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A Woman Is No Man
A Woman Is No Man: A Novel | Etaf Rum
Three generations of Palestinian-American women in contemporary Brooklyn are torn between individual desire and the strict mores of traditional Arab culture in this powerful, heartbreaking and hopeful debut novelan emotionally resonant and culturally relevant story of love, secrets, courage, and duty that speaks to the lives and experiences of all women today, giving voice to the silenced and agency to the oppressed. Where I come from, weve learned to silence ourselves. Weve been taught that silence will save us. Where I come from, we keep these stories to ourselves. To tell them to the outside world is unheard of, dangerous, the ultimate shame. Palestine, 1990. Seventeen-year-old Isra prefers reading books to entertaining the suitors her father has chosen for her. Over the course of a week, the nave and dreamy girl finds herself quickly betrothed and married, and is soon living in Bay Ridge, Brooklyn, in a house thousands of miles from the only place she has ever known. Fearful and uncertain of her strange new husband, Isra struggles with her duties as a traditional wife and the expectations of her oppressive mother-in-law Fareedapressure that intensifies as she begins to have children, four daughters instead of the sons Fareeda tells Isra she must bear. Brooklyn, 2008. Eighteen-year-old Deya, Isras oldest daughter, must meet with potential husbands at her grandmother Fareedas behest, though her only desire is to attend college. Deya cant help but wonder if her options might have been different had her parents survived a fatal car crash that left her and her sisters orphans in their grandparents care and if she was free of Fareedas fierce attempts to protect her granddaughters from a world she has decided is unfit for them. But fate has a will of its own, and soon Deya will find herself on an unexpected path that leads to shocking truths about her familyknowledge that will force her to question everything she thought she knew about her parents, the past, and her own future. Set in an America that may feel removed yet is all too close at hand, A Woman Is No Man is a story of culture and honor, secrets and betrayals, love and violence. It is an intimate glimpse into a controlling and closed cultural world, and a universal tale about family and the ways silence and shame can destroy those we have sworn to protect.
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Book_ish
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This story was such an important one and I am glad that Etaf Rum was able to tell it despite the roadblocks she faced. Here is a link to my full review: https://www.goodreads.com/review/show/2759839092

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youneverarrived
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The story of three generations of Palestinian American women trying to honour their culture and family but struggling with what that entails (no freedom to make their own choices). An interesting, absorbing and at times frustrating read. Opens your eyes to how some cultures still treat women as second to men. I absolutely loved it. Only problem is it was very repetitive at times. ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️ #newyearwhodis #millennialauthor #booked2020 #24in48

monalyisha Oooh, “repetitive” is a pet peeve of mine. I may bump this down on my list, actually. 5d
youneverarrived @monalyisha it‘s still a brilliant read! Just it sometimes felt like the same things were being reiterated. 5d
Cinfhen Great choice for #millennialAuthor 👍🏽I found some of the plot lines a little predictable and the characters a bit one dimensional but I‘d like to see what she writes next 5d
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Megabooks So glad you enjoyed it! The book took me back to conversations with Muslim friends in college, especially since the author lives in North Carolina. I am also excited to see what she writes next. I‘m figuring out that what makes a five star book for me is a personal connection to it. I‘m not sure if that‘s good or bad. 🤔🤔🤔 5d
batsy Lovely review ❤️ 5d
readordierachel Looking forward to this one! 5d
BarbaraBB Great review. I have this on my shelves and have been looking forward to it. 5d
BarbaraTheBibliophage Great review! 4d
youneverarrived @Cinfhen i agree some of it felt a bit cliche and predictable but it didn‘t take away from the book for me. Def looking forward to what she comes out with next. 4d
youneverarrived @Megabooks I know I‘m looking forward to seeing what she comes out with next. I don‘t think it‘s a bad thing. I‘m an emotional reader so for something to be a five star read I have to really connect with it, or it has to make me really see things in a different way. 4d
youneverarrived @batsy thank you 😊 4d
youneverarrived @readordierachel I hope you like it 🤞 4d
youneverarrived @BarbaraBB let me know what you think 👍 4d
andrew61 Looks interesting and hadn't heard about the book so ive just reserved it at the library, thanks. 14h
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Emilymdxn
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Good morning and happy Sunday! This is my one day off this week - tho I am actually going into work anyway for a play lol but just as an audience member. Spending the morning with this wonderful novel from my #newyearwhodis list from @Caterina

ju.ca.no Happy sunday🤗 5d
BarbaraBB This is one I‘ve meant to read too. Looking forward to what you‘ll think. 5d
Scochrane26 This book was a favorite last year, but it‘s not a happy book. 5d
Ms.ReadtoWrite I am so there with you! 5d
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AnansiGirl
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1. TBRs for dayssss

2. Current winter hang out on the couch. Time is usually evenings on work days, from morning to whenever during off days.

