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Things No One Will Tell Fat Girls
Things No One Will Tell Fat Girls | Jes Baker
Things No One Will Tell Fat Girls is a manifesto and call to arms to women of all sizes and ages. With smart and sassy eloquence, veteran blogger Jes Baker calls on women to be proud of their bodies, fight against fat-shaming, and embrace a body-positive worldview to change public perceptions and help women maintain mental health. Chapters include: What is Body Love and Why is it Important? Start Now Realize that Body Hate is Learned Learn Why We've Decided to Hate Ourselves Reframe Health Acknowledge Photoshop Normalize Mental Health Surround Yourself with Body Positive Media Increase Conversational Awareness Wear What Scares You Create Your Own Affirmations Find a Body Love Support System Allow Yourself to Have Bad Days The Social Impact of Body Love/The Pay Off With the same straightforward tone that catapulted her to national attention when she wrote a public letter addressing the sexist comments of Abercrombie & Fitch CEO, Jes shares personal experiences along with in-depth research in a way that is approachable, digestible, and empowering. Featuring notable guest authors, Things No One Will Tell Fat Girls is an invitation for all women to reject fat prejudice, learn to love their bodies, and join the most progressive, and life changing revolution there is: the movement to change their world, not their body.
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wirewrappedlily
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Possibly the best remedy for someone trying and struggling with positivity.

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April‘s audiobook #doublespin. I think this had a great message that women should take to heart. I wish I would have read it on paper, the audiobook was a little disjointed at times. I seemed like there were boxes in the text that didn‘t lend itself well to audio, but the narration was great.

TheAromaofBooks Woohoo!! 3y
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beautifulcrevice

second time reading, this time as an audiobook! free with audible subscription. HIGHLY recommend. 🥰 #thingsnoonetellsfatgirls #jesbaker #tucson

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Ivonnini

The suspension of disbelief is the engine on which diet culture runs ... A women who is singularly obsessed with how she looks will never be an independent woman...

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Mehso-so

I realize fashion can be revolutionary, but what if you‘re plus-size, want to be body positive, but aren‘t into fashion? Then I suggest you read Lindy West‘s Shrill.

If you‘re someone that likes fashion & finds it a great means of expressing yourself, & if you are allosexual, then this book could be very liberating if you have a poor relationship with your body image.

Jes is fun & trans/queer, crip, and male inclusive, but just not right for me.

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AlohaAmy
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I really ought to finish one book before I start another. This is one of the five I currently have on the go. Spot the cameo by one of my kitties!

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Nicki_K
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An empowering and thought provoking read. Jes challenges a lot of people's thinking by captivating exactly how life is for some overweight people. Each chapter she challenges people do one something that people think overweight people shouldn't do. This book has some funny moments and also some poignant ones. It raises some very relevant topics such as mental health issues, transgender issues and childhood obesity issues as well as many others.

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i liked this!

this is a good place to start if you're interested in reading about body positivity. It markets itself as a handbook and does have challenges to encourage confidence but it also goes into the history of weight and fashion and has guest essays too for extra perspectives!

she even provides a reading list at the back of the book and lists of blogs and websites to check out which as a fellow fat woman i dived right into and loved

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GingerAntics
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I wish I had read this book 10 years ago. I wish this book had existed 10 years ago. I needed so much of what was in this book. I pretty much needed all of what was in this book. If you don‘t think you‘re pretty enough, skinny enough, big enough, small enough, (fill in the blank) enough... basically if you don‘t think you‘re enough for the world, a lover, yourself (so everyone), this book is for you. 👇🏻👇🏻👇🏻

GingerAntics Everyone should read this book. This book should be required reading. This book is perfection.
#jesbaker #thingsnoonewilltellfatgirls #bodypositivity #bodylove #selflove
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GingerAntics Jes Baker is now my spirit animal, and I‘m pretty sure she‘s got a fairly solid world peace plan (hint: it involves more orgasms for everyone). 5y
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This is officially the BEST acknowledgments section EVER. We should all be grateful after we‘ve come out of something like this that we didn‘t end up with scurvy, too. I should probably thank Sprouts for preventing me from developing scurvy while I was in grad school. 🤣😂🤣
#jesbaker #thingsnoonetellsfatgirls #scurvy

Branwen Omg I feel like I definitely need this book in my life! 🤣😂 5y
GingerAntics @Branwen it‘s a great book and she‘s so conversational in her writing that you feel like you‘re out to tea with her or something. 5y
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Duly noted. Now to find said person. If you need me I‘ll be out...just kidding I‘ll be here reading a book. Let‘s be real.
#jesbaker #thingsnoonetellafatgirls #bodylove #selflove #bodypositivity #everyoneneedstogetlaid

