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How to Keep House While Drowning
How to Keep House While Drowning: 31 Days of Compassionate Help | Kc Davis
Why is it so hard for me to stay on top of housework? What's wrong with me?Depression, anxiety, ADHD, parental trauma, chronic illness, postpartum, bereavement, lack of support...Cooking, cleaning, laundry, and sometimes hygiene can become almost impossible during these struggles, yet that's rarely the focus of books about these mental, physical, and social barriers. Until now.How to Keep House While Drowning will introduce you to six life-changing principles that will revolutionize the way you approach home care-without endless to-do lists. Presented in 31 daily thoughts, this compassionate guide will help you begin to get free of the shame and anxiety you feel over home care.How do I know? I'm KC Davis, licensed professional counselor and mother of two. I birthed my second baby in a new city right as the world shut down from COVID-19. Without access to a support network for months on end, I used every tool in my therapy training arsenal and created a self-compassionate way to address my stress, depression, and ever-mounting laundry pile. After sharing this unique approach on social media, I gained hundreds of thousands followers within a few months. I realized the shame over not being able to keep up with housework is universal and that's why I wrote this book. Inside you will learn: - How to shift your perspective of care tasks from moral to functional- How to stop negative self-talk and shame around care tasks- How to give yourself permission to rest, even when things aren't finished- How to motivate yourself to care for your spaceBuy How to Keep House While Drowning now and start feeling better today.
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KendallMorganHall
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Such a good book. Easy read and incredibly helpful

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ShaniaAJ
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I really liked this one, I feel like I could relate to a lot of things in this book and was able to take some ideas from the book to try and apply to my own routine to see if it‘ll work for me.

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ShaniaAJ
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You do not exist to serve your space, your space exists to serve you.

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erindarlyn
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Panpan

Mis-titled and altogether horrifying. I hated it and would never recommend it to anyone else. (Full review on Goodreads.)

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mcctrish
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My Starry Night Lego is finished & I‘ve learned the next art set is available for pre-order tomorrow 🎉I will be up bright and early to try and grab one. This was a great book, I could have used it a few years ago after my mom passed away and the cumulative effect of grief from my dad passing, caring for her and life hit me with a wallop ( + the pandemic). But I guess I did a lot of the things she talks about and I feel on the other side most days

ShelleyBooksie That is beautiful! 1mo
Deblovestoread OMG. 🤩🤩🤩 1mo
Tamra Amazing! 1mo
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Julsmarshall I love it! Question-when complete, is it the sort of thing you can hang on a wall? 1mo
keithmalek I love that! How does it work? Is it like a paint-by-numbers but with Legos? 1mo
mcctrish @ShelleyBooksie I think so too 😊 1mo
mcctrish @Deblovestoread it brings me so much happiness 1mo
mcctrish Thx @Tamra Lego and audio books are the best 1mo
mcctrish @Julsmarshall it can hang on the wall like a real painting or sit on a table/shelf 💙 the Lego people think of everything. I will probably hang it once I figure out where I‘m putting it 1mo
mcctrish @keithmalek it‘s like any other Lego set more than paint by numbers, building up from the ground but with some parts you just stick/click on 1mo
LeahBergen How cool!! 1mo
wanderinglynn So fun! I love legos. 1mo
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Shannon_McKinney
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Enjoyed this book, because who isn‘t drowning? The book encourages you to separate care task from moral obligations.

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Litsi
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Marie Kondo says to clear clutter & improve our life by keeping only things that spark joy. But what if you are amongst those who find it hard to experience joy? This is for the clinically, chronically or temporarily depressed. Davis‘ motto is “good enough leads to a good life”. Do as much laundry as is needed. Those not dirty but not quite clean clothes you threw over the chair back? Leave them there or re- hang them in the closet! EZPZ.

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ThePageantHam
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I highly recommend this to anyone struggling to keep up with all the never ending "care tasks" (Davis' preferred term for chores) in life, especially neurodivergent folks and those living with mental and/or physical health challenges. This book is helpful for reframing a lot of our thinking around care tasks and bringing in more self-compassion, and it also contains concrete tips for how to explore what strategies work best for each reader's life.

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ThePageantHam
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Newly diagnosed with ADHD, seeking book recs that help folks understand and cope with a neurodivergent diagnosis, as well as determine how best we can manage the symptoms and challenges and unlock our unique gifts and passions so we can thrive. Books specific to women diagnosed with ADHD as adults are great, but more general ADHD or neurodivergence content is great too. Thanks in advance! ✨️

Smrloomis I don‘t have recommendations unfortunately but hope you find some good ones! 🤞🏽 3mo
ThePageantHam @Smrloomis thank you! Fortunately I got some solid recs outside of Litsy ✨️ 3mo
Smrloomis @ThePageantHam oh good! Glad to hear it! 3mo
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Smrloomis
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Only 6 people are waiting for this… that actually surprises me. I‘m only a little ways in but appreciate her stance: “No one ever shamed themselves into better mental health.” Very true.