3. Tagged book. Not the worst, but I bailed on Black Leopard Red Wolf for a second time until I‘m in the mood to try again.

#WondrousWednesday @Eggs

Eggs Hah love #1!! 1w
AnansiGirl @Eggs now if only books gets read as fast as they‘re collected I‘d accomplish something 😁 1w
Eggs @AnansiGirl There‘s a song 🎶 about that... “to dream the impossible dream” 😂😂 3d
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MissAimz_55
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I would say most of my books I‘m going to read this year will be #newtomeauthors including the tagged book. I‘m going to have quite an #adventure this year with my reading life!
Btw the tagged book is a 4.5⭐️ read! It was amazing! I loved all the new things I learned about a culture I know nothing about even if a lot of it broke my heart. Etaf did a great job with character development and POV/time switches. #auldlangreads #newyearnewyou

OriginalCyn620 👍🏻📚😊 1w
MissAimz_55 @Alwaysbeenaloverofbooks i hope you love it! 1w
Alwaysbeenaloverofbooks @MissAimz_55 I‘m sure I will!! 1w
Eggs Double play!! It is eye-opening to focus on new to you authors 1w
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KatieDid927
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Back from vacation and finally did my #top19in2019 list!

BarbaraBB Great choices! 3w
j9brown Nice list! It's always so hard to pick favorites 😝 2w
j9brown Also I think we only have one book in common, how did that happen? 🤣 2w
KatieDid927 @j9brown Eh, different tastes. Although a few of your books were on my list last year, and a few of your other books I haven‘t read yet haha. I think I‘ll add The Book of Night Women to the top of my Black History Month TBR. 2w
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Aswenson
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Wow. Loved this #BOTM selection! So very frustrating and sad, but so beautiful too.

mrsthilkey Just finished this yesterday! I'm so proud of this author, it was so courageous to publish this. 3w
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MissAimz_55
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#auldlangreads #readinggoals The biggest thing is to just make sure reading is a priority and that it is fun ! Escapism and knowledge is the reason why I read. #goodreadschallemge #popsugar2020 #alwaysfullybookedanner #yearofthebook

MissAimz_55 @Cinfhen I‘ll tag you whenever I post some of the pages inside the planner 3w
Alwaysbeenaloverofbooks Great goals 🎉🎊🎈 3w
OriginalCyn620 Awesome goals! 🤗 3w
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MissAimz_55
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I have been away for a year but I have a lot of resolutions around reading for the year so figured it was a good time to come back!! My reading goals are 75 books, complete Pop Sugar reading challenge, read everyday, and document with reviews and tracking. I‘m using this book themed planner so hopefully it will help! What are your reading goals this year?? #auldlangreads #photochallenge #newyearnewyou #readingresolutions @Alwaysbeenaloverofbooks

tessavi Welcome back! 3w
Cinfhen Welcome back!! Your planner/tracker looks awesome 😎 could you share some inside photos??? 3w
Alwaysbeenaloverofbooks Welcome back 🥳🎊🎉 3w
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Jas16 Welcome back! 3w
MissAimz_55 @Cinfhen yes I‘ll be sharing some throughout the week :) 3w
MissAimz_55 Thanks everyone!!! 3w
robinb Glad you‘re back! I have my GR challenge set at 55 (5 up from last year). I always go low (the previous three years I‘ve read 90+!), but I‘m OK with not feeling too much pressure. I‘m not big on any other challenges. 🤷🏻‍♀️ Love your planner/tracker! 😊 3w
MissAimz_55 @robinb i always set it too high but I hope I exceed it this year! Thanks!! 3w
robinb @MissAimz_55 Good luck! You can do it! 👍😊🍀 3w
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Butterflyamore
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If you are a Book of the Month BFF, what did you choose for your free Book of the Year finalist?