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He‘s a keeper!!! This should be a vlog series. I would totally watch this.
#jesbaker #thingsnoonewilltellfatgirls #cats #thingscatsthinkabout #bestboyfriendever

BiblioLitten 😊 5y
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Where was this 10 years ago?! I seriously needed this 10 years ago. I needed the whole story that came with this. It‘s been a REALLY long 10 years. (Don‘t ask why unless you really want to know. You‘ve been warned.)
#jesbaker #thingsnoonewilltellfatgirls #love #selflove #bodypositivity

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GingerAntics
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It‘s official. Jes Baker is my spirit animal.
#jesbaker #thingsnoonewilltellfatgirls #jesbakerismyspiritanimal

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GingerAntics
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Just on her love of burritos alone, I think we could be friends. Now I want a t-shirt that says “I‘m not pregnant. This is my burrito bump.”
#jesbaker #thingsnoonewilltellfatgirls #burritos #fortheloveofburritos #ineedthistshirt

BiblioLitten 😊 5y
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Texreader 👍🏻 5y
LibrarianJen 💖💖💖 5y
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This. Yup. I think the worst part of having a panic attack in the middle of Walmart (I swear the one we have access to has a portal to hell in it) is the depression that follows it when the adrenaline rush is over, you‘re taking stalk of the broken stuff, and you‘re thinking, ‘yup, it happened again. I suck as a person. I just failed at life.‘
#jesbaker #thingsnoonewilltellfatgirls #thingsnoonetellsyou #mentalillness #neededtoreadthis

jmofo 🖤🖤🖤🖤🖤🖤🖤🖤🖤 5y
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I needed this. I seriously did. Part of me feels like I‘m not one of the people who gets to claim compassion fatigue because I don‘t “compassion” enough (if that makes sense), and then part of me feels like “yeah my mother had a stroke, I still fecking matter, thank you very much. I didn‘t just stop existing or having an autonomous existence 5 years ago.”
#jesbaker #thingsnoonewilltellfatgirls #thingsnoonewilltellyou #compassionfatigue

Branwen This is seriously inspiring 💙 5y
GingerAntics @Branwen right? I think we‘re always told “it‘s better do give than receive” and we‘re told to do for others first, especially if we‘re girls. (I‘m always surprised at how girls are told this so much more than boys.) It‘s amazing to really think about it and realise it actually makes NO sense. There is a reason you put your own oxygen mask on in the plane before you help someone else out theirs on. 5y
julesG Just wanted to write about the oxygen mask. Although, just because I know that I am the most important person in my life, doesn't mean that I always take care of myself first. I still have a long road ahead of me. 5y
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GingerAntics @julesG you and me both. 😆 It doesn‘t help when most people still don‘t get it and want to tell you to just “have a servants attitude” and everything will be fine. 🙄 5y
Texreader I feel so fortunate I read The Virtue of Selfishness as a teenager and learned how much I can help others by helping myself. I didn‘t always remember that in my life and have had some big missteps along the way. But what an important thing to try to remember 5y
GingerAntics @Texreader there is a whole book on this? I think I may have to read it. 5y
Branwen @GingerAntics Yes, that is so true! It took my YEARS to be able to finally start saying 'no' to people. I just kept giving and giving of myself until I felt like a dry, wrung out sponge. I had just always been taught to always put others ahead of myself it wa 5y
Branwen @GingerAntics *it was completely brainwashing, you know? 5y
GingerAntics @Branwen it is, isn‘t it? It‘s horrible that we tell our little girls to just give and give and give. Boys aren‘t told this nearly as often. Then we all wonder why so many women end up staying in horrible relationships and the men their with don‘t see themselves as part of the issue. 5y
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POP QUIZ TIME, KIDS!!! What are these symptoms caused by? (Answer in the comments under the spoilers tag. I promise I didn‘t spoil any part of the book for you.)
#jesbaker #thingsnoonewilltellfatgirls #shockingtruth

GingerAntics While this is frequently the cited list symptoms of being fat, this is actually the list of symptoms of yo-yo dieting. Overweight people who have not yo-yo dieted are shockingly free of these symptoms. Unfortunately, most overweight people have yo-yo dieted because society and doctors tell them to. Here's another dirty little secret: only 5-10% of dieters kept the weight off at the 3 year mark (this is also true for weight loss surgery). 5y
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This really is the truth.
“Plus size models are just bigger versions of skinny models, and really they‘re not plus size, they‘re average. Just sayin. We really need to learn to love everybody, inside every body. Just saying.
#jesbaker #thingsnoonewilltellfatgirls #truthtime #diversity #loveeverybody

