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Rules for Visiting
Rules for Visiting: A Novel | Jessica Francis Kane
A beautifully observed and deeply funny novel of May Attaway, a university gardener who sets out on an odyssey to reconnect with four old friends over the course of a year. At forty, May Attaway is more at home with plants than people. Over the years, she's turned inward, finding pleasure in language, her work as a gardener, and keeping her neighbors at arm's length while keenly observing them. But when she is unexpectedly granted some leave from her job, May is inspired to reconnect with four once close friends. She knows they will never have a proper reunion, so she goes, one-by-one, to each of them. A student of the classics, May considers her journey a female Odyssey. What might the world have had if, instead of waiting, Penelope had set out on an adventure of her own? RULES FOR VISITING is a woman's exploration of friendship in the digital age. Deeply alert to the nobility and the ridiculousness of ordinary people, May savors the pleasures along the way--afternoon ice cream with a long-lost friend, surprise postcards from an unexpected crush, and a moving encounter with ancient beauty. Though she gets a taste of viral online fame, May chooses to bypass her friends' perfectly cultivated online lives to instead meet them in their messy analog ones. Ultimately, May learns that a best friend is someone who knows your story--and she inspires us all to master the art of visiting.
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julieclair
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What a beautiful book! A touching story about friendship, with many thoughtful - even profound - quotable sentences. The main character is a botanist, and I enjoyed learning lots of interesting facts about trees as I read. I closed this book with a newfound respect for trees, and a reinvigorated appreciation of the importance of friendship in our lives. Great pick for #LMPBC, @Reggie ! It will be on its way back to you soon.

Texreader Excellent review! 1y
julieclair @Texreader Thank you! If you read it, I hope you enjoy it as much as I did. 1y
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Deblovestoread
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While I identified with the MC in some ways I felt we only got the surface layer of the other characters. I did enjoy the botany lessons and learned a different use of the word nesting. A soft pick as I likely won‘t remember it.
#LMPBC. On its way to you tomorrow @julieclair

2nd book done for #20in4 @Andrew65

Andrew65 Excellent 👏👏👏 1y
julieclair Yay! Looking forward to my turn reading it! 1y
Jerdencon @Deblovestoread running a little behind this month - the book will be on its way to you by Friday the latest. 1y
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Jerdencon
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I loved this book (taken with 2 of the 3 plants I‘ve managed to keep alive in the past few years - no green thumb here at all!).
Great choice @Reggie and it‘s on its way to you tomorrow @Deblovestoread @julieclair #groups #lmpbc

Reggie Yayy!!! I‘m glad you liked it. I still think about May a month later. 2y
Deblovestoread It has arrived! Mine (Meet Me in Monaco) was mailed the 28th due to arrive today. @Reggie @julieclair 2y
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tphil10283
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It‘s a warm hearted story mostly about reaching out to old friends and dealing with changes that come in life.

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ImperfectCJ
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What I liked: the plants, the thoughts on friendship, the narrator's growth as a person, the awkwardly realistic interactions, the plants. What didn't quite work for me was how light this novel feels overall. The lessons all feel like they come too easily, and there was this weird thing in the second half where multiple times it felt like the author was ending the story, then it kept going, like stop-and-go traffic within sight of the destination.

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Jerdencon
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@Reggie the book arrived today! Excited to start it! #lmpbc #groups
My book will be in the mail by the end of the week! @Deblovestoread @julieclair

Reggie Yay! Hope you like it. 2y
Deblovestoread This arrived yesterday. Looking forward to diving in 2y
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Reggie
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This was lovely and touching. After reading all the stellar comments by friends on the death of an author, university gardener May Attaway starts to evaluate her introverted life and along with a carry on named Grendel she will visit her 4 friends. There is some etymology, some mythology, and some great observations in here. If you liked the first half of The Overstory, you‘ll love this. This will be on its way to you tomorrow @Jerdencon

kyraleseberg This sounds fantastic and the cover is gorgeous! 2y
julieclair I am reading - and enjoying - this now, @Reggie . I got behind in my LMPBC reading. Sorry for the delay, and hopefully it will be on its way back to you soon! 1y
Reggie @julieclair no worries, thanks for letting me know. Enjoy! 1y
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Litsi
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A botanist who has spent her life mourning her mother‘s death & doing her job, one day realizes she‘s out of touch with friends. She embarks on a plan to spend a fortnight with a few of them in an effort to share their ordinary lives. It‘s a story that rambles gently through sensitive & alarming features of aging. I came across this novel at a time when I felt compelled to buy luggage. Sometimes you pick the novel; sometimes the novel picks you.

jlhammar I really enjoyed this one. Touching and funny. And I loved how it made me stop and really pay attention to the trees around me! 2y
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HeathHof
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🚨 kindle deal 🚨

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radelyn
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Worth the read. Quick, concise, and tender.