I suppose my choice is clear! I‘ve already read three of the finalists: The Silent Patient, Recursion, and This Tender Land, and while I know some of you will be shocked and dismayed by this statement, I really am not interested in reading Daisy Jones and the Six. 😬 Don‘t unfollow me! Surely, I have some redeeming qualities, right? 😂

BookishMarginalia Read and let read, I say! I hated Trust Exercise and couldn‘t finish it... I chose Tender Land as my freebie, because I already had the others. 3w
Suet624 i didn't like Trust Exercise and Daisy Jones was just okay. 3w
KatieDid927 Same. I already have a copy but I got another one to share. 3w
Kimberlone I chose this one too, since I had already gotten Daisy Jones and Recursion, wasn‘t that interested in Silent Patient, and this one just slightly edged out Tender Land for me 3w
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BookBelle84
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This was my year. So many great and different reads, I hope for many more amazing worlds kn 2020. #readinggoals

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Hollie
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My 2019 favorites, the tagged book being #1. I‘d also add Daisy Jones and the Six, Verity, Notorious RBG, and a few others, but I had to stop somewhere. I finished 85 books this year and I have my first book of the year picked out and my spreadsheet ready to go. Bring on 2020 reading!

thebluestocking Prepping my spreadsheet now!! 💙 3w
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emmaturi
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These are three of the books I bought myself from vouchers for Christmas. As yesterday was my birthday I may have to buy some more! #books

BarbaraBB Congratulations 🎉🎊🎈 4w
squirrelbrain Happy Birthday for yesterday! 🎉📚🎉📚 4w
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marleed Great choices! Happy Birthday! 4w
Cathythoughts Nice picks 👍🏻❤️ 4w
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Aswenson
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This lasted for about 5 minutes on Christmas Day! Struggling to find time to read with no daycare. 🎄📚 #BOTM

Tamra Your cat is my cat‘s long haired twin. 😆 Same face and collar! (edited) 4w
Aswenson @Tamra Ha! Love it! What‘s your cat‘s name? This grump is Seamus... and his long hair is everywhere in our house. 😜 4w
Tamra @Aswenson Cricket - he was part of a litter that the humane society named after insects. 😂 4w
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Tamra @Aswenson I‘d take Seamus‘ hair over our Lab‘s incessant & excessive shedding any day. 😉 (edited) 4w
Aswenson I suppose I can appreciate that his fur clumps together. I know how a lab‘s shedding can be! 😁 4w
MariaT LOVED this book!!! 4w
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stuck.in.the.stacks
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Today on the blog we are so excited to present our end of year awards: Top of the Stacks.

These are the books we've read this year (not limited to 2019 releases) that we can't stop thinking and talking about.

Check out our favorite and tell us about yours in the comments. Oh and stay tuned for our YA/MG picks tomorrow!

https://stuckinthestacks.com/2019/12/27/top-of-the-stacks-end-of-year-awards-adu...

#bookawards #favoritereads2019

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Scochrane26
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1. Done
2. My couch with either the lamp on or by kindle light. Sometimes my cat will snuggle for a few minutes with me.
3. I‘ve had a cold all week and am hoping the fluid in my ear doesn‘t turn into an infection. I haven‘t felt that bad but have been unusually tired & sleepy.
4. Baby Yoda #friyayintro @4thhouseontheleft @howjessreads

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BookBelle84
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This book was frustrating and heartbreaking and beautiful. Telling the story of women in an Arab family from different generations was really well done. Each of the characters I loved even when they drove me crazy. How trapped they feel in different ways and still hopeful and strong. #mustread #highlyrecommend

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Eggbeater
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This book is on sale on kindle right now for $2.99. It has really good reviews on both Litsy and Goodreads. I snatched it up. I thought people might want to know.

Scochrane26 It‘s a good but sad book 2mo
GingerAntics Looks good. I‘ll give it a go! 2mo
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MicheleinPhilly
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SUPER SALE ALERT!

