mo
Blaire @Lindy @shybookowl thank you both! I‘m working on it. One of things that is hard about litigation, haven‘t found a way to keep the stress from getting to me. Hopefully when I make it through the book I‘ll be better able to prepare myself in the future. 7mo
Blaire @ChasingOm thank you. Hoping the summer will bring some calm. 7mo
4thhouseontheleft 💞💞 I know what that can be like. I struggle with self-care when we have long-term house guests, like I have at the moment. 7mo
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Last one for now! But seriously, these chapters are making me feel so seen. The first three, I struggled with a lot because it seemed like they were just saying I needed to change my "mindset", but this quote...it is so very real

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CaramelLunacy
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Articulating how I have felt and what I have struggled with.

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CaramelLunacy
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THIS. You aren't being treated the same because you should have to fight for basic parity. And then not be too exhausted from that to demand and justify with extensive evidence why you are being uppity. but also we'll flatter you as we pile more on your plate than anyone else (without any increase in recognition or compensation) because "you're so much better at it".

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BlameJennyJane
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This was a bit “meh” for me. I appreciate that it is written by women for women. At the same time, it felt like there were lots of reminders that men are *essentially* the reason for our burnout. The authors say they are acknowledging cultural climate and context, which I get... but I was ready for what came next before they were ready to evolve beyond man-focus. There were great bits and pieces along the way so, overall, I‘d recommend it.

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AutumnRLS I have burnout on my TBR :) 8mo
CoffeeK8 Such a good book! 8mo
Tamra Totally want the Burnout 8mo
RowReads1 @Tamra you want the Burnout, not the burnout😆 8mo
Tamra @RowReads1 😂😂 yea, already got that 8mo
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Blaire
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Hoping this book will help me through emotional burnout and learn to manage all the expectations I put on myself instead of shutting down. I‘ve only read the intro so far but the approach is promising.Thanks for the recommendation @CoffeeK8 #fixyou #anglophileapril

Alwaysbeenaloverofbooks I probably need this one!! 8mo
saresmoore I‘m working my way through it slowly and it‘s very illuminating and helpful so far. 8mo
Reviewsbylola I hope it works for you. I hate that feeling. 😖 8mo
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Mdargusch I hope it works for you! 8mo
emilyhaldi 🙏🏻 8mo
Cinfhen So relatable!!! Hope you find some inner peace & strength ❤️ 8mo
Cathythoughts Sounds like it will be a helpful book ♥️👍🏻 8mo
CoffeeK8 I hope you find it helpful 💕 8mo
Blaire @Alwaysbeenaloverofbooks I‘ve finished the first chapter and it provides good reminders of the need to release stress daily and not let it build. 8mo
Blaire @saresmoore I agree. I know I‘m entering a period with a lot of stressors and can tell by the state of my fingernails that I need this book. 8mo
Blaire @Reviewsbylola @Mdargusch @emilyhaldi @cinfhen thank you! I‘m in a job (special ed attorney) where I sometimes take on my clients stress and emotions on top of my own and it can lead to anxiety/shutdown and I think this book has productive suggestions on breaking through that. 8mo
Blaire @Cathythoughts @coffeek8 I‘m taking notes in my bullet journal. I‘m liking how specific it is. I know my overstressed signs but I think I often fail to do daily stress release especially during a high stress period. 8mo
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saresmoore
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This is the stack of books waiting patiently to be read. Some for comfort, some for enrichment, some for learning, but they‘ll all have to keep waiting because LIFE is being impossible!

My kids started at an Agile Learning Center/Free School last week, my dad is in the ER with pneumonia, my husband is transitioning to a new job that he hates, we are dog-sitting (our cat is distressed), and I am just doing everything for everyone. Send wine. 😅

