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Difficult Women
Difficult Women | Roxane Gay
Award-winning author and powerhouse talent Roxane Gay burst onto the scene with "An Untamed State" and the "New York Times" bestselling essay collection "Bad Feminist" (Harper Perennial). Gay returns with "Difficult Women," a collection of stories of rare force and beauty, of hardscrabble lives, passionate loves, and quirky and vexed human connection. The women in these stories live lives of privilege and of poverty, are in marriages both loving and haunted by past crimes or emotional blackmail. A pair of sisters, grown now, have been inseparable ever since they were abducted together as children, and must negotiate the elder sister's marriage. A woman married to a twin pretends not to realize when her husband and his brother impersonate each other. A stripper putting herself through college fends off the advances of an overzealous customer. A black engineer moves to Upper Michigan for a job and faces the malign curiosity of her colleagues and the difficulty of leaving her past behind. From a girls fight club to a wealthy subdivision in Florida where neighbors conform, compete, and spy on each other, Gay delivers a wry, beautiful, haunting vision of modern America reminiscent of Merritt Tierce, Jamie Quatro, and Miranda July."
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Victoriahoperose
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I love Roxane Gay and her writing. I thought this was a really interesting and diverse collection of short stories. She really captures a lot about being a woman and so much heart behind so many different scenarios of being a woman. I didn‘t love all the stories, but most of them really sucked me in and kept my interest. This is a darker book, but definitely worth reading!

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NeedsMoreBooks
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We just had an awesome book discussion with Roxane Gay, organized by the @FeministBookClub

February‘s book is The Body Is Not an Apology: The Power of Radical Self-Love and there will be a member‘s only discussion with the author, Sonya Renee Taylor.

If you are interested, you can use the code LUCHI to get 15% off your box.

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NeedsMoreBooks
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Completed this anthology of short stories, cuddled with our dog, while it was snowing outside (first snow of the season). TW- sexual assault, domestic abuse.
All the stories feature ‘difficult women‘ but shows how they became or why they are difficult. The protagonists come from various backgrounds; the stories vary in length & genres showing Gay‘s brilliance. I can say that every reader will finds parts of themselves in at least one story

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ladygrey
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My first read of Roxane Gay's 💖
(Don't mind the cinnamon floating in my coffee 😂)

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WhatWouldJaneDo
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For sure! A few faves (I have backlist to work through on some of these but new works automatically go on the TBR!):
Roxane Gay
Jasmine Guillory
Justina Ireland
Helen Hoang
Cherie Dimaline
Stephen Graham Jones
Tiffany D. Jackson
Samantha Irby
Kiley Reid
Brit Bennett
Carmen Maria Machado

#integrateyourshelf

ChasingOm I loved The Kiss Quotient, but I‘ve let The Bride Test sit on my shelf for far too long! 3y
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brandierickson
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A collection of short stories about, well, difficult women and the lives they lead. Some are truly disturbing and others sadly seem like the average woman‘s life. I‘m glad I‘m reading this but it is a bit depressing, especially in this year when everything is going wrong already. As always, though, Roxane Gay is a phenomenal author.

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Megabooks
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I DEVOURED my reread of this book. So glad to have a physical copy again. Baby Arm is an all-time favorite short story. The last three stories in the collection are long and my least favorites, so I‘m always left with an aftertaste, but the preceding 18 are so great, I have to give this 4.5⭐️

Excited for the Feminist Book Club Box discussion later this month.

BarbaraBB That sounds good. And you have those gorgeous Persephones waiting for you of course! 🤍 3y
Megabooks @BarbaraBB thanks! And I‘m excited to get to the Persephone short stories too. 3y
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Megabooks
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Really long day already, but my Feminist Book Club Box came! 🎉🥳📚 I have a hardcover copy of DW in storage, but I‘m glad to have it back in my collection for now. Also very excited for the discussion with Roxane!

There‘s a cute calendar, chocolate-covered hazelnuts, grapefruit-scented soap, and this gorgeous green and gold washi tape, too. I‘m glad to be supporting small businesses with some of my book-buying 💵.