Cathythoughts Hi 👋! I‘m reading State of Wonder , Ann Patchett, is that where your Pickles name comes from 😍😍😍 2mo
MicheleinPhilly @Cathythoughts Hello there! I can‘t take any credit for her name. The shelter we adopted her from named her. I loved it so we kept it. ☺️ 2mo
Cathythoughts That‘s so lovely ! That‘s the way it goes ❤️💔🐶 What a great name. I often think the next pup we get will be called Jasper ... from the Rebecca Movie ... I presume the name is the same in the book. “ Jasper !! Jasper !! Rebecca calls 💔. Pickles takes on so much human feeling in this one ... loving it ! I think your an Ann Patchett fan ... I‘m becoming one fast & furiously 2mo
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Latrelwhite
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👏🏽 oh wow!!! This book was overwhelming. 😢 It was an emotional roller coaster.

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Graciouswarriorprincess
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I visited Etaf‘s #smallbusinesssaturday coffee shop while staying in my tiny house. It is here on the #rockymountmills campus. So cool and she is so nice! #booksandcoffee #bibliophiledream

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Thetipsyreader
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⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️
So good! A bit repetitive at times, but a very moving story. I had very conflicting emotions for these characters. Sometimes loving them, hating them, feeling sympathy for their circumstances. I highly recommend this one!

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DarcysMom
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🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟
#LMPBC #round6 #groupT
@leslieseidel @Shadowfat @arubabookwoman

@leslieseidel The book got mailed out to you today.

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stuck.in.the.stacks
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Welcome to Thursday Tea Time where we get real about hot button issues being discussed in the world of books and reading.

Today: Goodreads Choice Awards

Check out some books from the finalists we think you should pick up and find out what we find problematic about the awards themelves

https://stuckinthestacks.com/2019/11/21/thursday-tea-time-goodreads-choice-award...

#bookbloggerhub #bookblogger #bookblogs #stuckinthestacks #readinglife

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SoManyBooksNotEnoughTime
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"? ???? ?????? ?????'? ???? ??????????. ? ???? ?????? ?? ????."⁣

Oh Isra & Deya & Sarah & so many other women like them around the world today & throughout history. Made to believe they are worthless, a burden, powerless. My heart goes out to these women. Such an amazing, important story. I recommend it to women everywhere & the men that care about them. A great debut & definitely worthy of awards.

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Shadowfat
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It was a little slow going starting this but I really got into it and couldn't put it down. The stories of the women in this book is so tragic, it really makes you think about gender roles and the importance that plays in many cultures. I'm mailing this out today @DarcysMom and I'll start on the last book. @leslieseidel @arubabookwoman #lmpbc

Megabooks Totally agree! 3mo
Shadowfat @DarcysMom I wanted to let you know that I'm still working the last book. If I don't make good progress this week I'm going to have to call it quits and return it to you, I'm having a hard time getting through it 🙁 2mo
DarcysMom @Shadowfat No worries. 2mo
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Shadowfat
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It was a little slow going starting this but I really got into it and couldn't put it down. The stories of the women in this book is so tragic, it really makes you think about gender roles and the importance that plays in many cultures. I'm mailing this out today @DarcysMom and I'll start on the last book. @leslieseidel @arubabookwoman #lmpbc

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WorldsOkayestStepMom
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This fell between pick and so-so for me. It was beautifully written, but at some points the timeline was hard to follow because the story line jumped from between 3 characters' perspectives.

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Come-read-with-me
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My first BOTM box! This is truly exciting!

lele1432 🥳 Hope you enjoy your first picks! 3mo
Come-read-with-me @lele1432 Thanks! 📚 3mo
Twainy Woo HOO! My 1st box was August! I picked The Whisper Man & Lock Every Door. I enjoyed both!! I hope you do too! Happy reading!! 3mo
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Come-read-with-me @Twainy Thanks! 📚📚📚 3mo
rather_be_reading OMG We def have to talk about these picks!! 3mo
rather_be_reading @Twainy those were great picks for ur first month!! 3mo
Come-read-with-me @rather_be_reading can hardly wait to here your thoughts! You are my guru 🙏🏻 3mo
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hermyknee
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Heartbreaking. Etaf Rum tackles the pervasive and generational trauma of domestic abuse and the silence surrounding it. I think this article by Diana Abu-Jaber does a good job discussing the context of the novel (the Israeli occupation of Palestine, strict cultures, and religious misinterpretations). I appreciate the Abu-Jaber‘s thoughts on how the novel might be perceived by a western (American) audience.