Weaponxgirl Yes! 5y
GingerAntics @Weaponxgirl this book is awesome!!! I want to be Jes Baker when I grow up. 5y
Weaponxgirl I will put her higher up my list 5y
GingerAntics @Weaponxgirl she doesn‘t mind swear words. The writing is very conversational, so you feel like she could be sitting next to you saying this stuff. Even if you‘re not fat, this book has, so many great, body positive, self love messages, every woman should read this book... maybe even the men, too. (edited) 5y
RavenLovelyReads Added it to my stack- I need to read this! 5y
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GingerAntics
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🤣😂🤣 “She was also missing a belly button.” 🤣😂🤣
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#jesbaker #thingsnoonewilltellfatgirls #katemiddleton #postpregnancybody #missingbellybutton

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Weaponxgirl As someone who is scared of photos I‘m finding this interesting 5y
GingerAntics @Weaponxgirl right? I'm having the same thought. 5y
Weaponxgirl @GingerAntics I find a photo can make me aware of myself in a way that can take me from feeling ok about myself to hating how I look. Why I have avoided them for yonks. This is a different perspective for me I honestly hadn‘t thought about 5y
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GingerAntics @Weaponxgirl I remember I had to do this project for a photography class once. We had to take a self portrait every day for the entire semester. I hated most of them, but I ended up getting more creative with it and liked a few of them. Especially the one I staged where I was peeking over the top of a book I was reading at the time. That one ended up turning into a full on photo shoot with me, my book, and the remote to my camera. lol 5y
GingerAntics @Weaponxgirl so the bit about you getting to tell your story from your own perspective makes sense to me. Once I stopped doing what I thought I was supposed to be doing and started doing me, I liked the results. That was kind of the point of the assignment and what she‘s saying here, too. She even says not to show anyone if you don‘t want to. Eventually you‘ll like one and share it. (edited) 5y
GingerAntics @Weaponxgirl in fact, she tells this great story of one photo from a photo shoot and she jumped in and did this silly thing to lighten the mood at the beginning of the shoot. The resulting photo terrified her and she hated it. She kept it for weeks and eventually got up the courage to show it to her boyfriend who loved it and thought it was hot and saw the quirky woman he loved. Suddenly her opinion of the photo started shifting. 🤷🏼‍♀️ 5y
Weaponxgirl I may give it a try sometime then. They honestly fill me with dread! 5y
GingerAntics @Weaponxgirl same here. I hadn't even thought of that assignment in relation to this until just now. I may have to do a daily selfie and post none of them... just wait until I start liking them. lol 5y
Weaponxgirl I can never even hold the camera right! 5y
GingerAntics @Weaponxgirl I used a tripod for my best ones. They end up looking better that way, but there isn't a tripod for your phone. Having to hold it makes it harder. I think I've officially lost that bookish photo, though. 5y
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Had a really interesting conversation about this in a women‘s history class. The black women (including our awesome prof, Dr. Hill) all talked about how lighter is better. They were shocked when all the white women said, “then how come for white women, darker is better?” Clearly the standards are totally BS. Let‘s all just be ourselves. Let‘s all just see everyone, including ourselves, as beautiful.
#jesbaker #thingsnoonewilltellfatgirls

GingerAntics Still trying to work out why anyone thinks telling a pale ginger chick to “get some sun” is a good thing. You told me I should dye my hair brown, do you realize I‘ll be redder than my hair if I “get some sun”. FFS I‘ve actually been to the ER for “getting some sun.” SCREW THE SUN!!! WE ARE NOT FRIENDS!!! (edited) 5y
GingerAntics It‘s like boobs. If you have small boobs society says they‘re supposed to be bigger. If you have big boobs, society says they‘re supposed to be smaller. WTF?! What is the “right” boob size? Oh yeah, there isn‘t one. Boobs are boobs. Get over them. “They‘re called breasts, Nico. Everyone possesses them.” - Leo, Da Vinci‘s Demons S1 E1 5y
GingerAntics And butts. Same thing for butts. 5y
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CarolynM Preach! 5y
Weaponxgirl Big boobs are only acceptable by some beauty standards if they are on a skinny body and are perky. Otherwise showing your body is considered slightly indecent as it‘s not there for others to “enjoy”. 5y
GingerAntics @Weaponxgirl Or, all the beauty standards are fake, because no one agrees on them, so we should probably just torch them all. It's all a bunch of madness. 5y
Weaponxgirl @GingerAntics oh I agree completely 5y
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That‘s right. You read that correctly: it‘s. a. RIGHT. Suck it body shamers.
#jesbaker #thingsnoonewilltellfstgirls #selflove

