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A very challenging read. The book opens when a nervous Tarana Burke does not want #metoo to go viral. She had worked so incredibly hard to incorporate it into the Black community where women are statistically abused. She realizes that it is time to increase the range of her community. It covers her abuse and her humility when she fails a young girl's need to share. Every one should read this. Burke even makes a powerful plea for men to stand up.

Butterfinger #Nonfiction2022 I'm unplanned. Was browsing and so glad I chose it. @Riveted_Reader_Melissa 1w
Riveted_Reader_Melissa I‘m glad you found it! I want to add it to the #SheSaid reading list, so it‘s good to hear that it was a good read. 1w
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Sunbathing: A novel | Isobel Beech
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A few weeks after her father‘s suicide, a woman travels to an Italian village where her best friend is about to marry a local. While this is fundamentally a story about grief, it‘s also an ode to friendship & to the solace to be found in a slow pace of life where domestic chores & preparing & eating food take priority. There are some lovely descriptions & interesting takes on social media, politics & the #metoo movement.

Cinfhen Beautiful photo 😍lovely review 1w
CarolynM @Cinfhen Thank you😘 It‘s a good book. 1w
Cathythoughts Yes, lovely review and pic ♥️ 1w
LeahBergen What they ☝️ said! 1w
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“The Swallows is fast-moving, darkly humorous and at times shockingly vicious. The battle of the sexes within its pages couldn‘t be more compelling….Lutz delivers a frantic, morbidly funny story.” —BookPage

“[Lutz] takes no prisoners….She builds her plot cannily and walks a neat line between satire and realism [in a] withering portrayal of how the #MeToo movement plays out in this rarefied setting.” —Publishers Weekly

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First, I want to say how stunning the book cover is. It shows Tarana as what she really is: a queen! Her story is powerful, uplifting, and it made me emotional. I too, am a survivor of sexual assault. I stand in solidarity with every survivor and I can‘t imagine the pain Tarana suffered—especially when white feminism hijacked her work. ‘#metoo‘ did not begin when Hollywood actresses came out against Harvey Weinstein. It began with one Black

JenniferEgnor womxn found her courage and started doing the work for awareness and healing in her own community. Highly recommended! 1mo
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I hated this book. An older professor and his grad student girlfriend go to the Maryland shore for a romantic weekend. Each has a secret agenda. What happens is so drawn out, almost bordering on the comical, at least for me, if I didn‘t know better I would call it satire. It‘s not, so take a hard pass. However, respect to the #MeToo movement

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Such an interesting read in light of all the current rumbles of book banning in our schools. This is such an important read for so many who need to know their experience is not unique. Well written with vulnerability, the author narrates her personal journey behind the #MeToo movement.

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Another great/infuriating chapter #SheSaid

This book always makes me think, and forces me to think about things I‘d usually push aside, push down, downplay and realize just how universal and telling they really are.

And then I post here, and we all usually have our own stories to share…. the just how universal and normalized it is in our society is staggering sometimes.