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hermyknee She says, “Still, a potential concern for Arab authors writing for an American audience is how to portray Arab patriarchy within a Western milieu of Islamophobic and anti-Arab stereotypes. The book tells us that these men are broken — by the occupation, by hardship, by bigotry — but what readers see, for the most part, is their assault on women.” 4mo
hermyknee Overall, the writing is beautiful—heartbreaking and hard to take at times, but beautiful. I read it in no time at all. I‘d love to have the chance to hear Etaf Rum speak about this novel herself. Each of the voices Rum created experience different pain, but bleed from the same wound. It‘s definitely worth a read. And once you read it, let‘s talk! (edited) 4mo
Chrissyreadit This is one of my BOTM books. 4mo
Megabooks Great review of a fantastic book! 4mo
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hermyknee
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♥️ #readingbuddies

I‘ve been reading and listening to the tagged book on and off all day. I can‘t believe how far into it I am already! It‘s really good so far. I‘m always intrigued by multi-generational stories.

#charliethefox #nicobluehound #dogsoflitsy

JoScho ❤️❤️❤️ 4mo
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hermyknee
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Saturday morning reading while it‘s still dark outside with my sleepy dogs next to me and delicious coffee in my hand is one of my favorite things in the world ♥️

Jari-chan Beautiful reading mark 💕 4mo
hermyknee @Jari-chan thank you! It‘s from ink & wonder designs. I love her woodmarks! 4mo
JoScho Sounds perfect 4mo
ShelfRighteous That bookmark🤩😮❤ 4mo
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pigeonsandcrows
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A debut novel and the author is sometimes painfully earnest and a bit heavy-handed but overall I thought this was extremely well done. It's an exploration of misogyny, intergenerational trauma, and their effects on 3 generations of women who struggle to define themselves in a patriarchal society. While it's got a specific cultural background as its setting, the themes and struggles are universal. Ends on a note of hope despite a lot of tragedy.

Eggs Welcome to Litsy 👋🏻🎈 4mo
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I'm actually a fan of being happy, but still really liked this quote. "If anything, I think it's sadness, or discontent at least, that's at the root of everything beautiful." -A Woman Is No Man, Etaf Rum

Susannah This is a good quote, though I don‘t agree with it. I don‘t think it‘s that easy to be happy. It‘s like talent—you‘ve either got it or you don‘t. If you don‘t, you can train yourself to be skilled at it, but you‘ll never be as good as the people who come by it naturally. 4mo
pigeonsandcrows @Susannah Agreed. I more highlighted it because it was a thought-provoking quote, especially in the context of the book, rather than one I completely endorsed. Deciding to be happy is a commitment, and for me it takes more effort to embrace happiness than be unhappy. However, I also find my discontent more often leads to inaction and hopelessness rather than revolution or the creation of anything awesome. (edited) 4mo
pigeonsandcrows @Susannah In the context of the book, however, one of the characters, who is being pressured to enter a culturally traditional marriage at age 18 and start a family as a means to be “happy“ is questioning her aunt, who ran away from home and rejected the supposed “happiness“ of domestic life to live as a single working woman who is estranged from her family. So this is her response when the niece asks if she's happy with her life. (edited) 4mo
pigeonsandcrows @Susannah I have also been reflecting that maybe part of the reason this quote resonated with me is because I have often felt the need to justify- if only to myself- why sometimes choosing the harder thing that might not immediately be perceived as making me “happier“ has been the better choice. This whole topic is also making me think about our character Samantha from Bunny...but that's a different discussion! 😊 🐇 🐇 4mo
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pigeonsandcrows
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I am in the middle of 3 novels at once and somehow I unintentionally have picked a group of books that all have children that are abandoned by their parents and/or society as protagonists. I think I need to be a bit more intentional in my selection next time to mix it up a bit!

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Megabooks
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All the feels. 😭😭😭 One of my favorites of the year. I don‘t want to share more than that. 5⭐️, easily!