Susannah Oh my goodness. All the wine. I‘m sending all the wine. 🍷🍷🍷 Hang in there! 8mo
JacqMac That‘s a lot. You deserve wine. I hope you find some peaceful time to sneak in a book. 8mo
julesG 🍷🍷🍷 Hang in there! 8mo
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Redwritinghood On the way! 🍷🍷🍷🍷 Hope things are better soon. 8mo
ravenlee You‘ve got this! Life will keep going, and the books will be there waiting for you. Good luck! 8mo
kspenmoll Too much at once! I hope you can grab a walk, breathe, even for a moment. You are carrying everyone. Hope you dad heals & is out quickly. So sorry about your husband not liking his new job- hope your kids transition goes well. The list goes on for you for right now so sendung💕💕🍷🍷🍷💕💕 8mo
Leftcoastzen That‘s a lot to deal with ! Hope your dad recovers soon , wine seems in order.🍷 8mo
Branwen Oh wow! How overwhelming! *hugs* Hang in there, friend! Sending lots of love (and virtual wine!) your way! 📚💕🍷 8mo
Samplergal Hugs! Here‘s some 🍷🍷🍷🍷🍷 8mo
Izai.Amorim Hang tough in there! 🥃🍷🍺 8mo
rretzler 🍷🍷🍷🍷🍷 8mo
LeahBergen Oh no! Poor you! Sending ❤️❤️❤️ and 🍷🍷🍷. 8mo
SharonGoforth So sorry this is happening!! 😥🍷🍷🍷🍷💗💗 8mo
JennyM I‘ve been thinking of you, as I‘ve not seen you on here much of late. Hang in there Sara. Hope things settle soon 😘 8mo
Jas16 Yikes. That is a lot all at once. 8mo
Kalalalatja Oooh, Kintu! I‘ll look forward to your review 🙌 and hope everything settles down a bit soon 🤞 8mo
RealBooks4ever **hugs** Please remember to take care of yourself or you won't be able to take care of them! 💜 8mo
MicheleinPhilly Oh sweet friend. Sending you ALL the positive energy the universe can spare. 😘🍷 8mo
Lcsmcat Hang in there! 🍷 🍷🍷 8mo
readordierachel That's a lot to me dealing with! Hope things mellow out soon 🍷💚 8mo
erzascarletbookgasm I was just thinking of you recently as I haven‘t seen your posts in a while. Sending you crates of wine and positive vibes. 🍷 🍷🍷 8mo
Tamra Yikes! Dive into those pages at least for temporary respite. Kintu has been on my shelf for too long. 8mo
BarbaraBB That sounds as way too much. Take care. Drink wine. ❤️ 8mo
batsy I was wondering why you went quiet. Sending you much strength and positivity, friend 💖 Also, all of the wine 🍷🍷🍷 How's your dad doing? 8mo
vivastory I'm sorry to hear about all of the challenges your family is facing! Sending positive vibes your way & to paraphrase C.S. Lewis, "You can never get a glass of wine large enough or a book long enough to suit me" 8mo
youneverarrived That‘s a lot to deal with. Hope things are a bit more settled soon. 🍷🍷🍷 8mo
Cathythoughts Take care ... 🍷🍷🍷 8mo
saresmoore @batsy Thank you, friend. ♥️ He‘s still in the hospital, but beginning to recover. He‘s very stubborn about medical care, so he gave us quite the scare before he made it to the doctor, but I think he will be okay, if not quite the same as before. Meanwhile, I will be searching through his apartment today for relevant tax documents in order to file for an extension before the deadline in 3 days. The gov‘t is not sympathetic! 8mo
saresmoore @Susannah @JacqMac @julesG @Redwritinghood Thank you, lovely humans! Your support is immensely helpful. ♥️ 8mo
saresmoore @kspenmoll Thank you, Katherine! ♥️♥️ It really is a lot at once, but taking a break and a nice walk really does help. 8mo
saresmoore @Leftcoastzen Thank you! ♥️ Dad is beginning to recover (i.e. breathe again), so I‘m feeling hopeful. 8mo
saresmoore @Branwen Thanks, friend! ♥️ How are you liking your library job? 8mo
saresmoore @Samplergal @rretzler @SharonGoforth Thank you for the support, sympathy, and 🍷! ♥️ 8mo
saresmoore @LeahBergen Thank you, lovely! ♥️♥️♥️ 8mo
saresmoore @JennyM Jenny, you are so kind! Thank you. ♥️😘 I am hanging in. 🦇(No sloth emoji, but I suppose I‘m feeling more bat-like, anyway. Ha!) 8mo
saresmoore @Jas16 It‘s kind of a 💩🌪, right? New frustrations keep cropping up, too. I‘m just 🤷‍♀️ [communicating in emojis, apparently]. 8mo
saresmoore @Kalalalatja The Universe and I need to have a heart-to-heart because I do believe it would be in both Her and my best interests if I could get the time to read Kintu! 🙃 8mo
saresmoore @RealBooks4ever Yes! That is such a good reminder, thank you! ♥️ 8mo
saresmoore @MicheleinPhilly I‘ve been having one of those months in which I‘m pretty certain the Universe is conspiring against me (much to my optimistic husband‘s chagrin), so I appreciate your words more than you know! ♥️♥️♥️😘 8mo
saresmoore @Lcsmcat @readordierachel Thank you, friends! ♥️♥️♥️ 8mo
saresmoore @erzascarletbookgasm It‘s so kind of you to think of me! ♥️♥️♥️ I‘ll have the disgruntled cat sign for the wine crate delivery. 😆 8mo
saresmoore @Tamra Kintu is a bit of an intimidating size, isn‘t it? I very much want to read it, but have the feeling I may have to renew the loan a few times. 8mo
saresmoore @BarbaraBB Thank you! ♥️ 8mo
saresmoore @vivastory Thank you, friend! I THINK it might be a great diversion to first drink wine and then paraphrase C.S. Lewis even more. 😃 8mo
saresmoore @youneverarrived @Cathythoughts Thank you, both! ♥️♥️ 8mo
Tamra @saresmoore I think that is why it‘s still on my shelf. 😬 8mo
Christine Ugh!! Sending good thoughts (and wishes for stolen reading moments when possible) in lieu of sending wine. But I hope there is also wine. ❤️ 8mo
batsy I'm glad to hear your dad's beginning to recover and I hope he is back to his usual self soon 🌻 Our parents can be pretty stubborn about admitting when they're not feeling good and they sure can be a handful when they think they're as young as they used to be... *insert all stress and anxiety emojis* I also hope the universe is kinder to you this week ❤️🍷📚🙏🏽💪🏽 8mo
Lindy Sending you strength and best wishes. ❤️❤️❤️ 8mo
rubyslippersreads Sounds like you need wine and the cat needs catnip. Sending ❤️❤️❤️ 8mo
Bookwomble Glad to hear your dad's making progress in his recovery, Sara. I had a scare with my dad earlier in the year, also caused by him ignoring symptoms so as not to "trouble the doctor"! ? Sending good vibes your way ? 8mo
saresmoore @Bookwomble Thank you, Michael! It was a bit of a rude awakening that I need to be more proactive (read: annoying) in keeping tabs on his health and basic self-care. 8mo
TrishB Only just seen post. Sending love and hugs and deep breaths ❤️❤️ 8mo
Suet624 Oh Sara! I‘m so sorry to hear about all of this. May you be lifted somewhat by all the expressions of love and concern we all feel for you. Hold tight to one small good thing every day until the way is clear and smooth again. Love you. 8mo
saresmoore Thank you, Sue. So much love right back at you! ♥️♥️♥️ 8mo
saresmoore @TrishB Thank you, Trish. ♥️♥️♥️ Things have only gotten more difficult in the past few days, but we are all just going to keep swimming, like Dory says! 8mo
TrishB Sorry to hear, be thinking about you. Life is sometimes just bloody hard!! 💕❤️ 8mo
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Rhondareads
Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle | Emily Nagoski, PhD, Amelia Nagoski, DMA
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This book is getting rave reviews a book for women about how to handle stress will be sharing with my women friends. A wonderful novel to cuddle up and de stress with perfect combination. @penguinrandomhouse qureususa.