ImperfectCJ @Riveted_Reader_Melissa I have so far not been able to join in on these reads, so please go ahead and remove me from the list. I'll keep track via the hashtag and jump back in if I can work it into my schedule. :-) 2mo
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IndoorDame This was such an overwhelming chapter to read because like every woman I have 30 years of these stories- most of which I‘ve never shared, and most of which I‘ve convinced myself were “nothing” -plenty of fodder to come flooding back every time she introduced a new topic. 2mo
Julsmarshall @IndoorDame I am feeling that same way. The question of security and who is responsible for our experience of it hit me hard and those passages really resonated: “the sting of knowing that exactly as the world starts expanding for most boys, it begins to shrink for you” and (paraphrased) This isn‘t about safety, otherwise we‘d teach boys who are also subject to risk the same thing. “It‘s about social control”. 2mo
Riveted_Reader_Melissa @Julsmarshall yes. So sad, and yet a harsh truth. 2mo
Riveted_Reader_Melissa @IndoorDame exactly! Individually we have stories, and we tell ourselves they are “nothing” an odd aberration….but when story after story by every women is laid out, it gets a bit harder to just brush off. 2mo
Julsmarshall All of the statistics about rape, harassment, violence and justice are heart wrenching and anger-inducing. “The most dangerous man [statistically] a woman will encounter is the one sitting at her own table.” Oof. And how she finishes the chapter, “if we accept the interpretation of life as we know it, we make it acceptable.” I, for one, am angry and I‘m done making it acceptable. 2mo
Julsmarshall @Riveted_Reader_Melissa and @IndoorDame I feel like sharing our stories helps us all to see how regular they are and, hopefully, will encourage change. These aren‘t unique situations, they happen to nearly all of us. 2mo
staci.reads Yes, another infuriating chapter. Reading this book is very similar to my experience reading Everyday Sexism, by Laura Bates, who she references toward the end of the chapter. I read a little, and then have to put the book aside because I'm so enraged and feel so hopeless to change anything. I have to step away, process, and then come back to read more later. Mostly, I think, because it hits home - and I hate that it hits home. 2mo
staci.reads @IndoorDame Some of these stories bring back memories of experiences that I haven't thought about for decades. And I'm sure the reason I haven't thought about them for decades is because I normalized them at the time. I just considered it part and parcel of being a woman. How sad is that? 2mo
MallenNC Like all of you, this chapter was all too familiar. All women have these stories. The worst of mine were from when I waitressed in college, when the “solution” was to get one of my male coworkers to pretend to be my boyfriend. Men were less willing to harass if they thought we “belonged” to another man. This is why women wear fake wedding rings! It‘s exhausting to have to constantly consider dangers when going about your life. (edited) 2mo
staci.reads "The single most accurate predictor of violent crime is a man's felony domestic violence conviction."The statistics that follow that were so disturbing, but shouldn't have been surprising. 2mo
Riveted_Reader_Melissa @Julsmarshall yes! Like the #MeToo movement…together we can be stronger 2mo
Julsmarshall @Riveted_Reader_Melissa and @IndoorDame I feel like sharing our stories helps us all to see how regular they are and, hopefully, will encourage change. These aren‘t unique situations, they happen to nearly all of us. 2mo
staci.reads @Julsmarshall I underlined that quote as well "it's the sting of knowing that exactly as the world starts expanding for boys, it begins to shrink for you." It hurt to read that, for me and for my daughters. 2mo
Riveted_Reader_Melissa @staci.reads Yes! All of the restraining orders, domestic abuse that gets brushed away by law enforcement, rape kits unprocessed because “women lie a lot/so not urgent”. It‘s so infuriating! How can we see abuse of animals as precursors for violent behavior, but ignore violence against women. If a man kills animals it‘s warning sign for violent behavior, if he abuses women …well, she must have done something to deserve that. 🤦‍♀️🤯and now, 2mo
Riveted_Reader_Melissa ↪️ with mass shootings…I‘m always amazed how many of them have had violence against women issues in the past. As everyone talks about guns, mental health, they seem to never mention harsher punishment of those that abuse women. 2mo
Riveted_Reader_Melissa @staci.reads I know, that hurt because I could see that in my own life…. And the line about not scheduling trips to places you‘ve always wanted to see….I felt that one too. 2mo
vlwelser This chapter aligns with a lot of the other books we have been reading. And I loved the mention of Mona Eltahawy (sp?). An extreme version of this story is that my teenage best friend was murdered by a male that she tried to break up with. So this topic hits me pretty hard. But we need to talk about this stuff. Men who don't behave like this think it's exaggerated. Men who do act like this respond like we're wrong to complain. 2mo