SassyBookworm 🙌🏼 preach! A lil louder for the ppl in the back!! 5y
Chrissyreadit 🙌🙌🙌🙌 5y
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🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣
#jesbaker #thingsnoonewilltellfatgirls #idontdokale

Exbrarian But, but I like kale. 5y
GingerAntics @exbrarian then you may have the kale!!! If it makes you happy, eat it. 5y
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GingerAntics
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I‘m so excited to get to read this book now. It was hard to figure out what to read after my last book. I was still mulling that ending over hours later. I‘ve read the intro and first chapter of this book. I wish this book had been available 10 years ago when I broke up with my ex. I feel like I could be friends with Jes Baker in real life. I really hope this book changes my perspective, even a little.
#jesbaker #thingsnoonewillfatgirls #bodylove

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GUYS. As a fat woman, living my best life is hard. I have spent lots of time and effort learning to love the bits of me that society doesn‘t (ie soft tummy, jiggly thighs) and reading #fat #feminist literature like the tagged book has gotten me here. I am SO excited for Jes Baker‘s new #memoir and when they made enamel pins for all the preorders I couldn‘t resist. Can‘t wait for the release date on May 8th and for my signed copy!

saresmoore So awesome! Gosh, I love a good enamel pin. 6y
Emilymdxn Omg gonna preorder this book right now if there‘s an ebook! 6y
alisiakae Cute pin. Beautiful pic!! 6y
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wanderinglynn Love the pin! I need one too! (edited) 6y
Jabberwocky @Emilymdxn There is!! You have to go to themilitantbaker insta gran for the link for the pre prefer swag! 6y
Jabberwocky @saresmoore Me too! I was just gonna but the book used eventually but I couldn‘t deny the pin!! @4thhouseontheleft I‘d love to take the credit but I stole it from the authors Instagram! @wanderinglynn you should check out her Instagram @themilitantbaker 6y
alisiakae Wait, this is by @themilitantbaker? Geez, I‘m horrible with names, but I love her on IG! 6y
Jabberwocky Yeah!! 6y
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OutsmartYourShelf
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Great book if you are struggling with acceptance of your body. It deals with Health at Every Size and body positivity for all.

It DOES NOT say you shouldn‘t go to the gym, dance class, or be healthy. The author argues that replacing thinness with being ‘healthy‘ as the sole arbiter of self-worth is just as bad, not that being fit and healthy is bad. There is a distinct difference.

Rating: 4 🌟 (full review on Amazon UK and Goodreads)

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“We do this terrible thing where we look in the mirror or at pictures and we expect to see a thin model. Unless you are a thin model, THIS WILL NEVER HAPPEN. So stop that sh*t. The second you start looking for you is the second you will start to appreciate what you are.”

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“Contrary to what we have been taught, other people‘s bodies are NOT ours to publicly comment on. Wait. What? I‘ll say it again: Other people‘s bodies are NOT ours to publicly comment on.”

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well.read.panda
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A great dissertation on and introduction to #bodypositivity and #radicalselflove. I listened to the audiobook, which I found enjoyable! #bodypos #selflove #fat #bodypositive

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tif
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I really really enjoyed this book. I realised that I have, in the past, contributed to the wrong kind of thinking about bodies and this is probably because of my own insecurities about my body. This book has some great practical advice for things you can do to combat the self loathing and create more self loving. It's a well researched and written book with the right mix of humour and seriousness.

#booked2018 @Cinfhen @BarbaraTheBibliophage

BarbaraTheBibliophage Nice review and pick for the prompt! 6y
Cinfhen Echoing @BarbaraTheBibliophage if you haven't read Roxane Gay's memoir yet, I think you will find it powerful 6y
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One of the hardest/best things about being a voracious reader with an open mind is that, often, you will read something that challenges your thought patterns, makes you reconsider beliefs you've held your whole life, makes you aware of times you've fucked up without meaning to.

TrishB But at least recognising it! 6y
tif @TrishB Yep! Self awareness is the best/worst! 6y
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tif
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Really enjoying this. Jes is funny and I like the way she writes a lot. Plus she's challenging some thinking I didn't even know I had.

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Finished this audiobook today! Body positivity in action. Because sometimes, you need a witty, smart, fierce narrator to remind you that you're worth loving now.

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Light lunchtime reading. 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

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Love all of the body positive books! Jes is a great narrator!!