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sophierayton
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Absolutely revolutionary and mind blowing. This is the kind of book I want to buy 100 copies of and hand out to everyone I know.

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BlameJennyJane
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This is a #blameitonlitsy selection. (Thanks @CoffeeK8 !) I need this book in my life right now!

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CoffeeK8
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I finished the #audiobook then immediately went online to buy the book so I can read it again. I found it both impactful and genuinely useful.

hermyknee I think I‘ll use my audible credit on this one ☺️ 8mo
Bookcation74 I‘m halfway through and LOVING it! I have sooo many page flags 💕 8mo
CoffeeK8 @hermyknee I think you‘re really find it worthwhile. I loved it 8mo
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CoffeeK8 @Bookcation74 that‘s why I bought the book, it‘s hard to flag an audiobook 8mo
Blaire This sounds like a book I may need. I‘ve been procrastinating big things because of stress/anxiety about things piling up. 8mo
CoffeeK8 @Blaire I have the same problem...it talks about how if you don‘t address your stress cycle daily (by exercise, hugging loved ones, doing deep breathing, etc...) then it never get alleviated and piles up on you. 8mo
saresmoore @Blaire Same here. I‘m reading this currently and also finding it incredibly affirming and helpful—I already gifted it to my sister-in-law, as well! 8mo
Blaire @saresmoore @coffeek8 you‘ve both sold me. I‘m in a very anxious/stressful period right now and that can cause me to shut down. I‘ve skipped my daily yoga for weeks and I know it is not good. I have been doing sleep meditations which has helped some. Will buy this book. 8mo
BlameJennyJane I ordered it based on your recommendation and this comment section and it arrived today! Can‘t wait! 8mo
CoffeeK8 @Blaire I know where you‘re coming from. The shutdown is a real problem for me too. 8mo
CoffeeK8 @BlameJennyJane I hope you love it as much as I did! 💕 8mo
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CoffeeK8
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Some more #truth

kspenmoll Looked for this book at the library. They did not have it but I can put in a request for purchase. Sounds fascinating. 8mo
CoffeeK8 @kspenmoll it really is, I found it really helpful! 8mo
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CoffeeK8
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This book is amazing! I‘m only a little bit into it, but I think it may be life changing.

Bookcation74 This one is my weekend read also! 9mo
saresmoore SAME! 9mo
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BooksForEmpathy
Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle | Emily Nagoski, PhD, Amelia Nagoski, DMA
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It‘s here! It‘s here! I have been eagerly awaiting this book. I absolutely was forever changed with Emily Nagoski‘s first book Come As You Are, and this one (written with her twin sister!) is just as exciting.

So far, the “stress cycle” is spot on. We (as women) have to both deal with our external stressors, AND the stress response in the body has to COMPLETE. It‘s a physical thing. Exercise, hugs, 6 second kisses, and laughter help!

Bookcation74 Yes! I bought this Tuesday and plan to read it this weekend. 9mo
JamieArc Come As You Are was a game changer for me too! Really looking forward to this one. 9mo
Heretherebedragons The authors were on today's episode (344) of the "Smart Podcast Trashy Books" podcast and they were great! This is definitely going on my TBR. 9mo
saresmoore I‘m currently reading this and loving it! It couldn‘t have come at a better time for me. Well, eleven years ago, pre-children would have been helpful, but 🤷‍♀️ 9mo
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