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Librariana
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Today's #bookhaul along with pre-orders for "Our Missing Hearts" - by Celeste Ng and "The World We Make" - by N.K. Jemisin (sequel to "The City We Became")

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?? La compra de libros de hoy junto con dos pedidos anticipados: 《Nuestros Corazones Perdidos》- escrito por Celeste Ng y 《El Mundo que Hacemos》- escrito por N. K. Jemisin (continuación de 《La Ciudad que nos Unió》)

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fredthemoose
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⭐️⭐️⭐️ This one ran hot and cold for me. I appreciated the overall message of it being okay to meet yourself where you are and manage expectations while struggling. But some of her approaches stressed me out, like just leaving clean, unfolded laundry in a pile on the laundry room floor until someone wants to wear it. Some of her ideas suggest resources a lot of people don‘t have, and I wondered what her husband was doing while she was drowning.

WaterVixxen You have to find what works for you. It took me time a bad adjusting too 6mo
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violabrain
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I borrowed this from a friend so I could understand better her frustrations and challenges with cleaning. I thought it was an outstanding book with really good ideas for how to reframe cleaning as care tasks and making your home work for you. Now I need to go buy my own copy!

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ozma.of.oz
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Cleanliness is not morality. And your inherent value is not dependent on the state of your home.

Look, I‘m not saying this book may have poked a very big stick into some deeply ingrained beliefs I need to address. All I‘m saying is, I want to immediately buy a physical copy of this and mark it up to within an inch of its life. 🌕🌕🌕🌕🌗

underground_bks I love this book so much!! 7mo
wanderinglynn Sounds interesting. 7mo
Christine Love and agree with this review! 7mo
StaceGhost I have the audio and the physical book out from the library and I really love it 7mo
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ozma.of.oz
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Taking some time for myself to listen to this book and do my nails!

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JenDR
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Well, I finally did it! I found a self help book that I actually liked. I binged listened to this last night while working on laundry. I had stumbled across the author‘s tick tock account months ago. I appreciated her philosophy. Less focus on Instagram worthy homes and more on it being functional for our lives.

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Blaire
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I appreciated this book‘s approach to making your home functional instead of spotless and rhythms over routines. A cleaning book that actually contemplates busy lives, anxiety, and being overwhelmed. Took away some helpful tips about prioritizing and tidying and the comfort that it‘s ok to give yourself a break.

Cathythoughts Definitely stacking. I need a few tips like that 👍🏻😁 7mo
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ravenlee
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The big messages - care tasks are morally neutral, do what you can to the level you‘re currently able, doing tasks ahead is a gift to future you - are all good. The presentation didn‘t work for me. The language is kind of detached then suddenly there‘s profanity (doesn‘t bother me in general but this was incongruous and unnecessary). And the visual layout, which was optimized for neurodivergent readers, was really hard for me and gave me a 👇🏻

ravenlee headache. Glad I read it overall, more glad it was #borrownotbuy and only took about an hour and a half to read. 8mo
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ravenlee
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I‘m on the fence about this one overall, but there are some bits that are really speaking to me. For some reason this last paragraph made me think of @GingerAntics - especially the footnote: “I promise God does not care how you do your laundry.” No real point, just thought I‘d share.

GingerAntics 😂🤣😂 that does sound like me!!! 8mo
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MatchlessMarie
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Finished this one this morning. Worth the hype in my opinion especially if you are neurodivergent or experience issues with executive functioning. Also it‘s short, sweet, and concise. 👌 #MarvellousMay

Andrew65 Great 👏👏👏 9mo
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MatchlessMarie
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The way this quote snuck up on me 🥹 #MarvellousMay

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ravenlee
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Oh yeah - that was the other library book I requested! In my defense, I thought about requesting about 8-9 books over the course of a day or two, so trying to remember what I had ACTUALLY requested was confusing.

LiteraryinLawrence That happens to me sometimes! 9mo
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Christine
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What a refreshing book about cleaning, self-care, etc., all understood as “care tasks.” Davis‘s philosophies are so in line with many other books/ways of thinking that I appreciate (Laziness Does Not Exist, Health at Every Size, anti-perfectionism, and much more). And the careful inclusion of diverse experiences is so great. How liberating to realize that our (in)ability to do care tasks in any season of our lives is “morally neutral.”

Christine As of this morning I‘ve heard about this on two Book Riot podcasts - glad they are putting it out there for many to discover! 9mo
Nute An interesting title. Definitely curious about it. 8mo
Christine @Nute Yes - it's such a unique perspective that I really appreciated. 8mo
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underground_bks
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Licensed counselor Kc Davis, well known from her popular TikTok account (@)domesticblisters, here demonstrates her trademark self-compassion and strategies for taking care of care tasks like cleaning or cooking when you‘re neurodivergent, depressed, or struggling. I don‘t struggle with care tasks too often but I (and I think everybody!!) could use the strategies, ways of thinking, and self-compassion this kind and functional book promotes!

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TurboPegasus
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Quick read when you are feeling down about managing the to-dos in life when it feels like they are taking over

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