Litsi Tender is a great word for this 2y
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Mogoeg
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This is a very quiet book about a very introverted person & about halfway through I wasn‘t sure if it was going to be a so-so or a pick. But then the book, like its MC & narrator, seemed to find its footing & I enjoyed it more & more. So a solid pick although it took me a while to get there.

A book about friendship, the families we have & the families we make, what makes a home, and trees 🌲🌳🌲🌳🌲.

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JennyM
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🧚‍♀️✨ Sometimes books find you at the right time, and this slow, meditative book about friendships was one of those. I resonated with so much - I even share a birthday with May, the MC - which made it such a comfort to read. So thankyou book fairies for knowing I needed this, and for sprinkling your magic and getting me to randomly pick it up

DebinHawaii I really liked this one! 🤗📚 4y
JennyM @DebinHawaii it was a lovely read and totally unexpected. I‘ve never heard of the book before. Glad you enjoyed it, too 😊 4y
Reggie Yay for the 📚 🧚🏽‍♀️s! 4y
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batsy I love when the right book appears when you need it 💚 And that cover is so pretty and soothing. 4y
JennyM @batsy @Reggie it‘s great when it happens. More fairy magic please! 😊 4y
BiblioLitten I love when that happens. I think most of my favourites happened to be in that way.💞 4y
EvieBee I think NOW is the time for me to pick this up. Time to be sloth like and intentional. 4y
JennyM @EvieBee lol...sounds a good plan👍😊 4y
Litsi I felt exactly the same way about the timing of my read. Coincidence or authorial skill? 2y
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soph.g
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This novel had quite a slow start in my opinion, however it was an enjoyable read for me as I felt some for of relatively to the protagonist May. I also thought that the imagery of this book was nice and all these names of botanical plants was rather educating to me for I also garden as a hobby.
Overall, I found that this was a cute decent read.

#fiction #friends

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Nitpickyabouttrains
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Mehso-so

A woman who has no close friends goes to visit and reconnect with four people she used to be close to.

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Penny_LiteraryHoarders
Rules for Visiting: A Novel | Jessica Francis Kane
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Since our rules for visiting are that we can't! 😔 I'll give this audio a try!

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BookNAround
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This is not historical fiction but the title kind of feels like it right now, doesn‘t it? And rules for visiting? Don‘t. Just don‘t. (That said, I‘m enjoying this very much so far.)

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DebinHawaii
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#MarchMadness #rain ☔️

I loved the imagery in this book & there were several scenes involving rain including this quote which I think describes a rainy day well & appeals to my slower-paced reflective side.😉

Cathythoughts Lovely quote 5y
Slajaunie I am thinking the whole world has slowed their pace at this point. 🙄 5y
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DebinHawaii
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After an unsure start, I quite liked this book & came to like the quirky & awkward May Attaway & this story of friendship. May‘s musings on friendship & plants were interesting & her visits to reconnect with 4 friends were entertaining. There were moments that had me tearing up & moments I was laughing to myself. The picture is of the Fortingall Yew in Scotland that is believed to be at least 3 thousand years old & plays a big role in the story.

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DebinHawaii
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#QuotsyMar20 #hell

Playing catch up on prompts. One of my current reads, I‘m finding this book quirky & intriguing.

“Certainly thank-you notes don‘t require thank-you notes; that would be a never-ending hell.”

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JSW
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Poignant and thoughtful, this would be a great read for a book club. 👥📚 May Attaway considers her friendships, the nature of friendships, and what it means to visit others. A botanist who finds plants easier than people, she nevertheless attempts to cultivate her relationships. A quirky voice and unique yet relatable story.