BarbaraBB What a wonderful package! Enjoy... and get some sleep 💚 3y
Megabooks @BarbaraBB thank you friend! I did sleep. Parents are driving me batty! (edited) 3y
BarbaraBB Because of current politics or just because 😏? Take care! 3y
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Megabooks @BarbaraBB no, not politics. Dad is just not thinking clearly or trying anymore. It‘s just really hard. I‘ve been in a lot of pain. (I‘m fighting tears due to pain now, and I can barely sleep.) mom gets over upset about it all, so I‘m the only voice of reason. Tbh, I‘m just exhausted. Sorry I just unloaded all that. 💜 3y
Cinfhen Ugh, your family situation doesn‘t sound healthy for you anymore, Meg. You‘re a wonderful daughter but you need to start taking care of yourself too. Do your parents have siblings that you can speak with? I‘m worried that your dad needs more care than you can or should be responsible for. I‘m thinking of you xxx #loveacrossthemiles 3y
Cinfhen Oh and the book box looks amazing 3y
Megabooks @Cinfhen thanks, the book box was a bright spot today. My family situation is hard. My mom is panicked. My dad is and isn‘t the same person he used to be. There‘s no family to step in. We do have a lot of church members that have been helpful, but we generally only ask when things get terrible. Plus my two closest irl friends have their own issues. One is a single mom following her husband‘s suicide and the other is going through an ⬇️ 3y
BarbaraBB I am with Cindy, Meg. You can‘t bear all this responsibility by yourself. It is too much, you are too close, and you need time and space for yourself. I know it‘s none of my business and please correct me if I‘m crossing a line but I wish you have (professional) people nearby who you can reach out to sometimes to take over the care for your dad 🤍🤍 3y
Megabooks Acrimonious divorce. I‘m trying to support them as they have me in the past but with the pandemic and my own problems, the well is empty. My therapist suggested a short vacation, but I‘m unsure if my mom can handle it. The pandemic has just made things worse as far as in person support as well. That‘s my story... @BarbaraBB @Cinfhen (edited) 3y
Megabooks @BarbaraBB I do have a therapist, which is helpful, but her suggestions seem to big. We have an aide for dad, but he is unreliable. We have a maid that comes for a few hours twice a week. I don‘t know what we‘d do without her. She‘s been with us for 30 years. 3y
BarbaraBB It‘s a hard story. I can understand a vacation sounds a bit far fetched and impossible right now. And your friends, the aide and COVID don‘t make it any easier for you. I‘m of no help, I wish you could escape it all for a few hours or days to energize and to take care of yourself. Please know you can always email me! 3y
Cinfhen I‘m happy you have outside resources to help alleviate some of the burden but I‘m still concerned about you. Maybe now is the time to reach out to your pastor or church friends and seek some guidance. I know the pandemic SUCKS!!!!! It‘s really infringing on situations making them harder and 100 times more complicated. A little break is a nice idea but it‘s only a bandaid - you need a bigger plan. I‘m sorry if I sound too opinionated 👇🏽 3y
Cinfhen But this is how I would talk to my close friends and people I genuinely care for. I wish I could offer you more, but I‘m here as a sounding board or anything else. You‘re not alone, Meg. XX 3y
Megabooks @BarbaraBB @Cinfhen thank you both for being such fantastic friends. Its really wonderful to have people to talk to in the lonely hours at night. It‘s hard for me to reach out for help, but I am close to breaking. I lie awake at night in pain and worried. I really just need a vacation. I need my own space. I need to talk to my therapist more often. I feel smothered. I don‘t mean to worry you. I‘ve survived a lot already. 💜 I can do it somehow. (edited) 3y
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monalyisha
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Two book-related services I‘ve signed-up for this year are MyTBR ( on the recommendation of @MallenNC ) & Roxane Gay‘s newsletter, The Audacity.

I‘m excited to see which books my bibliologist selects for me — & Roxane Gay is insightful, passionate, eloquent, & witty...so I‘ve no doubt the latter was a sound purchase.

https://mytbr.co

https://audacity.substack.com/p/the-audacity-begins-on-january-11th

Aims42 How cool!!! Thanks for sharing 👏🏻 3y
Amandajoy My TBR is an awesome service! 3y
monalyisha Yes! @AmandaJoy I think you mentioned it to me first, actually, & then @MallenNC emailed me more info. Thanks for the heads-up! 🙌🏻 3y
Amandajoy I think we both had #newyearwhodis picks from our My TBR selections! 😂 I‘m sure I‘ll have a couple this year too. 3y
MallenNC We did have MyTBR picks on both of our lists! I‘m excited you decided to try it and I hope you have good luck with it like I have. 3y
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dearb00kshelves
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Definitely a tough read but I appreciate Gay's honesty both in the topics themselves and the feelings that come with those topics. Standout stories include Open Marriage and Noble Things.

