I loved this book but I also didn‘t enjoy it at the same time. The author makes this intentionally uncomfortable and infuriating. It‘s a book that stays with you, that‘s for sure.
Okay, this book is excellent, but not the easiest one to get through because of the matter it talks about. It definitely affected my mood finishing it up for the past week so I tried to keep my reading sessions in smaller bits. Also, I moved to a new place, and I'm still getting used to to everything, and I still haven't unpacked all of my books.😅📚📚📚
It‘s gonna take me a while to articulate how I felt reading this book. Maybe I‘ll never be able to. All I can say is thank you to the author, for putting words to the unspeakable and facing vitriol in the face of her bravery.
And to all my fellow nymphettes: I see you. I love you. You are not alone.
Complex exploration of the abuse of power by a teacher & statutory rape that‘s too intense for me. Prose so vivid that it‘s disquieting. “Trigger warning,” is an overused phrase (feeling sad or angry is not getting triggered y‘all) but the tone & spot-on dialogue between the teacher & the teen are so realistic that survivors might want to skip this one. Narration is too good. A plot twist is coming, but I‘m bowing out. #statutoryrape #sexualabuse
I‘ve been reading A LOT. Lucy is my constant companion, and a very good girl. Finished tagged this morning and I had some feelings! Vanessa had a tears long relationship with her teacher that began when she was 15, now accusations about his behaviour are coming out. I really enjoyed this book and perhaps enjoyed is not the right word but it was a very good book. For me, I thought a lot about how we view victims in the aftermath of these things ⬇️
This was an interesting read. Moments very difficult to listen to. But that I think is the point, difficult conversation and event for someone to go through. To see abuse from the side of the abused with a different mindset. So hard to hear and very sad. The longtime effects of abuse
Thank you @LapReader for this #nywd2022 rec! @monalyisha
Hard to review. This book is clearly incredible, important and beautifully written, but I also can‘t say I ‘enjoyed‘ reading it. I like dark books but… wow. Having said that, the ending which I won‘t spoil was simple and cathartic enough that I‘d say it made it worth it. Now time to go read something very light and frothy with absolutely no important themes.
Incredibly disturbing, but realistic & believable. Reads like a memoir despite being fiction. Insightful & well-written. Highlights sexualization of females & the power of gaslighting in abusive relationships. The fact that this grooming & manipulation undoubtedly occurs for girls this age intensified the cringe factor & impact. Not for the lighthearted, but recommended. Tread lightly & be prepared, both to be disgusted & enlightened.
I was really enthralled by this book. Don't get me wrong, I was horrified by some of the scenes, but I thought it captured perfectly how damaging sexual abuse is, and the contortions Vanessa went through, to help her cope/ rationalise what had happened to her. I really couldn't put it down, and spent most of the day yesterday reading so I could finish it. It's hard to like Vanessa as a character, but I felt an enormous amount of sympathy for her.
When will you let this go?
I remember being questioned similarly and more than a decade later that still haunts me.
Why do we ask anyone that question? If anyone could choose to let something go that they didn't want to carry anymore, as if a bag of groceries, they would. Obviously it's not that simple.
This audio has an 1hr interview with the author but I'm not sure I want to listen. It could make the book better or worse. Should I listen?
This story moves in and out of years, in the beginning it's a very obvious shift but as the story moves it becomes less so (maybe an audio more than visual issue).The author does a good job in showing how survivors can easily slip back into memories. They can overtake. A lot of this book makes me want to jump back to the present moment, where something can happen/change. It feels like you're slowly drowning in the past. And that's perfect really.
Exactly half way. This book is like watching a fatal pile up of cars that is horrifying but you can't turn away from.
Previously I would've loathed 32yo, inert Vanessa but after much of my own work and hearing the stories of so many others, I feel a bit of kinship, mostly sadness, and like I'd like to lend her a strength to move beyond her self blame/hatred, to move her to DO something to help herself, and yes, others.
Just started this morning and already I feel this huge sadness and empathy for a woman-child who is essentially torn in two. You can see one side of her trying to cling to rationalizing while another part fights that. And while she presents her teacher in a rationalizing, sympathetic way, if you "read between the lines" you see how he saw her, how he targeted her, groomed her.
When your bed clothes match the book you just scored from your building‘s book exchange it might be a sign to go to bed early and read it for this round of #LMPBC What do you think @LeeRHarry & @CarolynM ?
Unfortunately, this one didn‘t stand up to #reread. It was my favorite fiction of March 2020, but this time the length and repetition were extremely tedious, and now I‘ve read other books I enjoyed much more. (Tagged below) Bummer.
Also, I really hated the narrator of the #audiobook this time.
I really expected to hate this, not least because it‘s about the abuse of a teenage girl by her teacher, but it was so well written, so impeccably plotted, so painfully believable, that I was just really impressed by it in the end. That being said, my skin was CRAWLING the entire time.
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What an uncomfortable read. I needed a whiskey while finishing it. I‘ve never encountered a novel that so perfectly captures the complex relationship and feelings between an abuser and the target of the abuse. Wow. I do agree with the criticism that it could have been shorter and wandered a bit. But I couldn‘t put it down.
Favourite book of the year so far. The abuse of power is clear to the reader but I loved the way the author portrayed the mixed feelings of Vanessa. It‘s a sad story but a compulsive read. ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️
This book... what an uncomfortable read! The absolute control and power an abuser can have over one they abused for so many years. What did you all think?
The fictional story of Vanessa, groomed by her teacher at 15, and the years-long relationship that follows, this is incredibly disturbing but also gripping. The nuances and complexities of Vanessa‘s story are fascinating. I listened to an interview where the author described how she wanted the reader to experience confusion as to whether Vanessa was ever empowered or in control, which is something you grapple with throughout.
This is a confronting read. I know this is a work of fiction but I found it interesting to take note of the language that predators use to manipulate and coerce their victims. The emotional abuse in this book is truly awful. It‘s well written and well worth reading. I‘d be really interested to hear other people‘s views on this book
Up next, My Dark Vanessa. I'm a bit weary about this one with the love it or hate it reviews. I can not resist giving it a shot though. If you read it, did you love it or hate it?
Dark, uncomfortable read.
Makes you so uncomfortable you are torn between continuing and tearing the book apart. Luckily, I read it on an Ipad knowing all the while I can't afford to break it apart.
But the writing is so real, it keeps you going.
I hope you move on, dear dark Vanessa!
This was ROUGH! Trigger warnings for sexual assualt/abuse, particularly teens abused by someone older.
This book does a great job at looking how power dynamics play into sexual abuse, but man is it ever a tough go. A necessary topic, but it was uncomfortable to the point that I almost quit reading at least 5 times - and I don't shy away from tough subjects. In the end I am glad I continued though. This made me squirm but also think.
Knowing the subject matter of this book I‘ve put off reading it for months as I thought it would be extremely hard going. It was, however I was totally engrossed and couldn‘t put it down. There are so many layers to this book it would be hard to sum up in a short review. I feel emotionally drained after reading it but glad I did, it‘s a must read and I would highly recommend
Sat on the fence about this one for ages.
But I brought for 99p in case I get off the fence on the read side.