#booked2019 #muslimauthor

📷 www.kayswindowseat.com

Cinfhen Oh wow!!! We are soooo not in sync. This was VERY meh for me. I‘m glad you loved it. 4mo
lele1432 I need to get to this one! I have a feeling I'm going to like it. 4mo
Megabooks @Cinfhen There‘s a personal element to my love of this book, but there is something she captures here that is raw and enduring. Ripped me to shreds. I‘ll be thinking about this for awhile. 4mo
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Megabooks @lele1432 I hope you enjoy it! 4mo
Cinfhen Sometimes a book speaks to someone differently, on an emotional or personal level. I‘m glad you connected with it. 4mo
Scochrane26 I also loved this one, while the rest of my book club didn‘t like it that much. 4mo
Megabooks @Cinfhen 😊 That‘s why I love that a diversity of books are published!! We all can find something to connect with! 4mo
Megabooks @Scochrane26 I‘m sorry they didn‘t like it, but I‘m glad you did. It‘s interesting to see what each of us likes! 4mo
Book_ish Just got this, can‘t wait to read it! 4mo
Megabooks @Book_ish I hope you like it! 4mo
k.reads.5 Definitely a five star read for me too, so powerful! 4mo
Megabooks @k.reads.5 For sure! The is tentatively in my top 10 of the year! 4mo
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Megabooks
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1. My depression is not as severe as yesterday. Thank you for your support! It means the world!
2. I have 2 OOP shirts coming tomorrow!
3. And my BOTM, too!
4. I still have very mixed feelings about Three Women, but I‘m reading it again.
5. I‘m loving AWINM! Fantastic! Halfway through.
6. I‘m enjoying Kate‘s book, but while Born with Teeth endeared her to me, I can‘t say this one is having the same effect.
7. I‘ve been bingeing on MTV‘s True Life

Alwaysbeenaloverofbooks I‘m glad you are feeling better ❤️ We are reading Three Women in January for our #BotmBuddyRead if you would like to join us!! I‘ve already read it too and I‘m still thinking 🤔 about it... 5mo
Emilymdxn I‘m so glad to hear you‘re feeling a little better! Sending supportive vibes always 💖 5mo
AmyG Glad to hear today is better. Wishing you well, always. And @Alwaysbeenaloverofbooks Ahhh...our January book! (edited) 5mo
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Alwaysbeenaloverofbooks @AmyG We are thinking that one for January, February The Chelsea Girls and The Golden Hours for March and then a thriller! What do you think?! (edited) 5mo
Megabooks @Alwaysbeenaloverofbooks It‘s going to be a good one for discussion! We‘ll see if I‘m up for a third read. 😬 Thank you! 💜 5mo
Megabooks @Emilymdxn Thanks a million! 💙 5mo
Megabooks @AmyG Thank you!! 💙 I think it will be a good book for discussion. 5mo
Ruthiella Glad you are doing better!❤️ 5mo
AmyG @Alwaysbeenaloverofbooks sounds great!!! 5mo
Megabooks @Ruthiella Thank you!! ❤️❤️ 5mo
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cariashley
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A quick glass of wine before heading to a family party. This book is good so far, though depressing. #vineyardreads

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Megabooks
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For anyone familiar with depression, you probably know about feeling numb. The past three days I have felt so numb/indifferent/whatever you call it. My psychiatrist had a death in the family, so my appointment got canceled. I‘m just having trouble pulling myself out.

I‘m trying a new book. Other suggestions??