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dearb00kshelves
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Just wanted to share my reading tracker here. I have more photos on my IG (dearb00kshelves)

Also I started Difficult Women by Roxane Gay this morning. I'm trying to squeeze in one more read before the month ends. Anyone else?

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Eggbeater
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This was not an easy read because many of the stories dealt with rape and sexual abuse and they did not hold back, but they were so well written and evocative. These are not bedtime stories, but they are important and should be heard. The last one made me weep.

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DrLReads
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The writing in this collection is achingly beautiful. The stories oscillating between gritty realism and abstract surrealism. This read takes time though, the stories are heavy (dealing with sexual violence, abuse, and grief) and the reader needs some time to digest and recover. While a difficult read, Difficult Women is well worth it.

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meagankc21
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Filled with flawed and imperfect women, Roxane Gay's short story collection makes readers face up to what society considers a difficult woman. Tw: sexual assault, rape, violence, pedophilia. It's not easy to read these, but anyone familiar with her work knows that already. Definitely a collection that makes you think. ⭐⭐⭐⭐

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"It was a dark, ugly thing to see such greed cloaked in false good." - The Sacrifice of Darkness

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Jbakesmcgee3
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⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️ I Loved this incredible set of short stories, I hope she continues to write short stories because she is incredible

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sarahlandis
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amazing

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AlizaApp
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Really loved these short stories about all kinds of women on the verge. I love the way she writes about trauma and survival.

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WhatWouldJaneDo
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Starting my #blackhistorymonth reading right with the incomparable Roxane Gay.

Megabooks Love this collection. 4y
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ONH
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I have so many feelings about this book I don‘t even know where to start. 10/10, I‘m Amazon priming a copy ASAP bc I need to be able to read this over and over.

Constance Grady, writing for Vox, says it better than I can: “Taken together, the stories celebrate the condition of being difficult in the face of a world that is determined to hurt you. Because it is only the dead girls, Gay concludes in the title story, who are never called difficult.”

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Reagan
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Snow has been falling for several hours and the absence of sound as fresh flakes fall to the ground is seductive (from Bone Density)

On this super hot, muggy day, Roxane Gay made me miss the snow. I know that sound-or lack of-like the back of my hand. Mmmm winter ❤️

Quirkybookworm That sentence is quite seductive already!! 5y
MicheleinPhilly I saw this and thought, “Where is this??? I‘m buying a summer home there!” Shucks. 5y
Reagan Bahaha thankfully that picture is from springtime, we‘re currently enjoying high humidity and tornado warnings 😐 5y
Reagan But if you like snow in all seasons, then Alberta is the place for you 😂 5y
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sarahbarnes
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This is a powerful collection of stories/portraits of women. They are raw and candid and Roxane Gay doesn‘t mince words or avert her eyes. Women shouldn‘t have to hide the things that happen to them, and I feel like this collection helps bring them into the light. #LitsyAtoZ

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jveezer
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“Peter would prefer to have sex every day. Hanna would prefer to never have sex with Peter again, not because she‘s frigid but because she finds it difficult to become aroused by a perpetually unemployed man.” —I almost spit out my latte...

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SW-T
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Roxanne Gay has launched an online magazine. Read more about it here: https://gay.medium.com/

#roxannegay #writers

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jveezer
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Difficult women made easier with the Portola latte...

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happyflavored
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This book is every bit as good as Roxane Gay‘s other work and you need to read it. Period.

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MsLeah8417
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🌟🌟🌟🌟

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dlowe86
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#BlitsyHistoryMonth #BHM @ladyneverwhere thank you so much. Excited to read all these. The post card is beautiful

bullbunny The paper though! 😍 5y
Chelleo What @bullbunny said!! 🤩😍 Happy #BlitsyHistoryMonth! 5y
ladyneverwhere Oh good! I'm so glad you liked the package! If you end up reading who fears death I'd love to hear what you think of it. It was kind of an out there pick based on the book stalking I did, but since you had a lot of Gaiman on your TBR I thought you might like it and it's one of my favorites 😊 5y
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kaysworld1
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Difficult woman by Roxane Gay.
I'll admit I hated that book!