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Dolly
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After a slow start this book got more interesting. Revisiting old friends, May‘s mother‘s illness, and lessons in botany were intertwined throughout. I learned that the gingko tree has more than 3x DNA letters than a human, that tree was the only living thing that survived the Hiroshima bombing and the meaning of mast year.

Suet624 Sounds so interesting! 5y
Dolly @Suet624 I hope you like it. Be patient in the beginning if you find it boring. 🙂 5y
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Abailliekaras
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A gentle and singular story about the value of friendship. This is a nice, comforting read but was a little slow for me (it takes 80 pages before she visits anyone). It‘s written in the first person with many of her thoughts & literary references spelt out. But I liked her as a flawed character who feels lost at 40 and realises she needs friends. If it were an artwork it would be a watercolour.

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shawnmooney
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saresmoore Ahaha! This reminds me of my childhood town. Of course, our house was the one with the chickens AND the refugees. 5y
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SheReadsAndWrites
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Fighting a sinus infection. Snuggled with Sabrina and reading are just what the doctor ordered. ❤️🤓

Alwaysbeenaloverofbooks I hope you feel better soon 💕 5y
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Megabooks Get well soon! 5y
Freespirit Sinus infections are rotten. Hope your better soon🤗 5y
Crazeedi Hope you feel better soon, your sweet friend must be a comfort! 5y
Hooked_on_books Sabrina is gorgeous! 🐶💙 5y
SheReadsAndWrites Thank you @Hooked_on_books She is such a big love ❤️ 5y
Velvetfur Aaww, lovely doggie.....hope you feel better soon though x 5y
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JoyBlue
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It wasn't horrible, but I wasn't particularly engaged by the characters or narrative. Meh.

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quietjenn
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Library books due tomorrow that can't be renewed. To be overdue or to returned unread? It's still up in the air ...

Bklover I really enjoyed The Soul of an Octopus! 🐙 I‘d renew that one! 5y
BookNightOwl You can always take them back and ask them if you could check them right back out. Of nobody has a hold on them they usually do let you. 5y
quietjenn @i can't 😣 I suspect it's on a summer reading list or two 5y
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quietjenn @mandi1082 I know, I work there. These are things that can't be renewed. 5y
PaperbackPirate I‘ve been wanting to read Soul of an Octopus! Did you get to read any of it before returning it? 🐙 5y
quietjenn @PaperbackPirate only a few chapters. But then I got my own copy in a swap, so I'm going to get back to it soon, as I loved what I read! 5y
PaperbackPirate Good to know! I‘ll keep it on my list! 🐙 5y
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Recommended4Reading
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A 40 year old “prickly, but in a soft, long-needled way” woman‘s story of friendships and it‘s place in her life. For a quick review of my thoughts on the book: https://recommended-4.com/blog/2019/06/01/rules-for-visiting/

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auntie_jenn
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i loved this story so much i listened to many parts of it twice! single gal with a cat who likes plants and literary references? yes, please!

MallenNC I'm looking forward to reading this one! I read her book, The Report, years ago and hoped to read more from her. 5y
jenniferw88 Sounds like me except for the plants! #Stacked 5y
auntie_jenn @MallenNC i just read the blurb for The Report. VERY different! 5y
MallenNC @auntie_jenn Yes, I could tell from this one's description that it is very different! The Report was great though, so I'm excited to read something else from her. 5y
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Recommended4Reading
Rules for Visiting: A Novel | Jessica Francis Kane

Next up, Rules for Visiting. ARC from NetGalley with a publish date of June 6th!

CoffeeNBooks Welcome to Litsy! 📚 5y
Eggs Welcome to Litsy 🤗🎈 5y
StillLookingForCarmenSanDiego Welcome to Litsy 💖📖💖 5y
Recommended4Reading Thank you all! Happy to be here! 5y
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Liberty
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Excited to read Jessica‘s new book! And it has illustrations by Edward Carey - you know how I love him. 😍

MrBook So cute!!! 😻😻😻😻😻 6y
TheLibrarian Look at how cute those troublemakers are! 😻 6y
JenReadsAlot 😻😻 serious kitten cuteness happening! 6y
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LeahBergen I must admit to a mild obsession with these two on your Instagram account. 😆 6y
Linsy Cute pic! 💙 6y
tracey38 They are just too adorable! 6y
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