ReadingEnvy I follow her in Instagram too 7y
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"But, as we silly women are wont to do, we've continued to liberate ourselves in new ways, years after year (from societal expectations of our beauty). And, so. In response there's an always evolving "beauty myth" that includes a new domination technique to compensate for each of our newfound powers." ? ?

This one is gonna be a doozy kids. Incoming radical body positivity y'all.

#selflove #fat #selfhelp #bookswithapurpose #bodypositivity

well.read.panda Just read this and loved it! 6y
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Warning ⚠️ rant ahead - I love a book about loving yourself and body positivity. This book started off so strong. I'm 25% through and considering not reading any farther. There's some major bashing of the health industry inside this book, and while I believe our culture has a problem with they way they see beauty I am a supporter of healthy lifestyles. I go to the gym at 4 am 5 days a week. It is not bullshit that I am healthier for it. As...

Ashley_Nicoletto Someone who was the fat girl I can say that I am healthier due to exercise. I have less stomach problems, my anxiety and depression is more under control, and my doctors would say I'm healthier. Science is real. I eat the donuts, but I also run the miles. I don't feel this should be shamed either. Basically you do you mama. 7y
LauraBeth I agree @Ashley_Nicoletto - as a former fat girl who lost weight through hard work and discipline - this shouldn't be shamed either. There's a lot to be said for being healthy because you're actually eating healthy and taking care of your body (I'm almost 46 and take zero prescription meds) 😀 7y
Ashley_Nicoletto @LauraBeth 🙌🏼 You go girl! Something to be so proud of. 7y
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Joybishoptx This is a thorny subject. On the one hand, I love body positivity because I do think there are completely unrealistic standards set in our culture. On the other hand, it's not healthy to be obese. I know first hand weight issues are complicated and not just because someone is lazy. But the bottom line is you are not healthy if you are obese. But I do feel weight is the last area where it's more ok for people to be judgmental. 7y
Joybishoptx All that said, I've lost almost 70 pounds in about 8 months. I did it because my labs were awful. Scary awful. And guess what? After 50 pounds it all corrected itself. I'm a better mother, partner, teacher and friend now that I've lost some weight. I'm still losing. But I had to have a serious wake up call to get to that point because I felt so bad about myself. 7y
Joybishoptx And if you make the effort and do the work to get healthy, that should be celebrated. I totally agree. *rant over* 7y
Ashley_Nicoletto @Joybishoptx That's amazing! Congrats! I totally agree that our society has unrealistic body standards. I was very much in the same boat. My doctor started in on me about losing 40 pounds and I rolled my eyes about it for months. Until I did it and discovered he was right. My health problems very much corrected themselves. This should not be shameful or bashed. I'm always happy to celebrate with you! 7y
Joybishoptx @Ashley_Nicoletto thank you! Like you said. It's just science. I researched and found that most of my conditions could be reversed with weight loss. And they were. I'd like to see my children grow up. I did have to cut some people out of my life whose socialization was all about food and who didn't encourage me. But now it's all good! 7y
Joybishoptx I'm sad this book took that turn. I'd thought about reading it 7y
Ashley_Nicoletto @Joybishoptx There are a lot of good concepts in this book, but I just think it may not be for me. 7y
ReadingEnvy I think what Jes is saying though is that obese women are often dismissed in doctors offices, every issue chalked up to obesity. As if their fat renders them invisible. I struggle with the positivity thing as a fat person myself but there is definitely something to extending compassion and acceptance to yourself. If you don't where do you stop? 7y
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When you just want a car wash... and so does the rest of the city.

Forgot my Kindle. 😩 Thank God for the Kindle app.

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TofuandBooks
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Absolutely loved this book! Reminds me I don't have to hate myself because there is no such thing as perfect. I loved seeing a different perspective, one that wasn't just all about judgement for once. This book was so full of positive messages it was a shock to me cause all I ever see online, in magazines or on screen is negative. I will definitely check out her next book. #litsyatoz T

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Thank you, Hoopla for letting me enjoy this fantastic read by one of my favorite bloggers!!

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Listened to the audio version compliments of Phoenix Public Library. I'm now going to buy it in print because it is fantastic. Then I'm going to buy copies for all the women I love that have struggled with self love and body image. So, so, incredibly good. 👍🏽👍🏽

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Picked up my additions to my @24in48 TBR pile, but alas there was no book mark. Oh, and the book it might still be in? That is now in storage waiting its home library to be remodeled. Maybe I'll find it in late 2017. In the meantime, I'm going to be making my own bookmarks and getting creative.

Mayread That's crazy. You should be able to get that puppy outta storage. 8y
Megabooks That's so disappointing. In a way it's good that someone else doesn't have it, though. 8y
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