The subjects were far too close to home and I didn't want to relive all that again.
This book is a did not finish for me.
#blackauthors #blackhistorymonth #femaleauthors

whatsthEStorey I hear you. I was reading Not That Bad and had to stop, not because it wasn‘t a good book, but it was too painful at that moment. 5y
kaysworld1 @whatsthEStorey 💞 there were a few I struggled to get threw I held on till halfway through but we no, now more. 🤗 5y
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kaysworld1
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#currentlyReading Difficult woman by Roxane Gay.

The first story was what did I just read? 😕
The second story was What the f**k! 😮

The rest of the book I'm down for whatevers coming although there will be many more WTF moments! 🤦📚♀️
#femenist #femenistread #wtf #femaleauthor
#blackhistorymonth #readblackauthors 💞

KatieDid927 Haven‘t read this one yet but I‘ve read three of her other books and she‘s the best. 5y
kaysworld1 @KatieDid927 I'm enjoying it but the first story was not what I was expecting. My next one of hers is bad feminist 5y
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monalyisha
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Because I can never follow the rules *exactly* or exercise self-restraint, here are a bunch more picks for “authors who define [my] literary taste”:

Maggie Stiefvater
Lindy West
Rainbow Rowell
Roxane Gay
Jesmyn Ward
Cat Valente
Patricia Lockwood
Shirley Jackson
Lev Grossman

#fivefavorites #iwasnevergoodatmath

britt_brooke 😆👏🏻 Love it!! 5y
RadicalReader @monalyisha I adore Rainbow Rowell I loved reading her wonderful book 5y
KCorter ❤ Shirley Jackson and Catherynne Valente ❤ 5y
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monalyisha @RadicalReader I‘ve got a real soft spot for “Fangirl.” It was my first RR. I should go back & read it for a second time. It‘s been forever! 5y
JamieArc Are you excited about the screen adaptation of Shrill? I need to reread it before it comes out! 5y
monalyisha @JamieArc I‘m nervous, actually. Haha. And ditto. After I read it, I was like, “I NEED TO LISTEN TO THIS ANNUALLY.” Of course, I didn‘t. 5y
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She once told a boyfriend about these considerations and he said, “You are completely out of your mind.” She told a new friend at work and she said, “Honey, you‘re not crazy. You‘re a woman.”

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alisonrose
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Quite disappointing. I loved her novel & recent memoir. But this collection fell really flat. I‘ve always hated when a 2-3 page piece is called a ‘short story‘ — no, that‘s an anecdote, a scene. Not a story. Way too many super short pieces that said nothing. Some cliched characters, few that were unique. Also TOO MUCH SEX I know it‘s different for me being ace, but still, good lord. A few stories were strong but mostly this was a big miss. 2/5 ⭐️

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ladyneverwhere
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I really liked this #newyearwhodis pick. Gay can make worlds and characters feel real in only a few pages, and some of her imagery is incredibly striking. A lot of the themes and language got repetitive though and I ended up not loving it as much as I thought I was going to. I also don't know if I'll be in a rush to read her other fiction, I'm not sure I could stomach the violence in long form.

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monalyisha I can understand your hesitancy! Its rough...but I loved so many of the stories. Maybe knowing about her life (via “Bad Feminist” & “Hunger”) helped me to accept & understand the thematic repetition. 5y
ladyneverwhere @monalyisha that makes so much sense, I wish I had read her nonfiction first. 5y
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alisonrose
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There sure is a whole lot of sex in these stories. Sigh. 😒😒😒

Slajaunie I hate that. 5y
alisonrose @Slajaunie Same. There‘s a reason I don‘t read romance novels. 5y
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alisonrose
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(Sorry for the amateur photo combining 🤷🏻‍♀️)

BookishMarginalia Seems fine to me! 5y
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alisonrose
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Yes, please. #nowreading

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ladyneverwhere
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This book. I've never read any of Roxanne Gay's books before ( I know, I know #badfeminist). But I've always loved her articles and listening to her give interviews. So far this book is only deepening my appreciation for her. @monalyisha was right in warning me what a tough read it is, but so far it's my favorite thing I've read this year.