C.Perone Taking a walk 5mo
BookishTrish I think reaching out for ideas is a good first step. 5mo
cobwebmoth I'm sorry. I totally know the feeling you're describing. I hope things improve soon.❤ 5mo
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Redwritinghood I occasionally have those days too. I used to fight it, but now I know that, for me at least, it will pass in a day or two. I often just wind up watching stupid tv shows and pampering myself. 5mo
GypsyKat I‘m sorry. I am familiar with this. Just remember it‘s only temporary. ❤️ Self care! I agree with @C.Perone take a walk. Also listen to music that makes you want to dance, reach out to friends or family and see if you can do anything to help them. Helping others often helps me. 5mo
Eggbeater I relate. I always know when I can't read anymore that It's bad. I default to my comfort books and watch comedians on Netflix. More than that, I have to give myself a break and not beat myself up for feeling bad. Hugs to you. 💓 5mo
valeriegeary Connecting with people can be helpful. Puppies. Funny tv shows. Dance music and walks like @GypsyKat suggests. Acknowledging that this is where your are right now but that it will pass. ❤️❤️❤️❤️ 5mo
Meaw_catlady Oh love . I know this feeling and it is so damn hard . Know that I and so many other littens have your back and love you 🤗 do all the self care things that can help you during this time ! Sending you light and love 💕💕 5mo
Librarybelle I‘m so sorry. I know the feeling. TV watching or going back to a favorite book. Take care! ❤️❤️❤️ 5mo
Weaponxgirl I‘m so sorry you are feeling this way and I know exactly what you mean. Just do what you need to do that‘s healthy for you as what helps is different for all of us. For me one thing that I stop doing is cooking and eating properly, it sounds stupid but even just doing that can be a achievement sometimes so don‘t forget to take care of your physical needs if it makes you feel good about yourself. 5mo
BarbaraBB Wishing you well ❤️🌹 5mo
Come-read-with-me @Megabooks I have been in that place many times before. I‘m so sorry that you‘re hurting - it is such a bleak and overwhelming feeling. Dancing helps me, as does any type of physical activity - although it is hard to find the motivation to do it. Try to find people to be with. Even if you‘re just sitting quietly with them it‘s best not to be alone. You are in my heart - try to be gentle with yourself.💗🌸💗 5mo
CoffeeK8 I‘m so sorry. I‘ve been there, no words of advice but sending you 💕 5mo
Ruthiella Hang in there! Is there someone near you (friend or family) you can reach out to? Please take care! ❤️❤️❤️ 5mo
LeahBergen Sending ❤️❤️!! 5mo
Jas16 Sending love and support. 5mo
Tanisha_A Feel better soon. 5mo
Christine Sending good vibes your way! 💓 5mo
Prairiegirl_reading Know you are not alone. As this thread shows. Think of anything that brings you comfort and do that. I think that‘s different for everyone. Be gentle with yourself. 5mo
Owlizabeth I like to burrow when the blues come to town. Bed, books, Litsy, bad tv, snacks. 5mo
Ddzmini I know it‘s hard (been there done that) but see if a walk in nature will help 🙏 hope you feel better soon 🙂 5mo
DaveGreen7777 I‘m so sorry you‘re going through this! 😔 Unfortunately, depression doesn‘t always have a logical trigger, it can just hit us out of nowhere. I do find listening to music sometimes helps me feel better when my depression is acting up. Hope you feel better soon! ❤️ 5mo
Scochrane26 I was going to comment that reading the tagged book will not help your mood, but then I remembered that I read it during one of the worst weeks of my life and it seemed to fit my mood. When I‘m down, I have to get out of the house, see a friend, go do yoga, interact in some way. Hang in there! 5mo
CouronneDhiver I don‘t have a suggestion off the top of my head, but I wanted to say that I‘m sorry for how you‘re feeling and that I‘m sending lots of love ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️ 5mo
Megabooks I tried walking the dog and talking to my dad. Then I tried reading, watching funny TV, and eating m&m. None of that was cutting it, so I took my emergency klonopin and slept for 2 hours. I had a really pleasant dream, so we‘ll see if that hits a reset like it sometimes does. 🤷🏻‍♀️ Time will tell... @C.Perone @BookishTrish @cobwebmoth @Redwritinghood @GypsyKat @Eggbeater @valeriegeary @Meaw_catlady @Librarybelle @Weaponxgirl @BarbaraBB 👇🏻 5mo
Megabooks 👆🏻👆🏻 @Come-read-with-me @CoffeeK8 @Ruthiella @LeahBergen @Jas16 @Tanisha_A @christine @Prairiegirl_reading @Owlizabeth @Ddzmini @DaveGreen7777 @Scochrane26 @CouronneDhiver see above. Thank you also for the well wishes and especially for sharing your own experiences!! I feel overwhelmed with love and support!! 💜💜💙💙🥰🥰 5mo
Come-read-with-me @Megabooks You are loved and supported. We can all see how engaged and insightful you are. Keep going and if you need to reach out, do it. We‘re all here for you. 5mo
k.reads.5 Sending good vibes! 5mo
C.Perone @Megabooks 🤞 that it does the trick 💕 5mo
xicanti Many, many hugs. I hope the sleep reset helped. 5mo
UwannaPublishme Oh, I‘m so sorry that you‘re struggling. There is a free app called Insight Timer that has many guided mediations that may help. Take good care of yourself. Sending healing hugs. ❤️❤️❤️ 5mo
Megabooks @Come-read-with-me Thank you so much! Your words are a balm on my heart. 🥰🥰😘 5mo
Megabooks @C.Perone So far I‘ve felt about 40% better, which is good! 5mo
Megabooks @k.reads.5 @xicanti Thank you both very much!! ❤️💜💙 5mo
Megabooks @UwannaPublishme Thank you! My psychiatrist has talked to me about Calm, but I haven‘t heard of Insight Timer. I‘ll check it out! ❤️❤️ 5mo
C.Perone @Megabooks Glad to hear that! 😊💕 5mo
Chelsey Not sure if it‘s legal where you are, but a 50:1 or 20:1 CBD tincture is my go to when my regular meds just aren‘t cutting it and my depression‘s got a hold on me. 5mo
Megabooks @Chelsey I‘ve tried the one my pharmacist recommended/carries, but it didn‘t do anything for me. Thanks for the suggestion, though! 5mo
Come-read-with-me @Megabooks Hope you‘re doing better today. Try to focus on something good and know that you are a vibrant member of this community. 5mo
Megabooks @Come-read-with-me I am doing better today. Thanks for checking in!! 💙💙💙 5mo
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GinaKButler
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This month‘s book club pick!

