pick“To be fully known and loved is a lot like being loved by God.” Learned so much!!
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The Meaning of Marriage: Facing the Complexities of Commitment with the Wisdom of God | 
pick“To be fully known and loved is a lot like being loved by God.” Learned so much!!
“To be loved but not known is comforting but superficial. To be known and not loved is our greatest fear. But to be fully known and truly loved is, well, a lot like being loved by God. It is what we need more than anything. It liberates us from pretense, humbles us out of our self-righteousness, and fortifies us for any difficulty life can throw at us.” Timothy Keller, The Meaning of Marriage⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
pickI thought I knew what I was getting into with this book, cuz it was just gonna be another self help book on biblical marriage, even if it was given to me by the trusted biblical leaders in my life.....that‘s why you don‘t judge a book by its cover, my friends!! This was such a challenging, convicting read, but a breath of fresh air at the same time. Everyone who considers themselves in need of biblical guidance on marriage needs to read this one!
No human being should give any other human being unconditional obedience.
Dear friends, (yes that means YOU, my loyal litsy book loving follower), let us LOVE one another. 💜
Christ‘s love is the great foundation for building a marriage that sings. Some who turn to Christ find that his love comes in like a wave that instantly floods the hard ground of their hearts. Others find that his love comes in gently and gradually, like a soft rain or even a mist. But in any case, the heart becomes like ground watered by Christ‘s love, which enables all the forms of human love to grow.
Marriage does not consist of just one form of human love. It is not merely romantic passion or friendship, or acts of duty and service. It is all of these things and more. It is overwhelming.
One of the most painful situations you can be in is when one of you thinks dating is to consider a serious relationship and the other person thinks it is just for social fun and entertainment.
The world goes on and we live in it. We must take thought for tomorrow. Yet our assurance about God‘s future world transforms our attitudes toward all our earthly activities.
A person of one‘s own sex is not as likely to have as much Otherness to embrace. But God‘s plan for married couples involves embracing the other to make us unified, and that can only happen between a man and a woman.
Feminism as a biblical concept? Who woulda thunk it??
Cold, hard biblical truth right there!!! 💜💯✝️
Friendship is above all a relationship in which it is safe to share fears, hurts, and weaknesses—an emotional refuge.
“The praise of the praiseworthy is above all rewards.” To be highly esteemed by someone you highly esteem is the greatest thing in the world.
Marriage puts into your spouse‘s hand a massive power to reprogram your own self-appreciation.
Statements of affirmation make a far lighter and less lasting impression upon the human heart than criticisms and condemnation.
Marriage does not so much bring you into confrontation with your spouse as confront you with yourself. Marriage shows you a realistic, unflattering picture of who you are and then takes you by the scruff of the neck and forces you to pay attention to it.
“Marriage brings two human beings into closer contact than any other relationship can bring them.....The merged life of marriage brings you into the closest, most inescapable contact with another person possible. And that means not only that you see each other close up, but that you are forced to deal with the flaws and sins of one another.”
Making marriage a priority.....
Like a surgeon friends cut you in order to heal you. Friends become wiser together through a healthy clash of viewpoints.
If you do not give up, but proceed to love the unlovely in a sustained way, they will eventually become lovely to you.
The worldly man and woman VS the Christian man and woman......🤔
We are never more satisfied and fulfilled than when affection and action are joined in us, when we are serving someone we delight in. Nevertheless, if we don‘t distinguish between feelings and actions, it can put huge barriers in the way of loving people.
The only way for you to be truly free is to link your feeling to an obligation. Only if you commit yourself to loving in action, day in and day out, even when feeling and circumstances are in flux, can you truly be a free individual and not a pawn of outside sources.
To be loved but not known is comforting but superficial. To be known and not loved is our greatest fear. But to be fully known and truly loved is, well, a lot like being loved by God. It is what we need more than anything. It liberates us from pretense, humbles us out of our self-righteousness, and fortifies us for any difficulty life can throw at us.
“....it is our promises that give us a stable identity, and without a stable identity, it is impossible to have stable relationships.”
Wedding vows are not declaration of present love but a mutually binding promise of future love. A wedding should not be primarily a celebration of how loving you feel now–that can safely be assumed. Rather, in a wedding you stand up before God, your family and all the main institutions of society and promise to be loving, faithful and true to the other person in the future, regardless of undulating internal feelings or external circumstances.
“Woundedness” is compounded self-doubt and guilt,resentment and disillusionment.
Some will ask, if I put the happiness of my spouse ahead of my own needs—then what do I get out of it? The answer is—happiness. That is what you get, but a happiness in serving others instead of using them, a happiness that won‘t be bad for you. It is the joy that comes from giving joy, from loving another person in a costly way.
Marriage is glorious but hard. It‘s a burning joy and strength, and yet it is also blood, sweat and tears, humbling defeats and exhausting victories.
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