#newyearwhodis

KT1432 This is next up on my tbr! I can't wait to dig in. She's a really talented writer 5y
ladyneverwhere It's so good @lele1432 ! I'd love to know what you think of it once you read it. 5y
monalyisha Honestly, if not for this book, I wouldn‘t love Roxane Gay nearly as much as I do. Previously, I was impressed with her as a personality but not as a writer. This book changed everything for me. 🖤 5y
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AutumnRLS
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Short stories. Not my usual, but part of this year's reading goals = being open to new forms and perspectives. Plus, I loved Bad Feminist so I figured this would be good.

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Megabooks
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This collection is like Damn! I‘m not sure whether this is my favorite short story collection or whether Fortune Smiles is. This book just touches my heart. 5⭐️

If you‘re on Twitter, follow her @ rgay. She has a great account.

#MonthofRereads

KathyWheeler Fortune Smiles is a great collection. I was in the middle of reading Difficult Women (ebook from library) when it got snatched back because it was due. I‘d only finished the first story, which was really good. I need to check it out and finish it. 5y
Megabooks @KathyWheeler I hate it when that happens! I‘d definitely get it back in your queue. 😁👍🏻 5y
ErikasMindfulShelf Fortune Smiles is amazing as well. Did you read 5y
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Megabooks @irre No, but I‘ve stacked it now. Thanks! 5y
AutumnRLS I have this one on my shelf just waiting to be read! 5y
Megabooks @AutumnRLS Definitely pick it up! Lots of heartbreak, but a beautiful book! 5y
donnamartinreads This is definitely in my top 10 reads of last year! So beautiful and sad. 5y
Megabooks @donnamartinreads Yes!!! She has become one of my favorite fiction and nonfiction authors. 5y
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Kppo15
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“To difficult women, who should be celebrated for their very nature”

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Today is the first day of Fall! It‘s easily my favorite time of year with cooler weather, Halloween, and leaves changing. 🍁This year I‘m going to try to read a short story (at least one) every day to get down my tbr. #Fallintoshortstories

Also that lump on the left is my dog snuggling under the blanket 😁

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#manicmonday catchup
📚—Difficult Women
👤—Roald Dahl
📽—District 8
🍽—Donut

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dariazeoli
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Lots of errand running this morning. It was finally cool enough for a long walk afterwards and now I‘m doing laundry and trying not to nap.

Pictured: only half of the books I‘m currently reading! And they aren‘t going to read themselves, so time for some coffee!

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I don‘t do well with book buying bans 🤷‍♀️
#oops #bookhaul

LeahBergen I don‘t, either. 😂 6y
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Pearrr
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⭐️⭐️⭐️

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Karkar
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Asked my husband to pick out my next book because I couldn‘t make up my mind. I hope he is not trying to tell me something with this title. 🤣🤣🤣

JoScho That pupper ❤️❤️❤️ 6y
ravenlee 😆😂 6y
Reviewsbylola 😆😆😆😆 6y
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TheLibrarian 😂 6y
wanderinglynn 🤣 At least you have a fur-baby that‘s a cutie! ❤️🐶 6y
SledgeReader Precious!!! 6y
Alwaysbeenaloverofbooks 🤣🤣🤣🤣 6y
Pamwurtzler At least he can‘t blame that one one me!! 6y
Ddzmini Omg men 🤣🤣🤣 6y
tracey38 😂😂😂 that's too funny. And what a cute baby next to you! 6y
Karkar Zelda says thank you ☺️ 🐾❤️ @tracey38 @wanderinglynn @SledgeReader @JoScho With those eyes she can almost get away with anything 6y
Karkar @Pamwurtzler I told him that and he just laughed 😂 6y
BookNAround Zelda is a total love! Schnauzers rock. ❤️ 6y
tracey38 Yes, schnauzers do rock! Love mine! 😄🐶 6y
SledgeReader @Karkar PLEASE tell me you have a male named Scott too!!!💕🙃😘I have a pair of dachshunds names Jack and Diane!🐶🐶 6y
Karkar @SledgeReader no I have another girl named Sheba. But that would have been a totally awesome name for a boy!! 6y
Karkar @tracey38 @BookNAround Schnauzers are totally awesome. 😍🐾 6y
SledgeReader @Karkar Sheba! Awesome! 6y
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