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Hollie
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This one will stay with me for a long time, I have a feeling. It‘s deeply sad, but powerful and moving. It‘s full of the plight of Palestinian American women, but it is also full of bookish moments and the restorative power of reading. I highly recommend it.

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cathysaid
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Book hangover. Slump cured. Can‘t recommend this book highly enough. Three generations of Palestinian American women navigate the intersection of two very different cultures: one represents freedom and the other is little more than servitude, where Arab women are expected to marry and have children, largely separated from the world. But in this family, the women long for more. It‘s a tough read (violence against women) but oh so good. 5 ⭐️

Trashcanman But I'm a womanly man. That's actually mean to women. I'm an inhuman man. I fucked this all up. 5mo
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Hollie
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I ♥️ seeing my favorite book mentioned in my current read.

I‘ve been so busy that I‘m forced to savor this one slowly instead of burning through it like I want. I‘m absolutely loving it, though.

ValerieAndBooks One of my favorites, too!! 5mo
Hollie @ValerieAndBooks you have good taste! 😍 5mo
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cathysaid
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Reading outside while the husband plans a fire pit. Brief respite from the southern heat before it goes back to our normal mid-90s temps. Loving this book, too.

LauraBeth ATL is nice today! I should go do some much needed yard work but I don't wanna. 5mo
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Hollie
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Starting this one with my morning coffee. Gotta love a book that begins with a quote from Audre Lorde.

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mcctrish
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Reading this and binging The Handmaid‘s Tale at the same time has been seriously intense. I loved how this novel flipped between different timelines and voices. I also loved how books were a refuge to all the key female characters

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@Shadowfat I finally got a chance to get away from the hospital for a morning, so #Upstate is on its way to you a bit late, and #AWomanIsNoMan is on its way to you a bit early. I enjoyed both books (very different) and I hope you do too. @DarcysMom @leslieseidel

Butterfinger Still praying for you. If there is anything else I can do, please let me know.
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arubabookwoman @Butterfinger Thank you. His transplant is considered a “success” (it has “taken” and he is cancer-free), but we are still dealing with a number of side effects, some of them fairly serious. Right now he is in the hospital with pneumonia, but seems to have turned the corner and is slowly on the mend. 5mo
Liz_M I hope the good health tend continues! 5mo
Shadowfat Thank you for letting me know, I'll look out for them! I'm glad the surgery went well and I hope his recovery does too. 5mo
Smrloomis Sending some good thoughts for your husband‘s health 💕💕💕 5mo
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Abby2
Woman Is No Man | Etaf Rum
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Gripping and tragic,Islas story is devastating to read. Deyas parts culminates in a much better ending. I was engrossed throughout.

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Lola
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Current read.

la_rose_noire Love the cover! What is it about? 5mo
Lola @la_rose_noire Isn‘t it beautiful? It‘s the story of a Palestinian family who emigrated to the US, settling in Brooklyn, told in alternating voices from three generations of women in the family. 5mo
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