Riveted_Reader_Melissa @vlwelser Yes, I noticed her mention too. And I am so sorry about your friend! The reaction of his men take these discussions make me think of #metoo also, for some denial and anger…but for many it was “really, you too?”, all those stories just broke through in a way individual ones had not. I really should add the book by the women who started that movement to our list…so many books… (edited) 2mo
Julsmarshall Spot on, @vlwelser . And I‘m sorry about your friend. @Riveted_Reader_Melissa I‘ve had the safety aspect affect the places I‘ve wanted to travel too. And I really enjoy solo travel, but that limits where I can go which is infuriating. 2mo
vlwelser @Julsmarshall omg. I forgot about the travel thing. Denmark is supposed to be one of those safe places. That story made me rethink basically everything. 2mo
ravenlee This chapter, like all of them, was infuriating, and concerning for me as the mother of a girl. I need to teach her about safety but also that it‘s all BS. A friend‘s daughter started running for school a few years ago, around 12. Friend sat down with daughter and running friends and said: never run with both earbuds in. Never, ever, leave a girl behind. Never run without someone (multiple someones) knowing where/when. It made her sick but 🤷🏻‍♀️ 2mo
ravenlee I never thought about the self-defense classes and all that other crap as feeding the social control/fear. I always hated it, though - make the boys take the classes on how not to be a rapist! But that would be wrong. We have to teach the girls not to be victims - and then when it happens anyway it must be her fault, because we told her what not to do. Oh, and let‘s not forget “what were you wearing?”. 2mo
Riveted_Reader_Melissa @vlwelser @Julsmarshall Yes, I always wanted to see many things…like for instance, the pyramids…but it just isn‘t a safe place for a woman to travel alone. And reading this reminds me it can happen anywhere, is Denmark or the US really markedly safer? Probably not, because it can happen anywhere…the difference is probably more a combo of prejudice, “it can‘t happen here”, and that if you went alone—well they would definitely say it was her fault 2mo
Riveted_Reader_Melissa @ravenlee The running thing makes me think of Gary Condit - Chandra Levy story, where she disappeared, it came out they had a relationship, he was suspected…and later after another jogger attack, they eventually found her remains. Attacked on her morning run, in a wooded park way in downtown DC and body not found for over year…I visited that park when I lived there, a beautiful natural space in the middle of the city… but police didn‘t find ⤵️ 2mo
Riveted_Reader_Melissa ↪️ her alive or her remains because the story of the affair was much more interesting. It only came out later that the congressman had an airtight alibi from day 1, and other women had been assaulted in the park around the same time and they had that man. That story even gets sadder because they didn‘t search properly (again her sex life was much more exciting) and she probably died tied up in the woods of exposure.🙄. Not to mention the man ⤵️ 2mo
Riveted_Reader_Melissa ↪️ who assaulted other women in the park, was basically deported, but never tried & convicted. The whole thing always stuck with me, I‘m sure like the Gabby Petito will with girls growing up today….that such obvious signs are just overlooked and even after remains are found, basically brushed aside anyway…questioning her decisions & relationships much more interesting then her being missing/murdered. (edited) 2mo
KathyWheeler When we were in grad school, my husband used to walk home from the library late at night and thought nothing of it. I did it once, prayed that I‘d be safe the entire way, and never did it again. 2mo
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Vladimir | Julia May Jonas
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The emphasis of sexuality from the cover art as well as the descriptions of the novel I read led me to think this was going to be focused on the affairs/sex and power in the workplace. However, it was much more inward-looking, as our main character considers aging, recognizes her own vanity, and reflects upon her relationship with her grown daughter. A reversal of #metoo/lolita..I‘m not sure. But I did enjoy this novel.

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The Last Flight | Julie Clark
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“The Last Flight” was a quick and thrilling read, inspired by the #MeToo movement that delivered two well-rounded characters trying to escape their circumstances. Both of the storylines sucked me in, and the airplane crash was an interesting aspect to the story. I only wish that Eva‘s outcome was more clear as the epilogue and other parts of the book are conflicting and is somewhat up for interpretation.